Hey guys, this is half field report/ half sticking point. I need
some hindsight on this. I've added as much detail as I feel is
necessary, so please read on.
******************The Number Close************************
I meet this girl Saturday night at a low-key bar. She's smart, funny
and has a great sense of style. Some verbal sparring goes on. I talk
to her and her friends on and off. Toward the end, her female friend
wispers in my ear that if I asked for her number that I would probably
get it. I mean, talk about a hint to get this girl's number! Apparently
they were talking about me whenever I rolled off to talk to my friends.
Her friend ends up rooting for me. That made me smile. Not like I
wasn't going to go for the number anyway.
Anway, she offers her email and her number. I close.
So, Monday I call, get voicemail, and leave a short and sweet message.
Okay, let's be patient and wait...check. Last night (Tuesday night) as
I'm getting ready to drive out to meet a friend for drinks, I get a
return call. JACKPOT! I let it go to voicemail as I'm not quite able to
talk. So, once I'm back out of my car uptown and walking to meet
my friend a few blocks away, I call and she answers.
Well, now you're thinking, "Arkitekt. This seems pretty by the book.
Let's set up a date". You are right... but I was wrong. I totally choked.
It happens.
*****************The First Phone Call***********************
Well, enough background, here is how the call went, where I think
I did well and where I messed up. I'd like some hindsight to prevent
this from happening again and some foresight to see what my last
step with her may be.
Usually, I will quickly screen a girl over the phone on the first call.
I just want to make sure she's still the smart, funny girl I met the
night before... 5-10 minutes usually does it. I do that, we have a
great little convo. I make her laugh. She makes me laugh. We're
all good.
I tell her that I've got to get off the phone to meet my friend and
ask her what she's getting into this week. Well, she says she's
having minor surgery and will be out for a couple of days, a party
friday and that's about it. Well, that leaves Saturday open for
interpretation. I usually reserve weekends for friends, so even
though I didn't have finite plans for that day, I tell her that I'll
"probably" be busy. I should have been firm and told her I did
have plans.
This is where things get out of hand. For whatever reason, my
stubborn ass doesn't want to schedule into next week, so instead
of finding a day we are both free, I faulter and stumble around
the subject and tell her what I had thought we should do... before
setting the day. I told her I would get in touch with her later
(I can't remember whether I said next week or end of this week).
Then she makes a comment something like this: "Well, It sounds
like you have this planned out", as-if she's calling me out on it.
Then she tells me to E-MAIL her. Ouch, I got demoted to email.
She mentions something about email being her option to texting,
but I doubt that's what it was. We end the call. She wishes me a
good rest of the week.
*************Thoughts?***************
Okay, so this is a sticking point I need ironed out. It seems I
haven't learned from my mistakes, cause I've done this exact
same thing before. I feel pretty good about the short conversation,
but have a hard time ironing out the "date" once any little snags
happen in my plan.
Are there any preventative measures I could have taken to
ensure a date on this call?
As far as what to do next, I'm thinking I should ignore her email,
then call her early next week, tell her I'm going out to do
something and she should join me. If I get a positive response,
I'll move ahead, if not I next her.
Any advice, hindsight or not, would be appreciated.