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Author:  Orcus [ Sun Nov 10, 2013 12:31 pm ]
Post subject:  This one has me beat guys - HELP NEEDED
Met a HB8, chatted briefly, number closed, and we spoke to set a date.. all good so far... She gives IOI's, we even meet spur of the moment and grab a coffee mid week, couple of days before the date... got on great, good IOI's, I teased her, had fun, and we firmed up plans for last night... Spoke a few times on phone,... all good.
Date night comes, she texts me saying she's really nervous as she's not sure how the chemistry is... I punish her for this a little, tease her a bit, but she still really wants the date.
Ok, date arrives, Plan is a drink, dinner, then out for cocktails..... I pick her up, park near the bar, she grabs my hand as we walk... all good.... we grab a drink before dinner, great convo, good IOI's, still teasing her a bit, ran "the cube" and a palm read... all went great... decent kino etc....
Over dinner we chat more, get more deep and meaningful, still hand touching etc, great eye contact etc... after dinner we grab a short cab to the cocktail bar... Cool place, we chat, drink, I carry on chatting, teasing, escalating.... Kiss closed with Styles Phase Shift routine, works a treat and we make out a few times... This is where it all goes to shit.... we move on to the next bar, holding hands as we walk, all good... but in the next place she hits me with "she doesn't think there's much chemistry" she really likes me etc, but she doesn't know..... then she seemed to panic and pretty much go cold... we have our drinks, keep chatting and she gets a cab home.
She texts me when she gets in saying how nice a night she had and saying thanks.... I msg back saying similar and she should give me a call soon, and she calls me straight away.... Basically saying she was sorry and she freaked out a bit... like the same way she did pre-date. And now here we are... I have no idea what she's thinking.

Anyway, my point is 2 fold... 1, how do I get past this "chemistry" issue.... and 2, anyone got a clue what to do with this chick? who I actually really like.

Answers on a postcard!
Author:  tweeby [ Sun Nov 10, 2013 1:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This one has me beat guys - HELP NEEDED
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she doesn't think there's much chemistry
Actually, I would totally smile at something like that... The fact is SHE kissed you.

Best reply to something like that. Shrug your shoulders and just stare back into her eyes and smile.

Or agree with her, then carry on as normal.

'Yeah you're totally right... no chemistry...I shoulda paid more attention in chemistry labs. [SMILE] So bar _____ does great cocktails. Let's check it out?

Ultimately, there is only one bad response. And that is to try and justify yourself. Typically, this is what most guys do and even then after your initial interactions with this girl you still would have a solid chance of making this totally work out.

Overall, there's is nothing to worry about. You're good to go.
Author:  Orcus [ Sun Nov 10, 2013 1:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This one has me beat guys - HELP NEEDED
That's the confusing thing... kino, kiss then have this mad moment and freak out... it was like she panicked and had to get out... dunno if I need to punish her or reassure her.
Its a tough one, I just acted fine with it at the time, but it killed all the escalating id done, and I couldn't really get it going again.... really don't know what to do with it... I don't want to NEXT her at all.... but think It may be a losing battle.
Author:  tweeby [ Sun Nov 10, 2013 3:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This one has me beat guys - HELP NEEDED
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dunno if I need to punish her or reassure her.
Neither.
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Its a tough one,
Nope, this one is quite easy... Easy, easy, easy.
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I don't want to NEXT her at all.... but think It may be a losing battle.
Really? Do you stop when the lights are green? This has nothing to do with the girl and you know it. You're just pissed off because everything didn't go exactly to plan. First thing to admit is you can't have anything go 100% your way. This is ridiculous. Do you think you can control people where everything goes 100% your way? LOL. If you can you must have supernatural powers.

Look there are two times a girl is likely to say 'there is no chemisty.'

1) Is when the guy they're seeing has a serious lack of game. They are more interested in the OTHER guy they are seeing. Or they are totally unattracted to that guy's personality.

The other time is simply an anti-slut defense.

2) They are attracted and things are moving too fast. Another situation might be when you're making out in her bedroom, and she whispers 'I think we should stop, it's going too fast.' What will you do? Throw all your toys out the pram and sulk like a little boy. Or smile take a step back then give her a neck massage five minutes later whilst unhooking her bra?

Look... From what you have written, you've ran a pretty much flawless attempt of game. It's simply your OWN insecurities which are causing this total lack of self assurance.
Author:  Orcus [ Sun Nov 10, 2013 3:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This one has me beat guys - HELP NEEDED
Thanks an, I think you're right.
Will see what she says when she calls me later.

Advice?
Do I just act like it never happened and try and plan the next date?
Or do I tease her about her freaking out and make light of it??

I'm pretty good with LMR in the bedroom etc, always deal with it pretty well, but this is new to me... Think it brought back memories from my Pre-Game years when I got "friendzoned" a lot.

Or maybe i'm just worrying because I like this one....
Author:  tweeby [ Sun Nov 10, 2013 3:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This one has me beat guys - HELP NEEDED
Cool :)

Don't bring it up... As far as you're concerned it never happened.

Oh and have fun... you might want to bring some condoms.
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