Hi there,
Ok I just got done talking to this girl, basically getting her to give me reasons why she doesnt want to talk to me anymore.
MODS: I decided to post here, b/c this doesn't exactly fit the description of a 'field report', or lay report.
Brace yourselves everybody, this thread is going to be pitiful (and long) lol
So let me get everyone up to speed
1. Mid September: met a girl outside a nightclub, was real drunk talked to her, got number
2. Started text game, then had the first date like two weeks ago......it went great, we made out, and the next day she started texting me. I couldnt stop thinking about her, thought about her in the lab all the time. On the first date she already told me she is sexual and asked me what my favourite sexual positions are.
3.
Who this girl is: was raped in first year (university), then abstained from men, then all of a sudden she is now 22yo and has 15 sex partners (16 was darkie_jackal). In one of her drawers she has 6 dildos, and 2 vibrators, and every brand of condoms there is. Ie. sexually dysfunctional.
[*] She admits to being 'Screwed Up'.
4. Ok so two days after the first date, and a thousand texts, I went to her place lol. I knew before I got there we were going to have sex, she did put up two very weak ASD/LMRs "dont expect anything" but I knew it was a done deal.
For the sake of brevity, I showed up at her house soooo nervous (was nervous on first date too) , we talked about some garbage then she started kissing me...we had sex (I am quite inexperienced hence the reason for this thread
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I was anxious during the sex and it did feel quite awkward, I never came, and she was actually masterbating near the end...apparently she had to be at work early the next day and kicked me out after a while ("I dont do sleepovers").
Now for some stupidity:
* I texted her right as I was driving away from her house "what you think of my behaviour during the second date?" ----
The next morning I get a text saying, " been doing a lot of thinking ......I dont think we get along so well in the bedroom" "I need time to figure myself out, blah blah blah bullsht" , "I was also offended when you said I felt loose" (yes she was uber loose) she goes away for reading week, yes I text her like three days after I notice her texts are a lot shorter" , I text her again the next day (dont worry just one text) , and I notice all one word replies. yeah I get the message.
Fast forward to last night, she sends me a message on FB messenger "please stop messaging me" , then blocks me.
When I asked her why we cant just be friends, she says "the conversation feels like work" meaning its awkward having a conversation with me, and she says "tbh I dont find you interesting"
I know we only went on two dates, but one of my sticking points (yes I will post to a thread in the appropriate forum) is that I get sooo attached after one date, I start playing out these fantasies of us being a couple. I dont know why, or what I can do to stop this emotional attachment.
WHAT I LEARNED
1. Learn to be detached: you are an accomplished, cool guy who cares about this girl?
2. AFter sex wait at least 24 hours before contacting the girl, preferably wait for her to contact you first
3. Never talk about ex during the date (yeah that was dumb)
4. Learn how to have sex properly
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5. Never ask her "what you think about me/ the sex" look for clues.
6. Dont text a girl every single day.
7. Never call a girl loose, or critizise during sex
8.
I do feel anxious around certain people, and awkward, I need to improve my self esteem and my personality
9.What else should I learn from this? (please add) Where else did I go wrong?
I really feel horrible right now.