so the girl i was with for the past 8 months detailed above, has a daughter with the shitstain, i also have a kid.
so i've decided to not whiteknight, but rather outmaneuvre him.
dramatis personae:
daddy issues - abusive father.
ex - abusive by the same pattern as the father.
mother - enabler.
what's happened thus far is that shitstain has threatened to take her kid legally, if she doesnt get back to him. so naturally, since like most abused women there's bagagge making her believe he has some massive unseen hand to will all his delusions to reality.
naturally, i've kept in touch with her under the guise of caring for her daughter, which i do, but since like with most abusers, they are by their very essence insecure and frightened by "competition".
shitstain has also stated that he's "afraid" of me due to my background and "friends" (oh hi beta, that's where you went).
thus far, he's made a few mistakes.
* tried backtalking me - doesnt work, she instinctively knows she can take my word to the bank.
* tried isolating her from me - doesnt work, since she's a female, telling her she cant, means she will do the opposite.
* has lost his temper - "but i'm a changed man" said all abusers ever.
* got abusive during sex (i had to talk about consent...) and didnt care about her hip issue, which has now caused a hip infection.
things in the pipeline:
* dismissal from national guard due to not submitting history of abuse - there's a police report he didnt file when applying for his position, my former captain passed it up the chain of command.
* weapon licenses are going bye bye - same as above.
* job - turns out he lost the hours he had truckin' "oops"
her frame:
abused - nobody should ever be.
insecure - normal isnt abuse, its playfullness.
thus far:
contact has increased the last two weeks since i nc'd her.
zero fucks are shown towards her.
she wants to talk about us - i keep telling her that there'll be a time and a place for it.
she keeps confiding in me - this is trust building, its good.
she keeps ioi'ng - kino, and bla-di-bla
telling me i'm her mountain - i keep telling her that it's what it is, no guilt, no shame.
last night:
starts messaging via fb.
confides about hip infection and causation.
i start joking around.
tell her that i miss her pornstar bubblebutt.
she sends a pic of it.
i tell her to "back off, i might get the wrong impression
"then we joke around a bit.
she talks about tattoos, asks me about it i reply in kind.
asks what i think she should get.
i tell her that she should get some trash polka butterfly wings covering her ass cheeks.
she starts about needing to squat more.
i tell her that she's making me think about her ass too much.
she pulls some odd joke about why im doing that.
i tell her it's been a while since i last stretched her fuckholes.
she starts sending more pics.
and jokes, and more building attraction things from me.
she talks about our daughters, how she thinks i'm the bestest father figure.
some random comfort shit.
i cut it off and head to bed.
we're set up for more casual "dates" behind shitstains back.
part of the psychology here is making him fuck up, that is in motion.
part of the psychology here is priming her with tidbits about domestic abuse and causation, so that every step he fucks up, is something that kicks off correlation thoughts in her head.
and he's already fucking up, because she's texting me day and night and fucking me behind his back.
safety protocols?
* she has a burner.
* she has instructions to text "911" to me if it in any way shape or form turns into an SPAM of physical violence.
* i'm rebuilding the relations she had with childhood friends before he isolated her from them.. again.
end goal?
isolating him from her and the kid, so that she can deal with the therapy and police and cps. - work in progress.
disclaimer:
i dont need the whiteknight or saviour shit comments.