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Author:  JD London [ Mon Feb 17, 2014 8:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Too much nice guy, not enough caveman
Hey,
So last week I had three dates in a week which I was pleased with consider I just got into single life. Thought I'd share how one of these encounters is developing for some input.

So I knew this girl, lets call her Flower, since university (about 5/6 years ago). We were flirty back at uni, but both in relationships then nothing ever developed. 5 years on and we are both newly single and met up one weekend. She's a great looking girl, HB9. Blonde, slim, deep blue eyes, and great smile.

She lives far away and was visiting a friend later that evening, so I only have the day. I've read about going to multiple locations to make time seem longer, so we visited a few places; a coffee shop, restaurant and bar over the course of 5 hours. The chat was great, and we really clicked - didn't do many routines (aside from the Cube, but just cause I love it) just connected and created random jokes. The more time we spent together the more I like her - bad news: why? I'm sure there are other guys who have this: When I'm relaxed I don't give a shit, I'm flirty and kino is easy (note to self, need to stop this at work), but when I like a girl I'm too careful around her, too much nice guy, not enough caveman....so, when the date came to an end no kiss close. I hugged her and said goodbye, as my mind shouted AFC AFC AFC as I went home.

So I thought fuck, I'm been too nice and won't see her again for a while. But when she text me that night (during her mate's party), and the next day, and the next day, I thought it might not be so bad, she's clearly interested. We've been texting each other for a couple of weeks now, and she is coming back down this weekend to see a mate again, and asked if I wanted to meet up - so I'm thinking I'm getting a lot of IOI's.

What I need is some input about escalating and kiss close. We've been a bit flirty over text, but nothing major. Any input how to increase the sexual tension between the two of us would be great during out day out - or any date ideas that could help would be cool.

I'm all ears guys.

I'll share how the other dates went later this week.
Author:  EnsoNytes [ Sat Feb 22, 2014 3:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Too much nice guy, not enough caveman
You're stuck in a classic paradox my friend. The more you actually like her, the worse your game gets. Why? Because you are intensely tied to the outcome. You feel that the stakes are much higher with this one because she is somehow different.

My suggestion would be to stop and ask yourself:
What actually makes this chick so much better than the rest of the girls I've dated?
How many more girls are there out there who are as good as her?

The answer is there are many. The thing with abundance is it is like trying to see the sun on a cloudy day. You know for a fact the sun is there...you just can't see it. You gotta spin plates on the side so you are more outcome independent. You have to be able to walk at any moment. This freedom of choice is what will set you free.
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