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| Author: | Jazzington [ Thu May 27, 2010 1:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | 1st Report: Technique practice. |
About me: I've just come out of a long relationship and have alot of unfulfilled sexual need to get out of my system. I believe I am fairly good looking and I can usually keep up my part of a conversation. My weak points are introduction and closing the deal. I very recently realized that there is actually online communities and forums about these things and that suits me fine since I like to read my way out of any obsticle I meet. It makes good sense to me that picking up women shouldn't be any less technical than anything else so I am thrilled to find that there is actually a manual (s) of how to do this. I looked through a couple of posts and read Gunwitch method 1. I was intrigued and today I was eager to get out and try it in real life. I wasn't really going for getting laid tonight, but rather just try to get some practice with some techniques and try to overcome my inhibiting shyness. First I went to an exchange student party. I scanned the room and found no targets. However I met an old friend there and we hang out for a while. I saw a girl in a horrible dress that went all the way down to her ancles and had black and white stripes all over. I wondered if it would be a good neg to tell her that I can guess what her favourite animal is and than say that it must be a Zebra. Than a girl came over to me and asked for a match for her cigarette. She was ok looking but not really my type, but I welcomed the chance to try out some of my new found material. I cracked a few jokes and asked her the usual banal questions. It turned out she was one of those couch surfers and was only in town visiting. She asked her friend (whos couch she is surfing) to come over and I used the opportunity to focus on some simple physical tasks. I felt good about how I elegantly manouvered them to sit down next to me, one on each side. I guess It's pretty basic, but I am absolutely not a natural, I'm out of training and I have a talent for social awkwardness, so I felt rather good about my technique at the moment. I tried to keep the basic things in mind: Keep the conversation going, keep eye contact, look for IOI's. I tried to alternate my attention between the two girls since I was a bit unsure about which one of them my target was and thinking that this perhaps this alternating served the purpose of the cat-string theory; always keeping one of them waiting. I started considering how to take one of the girls hand, and get some physical contact in without being awkward about it. Then something stranged happened. One of the girls -the one I was less physically attracted to but who was socially much more interresting than the other- stole my scene. SHE took MY hand and from there on she completely took over the entire show. Come to think about it she was also to one who initiated the situation by coming over to me. She became more and more aggressive and I swear I could recognize many of her tricks as if she had just been reading the same material as I had. Had I been more attracted to her I might have been thrilled about it. But since she didn't really turn me on and my purpose at this point was simply to get some practice, I felt like it was too easy. More and more I felt like she, or perhaps both of them were picking me up and I didn't like it one bit. The whole purpose of this was that I should get some control over these kinds of situations. So I quickly excused myself and left. I couldn't see how I could leave the two of them at the table and go on to try and pick up someone else in the same bar. I figured that I still had time to give it another go somewhere else. I went to another bar, had a quick look around, trying to keep the 3 second rule in mind. I saw a lone wolf at the bar. I went up to the bar and waited for the bartender. The lone wolf looked at me. I said "hi". She said "hi". I felt proud that I had initiated the contact and said "hi" to a complete stranger and that she smiled back at me, but at the same time her smiled revealed some rather nasty teeth, so I get my beer and got away from the bar before she had the time to say anything else. I looked around but could see no obvious target. (target spotting seems to be a pretty hard discipline, where can I find some good material on this?) There was a billiard room in the back where a group (mostly girls) were playing billiard. I decided to go in, but I completely failed to take any sort of initiative in there and ended up simply standing there like an idiot, looking at the game for way to long running the risk of being seen as a creep. This is the hardest part for me; making contact. So I stood there, probably looking very much like a sexually frustrated chump until, for the second time in less than 3 hours, a girl made contact with me. Perhaps realizing my awkwardness, she smiled at me and asked me if I wanted to have a go at the game, as a guestplayer. As soon as she made this suggestion, I had no problem anymore. I asked about the rules of the game and she explained. She introduced me to her friends and I shook their hands and exchanged a few friendly words. Again, for the second time in one evening I didn't know who my target was. There were four girls, three of whom I felt some attraction towards. They were all quite good looking but there was no clear winner among them. I just talked to the three of them on turn. The billard was a perfect setting, since every few minutes, whoever I was talking to had to go and make a shot. This allowed me to alternate between them and try to find out who was the better target. With hindsight, it seems that I probably let her chose me rather than the other way around, which is a bit annoying. (That is a lesson to be learned). One of the girls seemed very much into me from the beginning and without thinking about it I just started considering her my prime target. This was the best bit of my evening since I now got to try out some of the stuff I'd been reading. I still kept the conversation going with the other two girls who were just as cute. At one point one of them seemed to loose interest while I was talking to her and I felt a need to show myself that I could reverse the situation. I had noticed earlier on that she had some rests of very old nail polish on her fingernails and I took the opportunity to take her hand and comment on it. My first neg! I was thrilled to observe her reaction: Her attention came back instantly and she enthusiastically told me all about how she had lost her nail polish remover, or whatever it is called. I started to move in on my prime target. She was the easy choice since we shared a passion for making music and she clearly liked me. I made her feel good about her music and established authority on the subject. I think that my rapport building was pretty damn good but I knew I needed to make more sensual contact. She had a tattoo on her back, right bellow her neck and I took the opportunity to stroke it and ask her about it. I forgot to look for IOI's but there I am quite sure that there were plenty of them. Unfortunately her friends decided to leave and so did she while insisting that we make friends on facebook, clearly wanting to keep in touch. I made a few feeble attempts to suggest that she should stay, but honestly I had no idea how to do it at the moment. This is probably my weakest point, closing the deal. But I also felt that I had achieved much of my purpose, to try out some of the techiques. Later, off course, I came up a good and rediculously simple solution. I should have just proclaimed to her that "we'll just have a last game, one on one, and I'll walk you home afterwards." I think she would have gone for that, since she had already told me that she lived near by. It would have been nice to have closed this first attempt with at least a kiss and that is a bit dissapointing. But all in all I think it was a decent first try, considering how bad I usually am at this stuff. Apart from the concrete tips that I have gotten on this forum, just the simple idea of considering the whole thing as a game, and myself as a player, makes it much easier. I still need to work on both the opening (initiating contact) and the closing, and probably everything in between. Observations, questions and comments on how I could've handled this differently are very welcome. I'm here to learn. |
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