I am new in the forum and the game..also english is my second language sorry for the errors.
Last night i headed to a big club by myself, the thing about me when i can talk to girls it is okay, however in loud envirenments you have to do little talking.. I was so confused and it is a weak part of my game (working in loud environment)
so I go to clubs lately even though I dont like them..
While I was dancing and looking for girls to hit on thinking: "man I should approach without scaring them there are lots of guys and they constantly hit on these girls"..Lost in my mind,dancing near a big group of girls, i noticed a guy. he was so aggressive towards the girls, however the girls responded to him way much better than they responded to me, which shocked me.
The man must have seen that i was lost in my mind as he came to me and said: "man dont you like these girls why are you standing there" he grabbed my hand and drove me toward a girl, initiated touching them hugging them..but it was so out of my reality (going and instantly touching hugging them). I freezed out
Actually i go high5 girls etc in the clubs but it becomes awkward instantly. I always feel the need to go start a conversation and the reactions i get is good.But in some point girls look at me say "well goodbye" and leave.He was way too more aggressive compared to me, and not all the girls put up with that..but the thing is, the man cared very little about a particular girl and seemed to have so much fun. The girls were glad too because he was taking the responsibility off of their shoulders leading and entertaining them.
Now the thing is, i did the same and tried to have fun and i blew it. Because i was just changed my behaviour but I was still in my head. This time I was like: OK ill go there and have fun and move them. Guess what! It didnt work. The trick is as far as this experience is concerned: "not giving a shit but doing whatever you want!"
Every situation is different. For example after leaving the club i met a girl at the station which was way more beautiful than the girls in the group of girls in the club. and i was able to exchange numbers with her. She seemed quiet interested. I was like: what the fuck i was a total loser an hour ago why is this girl interested? Do you know why? I was so shaken by the experience i had in the club i just needed to go home and think. So when the girl asked me a question i was very indifferent, which lead to a good conversation. Although my being out of my head is one reason, the other reason is every situation is unique and different from the previous one. Dont try to come up with perfect answers or moves. just do whatever you want. Although this is said more easily than done. This is my experience.