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| Author: | Leo122 [ Wed Jan 29, 2014 4:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Advice for first field report! |
So I’m really new at this and I’ve been single for about a month. I’ve only gone out (to bars/clubs or parties) three times since I’ve been single. The first few times I went up to groups of girls and started conversations using the “female opinion jealous girlfriend opener.” A few times it started brief conversations, once it started a longer one but then my friends came in and I kind of got pushed to the side, and one time I kind of got blown off (I think I went in to timid). I started one conversation totally directly (how’s it going?), that went ok but it got really boring really quickly. A few days ago I had my first little breakthough but I ended up blowing it and not really knowing what to do. I met this girl at a house party. I was standing near her in kind of a crowded room and she asked my friend how old he thought she was, I quickly said “32”! (she was 21 and looked 19). She laughed and said “35” actually. I said “yea I was just trying to flatter you.” Our group left for another party soon after and I didn’t talk to her much for a little while (she was really cute and constantly getting hit on). At the next party I had a little opening and took it. We started talking for a bit, I threw a bunch of negs at her (always with a smile), she was laughing and eating it up. After about 30 minutes she said she was going to find her friends. Right when she was walking away I said “You’re so cute, you look like a little cartoon Britney Spears.” (thanks Style!) She turned around and started laughing. We started talking again and it started to escalte. We talked about a tattoo she has on her side (I have one in the same place). She said she wanted to see mine and I said “I have a rule that I don’t take my shirt off until a girl at least buys me a drink.” A few seconds later she pulled my shirt up to see the tat. I was like “whoa personal boundries, how would you like it if I did that to you?” She was like, “I don’t care, do it!” and lifted her arm so I could pull her shirt up (we’re in a room full of people). I pulled up her shirt and just kind of smiled. At some point she said her ex was a hockey player, I quickly said “are you trying to impress me? I can play that game too, my ex is a state champion track athlete (true).”Then we transitioned the conversation into talking about relationships. It got pretty deep here, she told me about her ex boyfriend (she mentioned like three times that she was single in this time) and I told her about my ex girlfriend. We talked a lot about emotions and I could feel she was starting to really connect with me. There was a lot of long eye contact and a lot of kino. I was sure I could have kissed her or easily got her # but I was playing it slow for some reason. I kind of tried the Style kiss close at one point. I leaned in and told her she smelled good and asked if she was wearing perfume. She laughed and said “no it must have been that girl that just walked by.” Eventually she had to go to the bathroom or something. We separated smoothy and as we did she leaned in and put her hand on my chest and squeezed my arm with her other hand. She said, “I’m going to come find you when I get back.” Sadly she had a few drinks and in the few minutes that we were apart like 20 guys started hitting on her. I just went hungout with my friends for a bit and wasn’t really sure what to do (I didn’t want to seem desperate). I went in eventually when she was talking to some short not so good looking guy. It felt a little weird and after a few minutes I exused myself. Not that long after most of our original group left together, including her. At this point I kind of felt like I was old news, even though I felt such a connection like 40 min prior. She ended up going back to her house on the walk back. I didn’t try to talk to her a whole lot or anything. I’m not sure if that was right but I didn’t want to chase her. So I still feel pretty confused about what I should have done. Kiss her earlier? (almost positive I could have). Isolate more than in the crowded room? Get number earlier? It was crazy how fast things changed, I didn’t anticipate that at all. Any and all advice or comments greatly appreciated! |
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| Author: | textytext [ Wed Jan 29, 2014 11:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Advice for first field report! |
this seems to me like a situation that you have to see up close. but the fact that she did not come back definitely meant that something was wrong. She could have just been drunk and not caring (btw, my personal preference is to not deal with drunk women). She could have just not been interested. To clarify, she could have been interested enough to give you a chance but fell out of interest if the situation didn't give her something exciting. If that was the case, you could have used some more physical escalation. It sounds like after the kino and shirt pulling you let it devolve into just a conversation. Touching and physical contact are way more important than words. So if you stopped that, then you may have went from potentially sexual to just a verbal connection. If that verbal conversation was just about relationships then you may have turned a fun evening for her into a seriously relationship which could have been a no no for her (not all women). I would be curious what a higher level has to say but that's my take based on the limited information you laid out. so in conclusion: yes to isolation. more kino and physical escalation. even go for a kiss she takes you there. |
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