Day 26 of challenge (Friday 31st May)
Todays challenge was to use statements instead of questions, to help make conversations interesting and fun, and avoid getting stuck in interview mode. Today when I got to town it was pouring down with rain, this made it a little hard to approach in the mall, everyone was in a rush to get out of the rain. I did do a few approaches in the mall before meeting Dolan and Big D, I tried using only statements, and it was harder than i thought, I kept slipping up and asking questions. It shouldn't be very hard at all, but im so used to phrasing them as questions its a habbit.
Met up with Dolan and Big D had some food, then I approached a girl, tried to talk to her without asking any questions, but I think I did without realising. Im going to attempt to do this challenge again today(Saturday). After this we went to uni bar to chill, there wernt any sets around. I bumped into the General as soon as leaving uni bar, where we headed over to Justins, where we chatted, was still pouring down by rain. It was only untill about 10pm that I actually went out. I'll skip too there.
First venue we went too was Swish, with Todd and Big D, we were opening sets in the pokies area, but there only a few coming through. I got a girls number, however her number was already saved in my phone, and I'd already sent her a message, when I showed her this she didn't want to talk after this, I couldn't remember the first interaction so I don't really remember why. Opened a 2 set, one fatty and a cute blonde, after gauging she was interested, but she needed to goto the toilet, I said id get her number after, in the mean time I spoke to the camera girl and got a photo with her. Ropened the set from before, couldn't number close the blonde, admittedly I should of went for the number before.
After this we went to Maccas on hindley, where the security gaurd hates me hitting on women, so I opened a 2 set right infront of him, I attempted to do the triple spin with them, it failed since one of them was drunk, then a guy came over mumbling how he knew me, I knew it was since he has seen me approaching, so I ignored him. But he didn't leave, so he was just standing there, slowly getting me blown out, so I went for a target quickly, the one that seemed more interested in me Dolan was standing closer too, so I left her for Dolan mistakenly, and talked to the other, got her number. Then we walked up Hindley st, me and dolan opened 2 girls, we were talking for a bit, then I tried to number close one quickly before they walked, but then they ended up staying around for a bit, so I got her number.
Later walking back past maccas, I opened a 2 set alone, Dolan and Big D were watching, I called them hipsters, and said they must of been from Melbourne, this was true for one of them. The security gaurd came out and said, i can make him leave if you want, the girls pretty much told him to go away, he does this alot to me and says he gets their Facebooks after being the "hero", Ive spoken to him before, and its clear to me he cant tell if a girl actually is enjoying the conversation, to him it seems he is always saving them.... Anyway these girls said they had boyfriends, after some signs it was obvious they were telling the truth, however I still number closed the cuter one. Later Dolan and big D left, on the way to my car, I opened yet another set at maccas. This time it was a mixed set, 3 cougers and 2 older guys, they wanted me to come with them to have an awesome night, instead I number closed one of the ladys, she said she had 2 kids trying to scare me off, and I said "that sounds like an adventure".
Just before i got to my car, I opened a 4 set of girls, 2 left pretty much as I got there, my target was trying to tease me, telling me I looked emo, and that its okay to be emotional, I took this to the extreme and said I like to play violin but only on my wrists, didn't really make much sense. Her friend started trying to cock block me, I realised talking to her friend wasn't going to work, so i used the "us mentality" on the target instead, telling her that we were going to go to the torrens for our first date since we were such emos, I got her number while her friend was swearing, and saying rude shit too me, but the target didn't even notice. One mistake I did make in this set was get too pulled into the girls frame, but If I didn't and tried of pulled her into my frame, It would of took more time, and I surely would of got cock blocked.
So today im going to attempt to go the whole day without asking questions, instead using statements, I will most likely slip up, but I do want to break habbits of asking the same questions.
Bradicus out
Day 27 of challenge (Saturday 1st June)
After arriving in town at about 6.30, it was quite dead so I decided to head over to Justins house, I was on the phone to him, where I noticed 2 girls walking past, I gave the phone to the girl I wasn't targeting and said talk to my friend. Then spoke to my target, I tried going the whole time without asking any questions, rephrasing questions as statements, she was from Canada, questions like "where are you going next?", i rephrased like "you have to check out Melbourne", but I wasn't sure how to rephrase "how long are you in Adelaide for?". She was wondering where her and her friend could go get something to eat, I suggested Rundle St, I number closed her despite the fact she was leaving Adelaide tommorrow, I should of pushed for an instant date, however I instead headed over to Justins house.
Out the front of Justins house a girl remembered me doing pushups before approaching her, and thought it was funny, we spoke briefly, she didn't talk to me at the time since she was in a rush, this reinforces the fact in my head blowouts aren't blowouts, you can always re-approach later. Me and Justin hanged out for a bit, then went over to the Elephant to meet the General and some others, we were hanging around for a bit, eventually I approached a 2 set, quickly discovered they were both married, didn't bother me kept talking, started talking to them about pussy farts, and pick up lines. After I approached a girl whom The General approached, went direct, she seemed to love it but said her boyfriend was over but I should still talk to her anyway, however he came over and said "I think you should leave", not wanting any conflict I left. Later I met up with Jesse, we went to Shotz, where I got me and Jesse free entry woo, as soon as we walked in, Jesse opened a girl, then I opened her friend physically. Got like a 1 second kiss, couldn't number close her instead she told me me to write my number on her arm...
Shotz wasn't so good, other than this, so we headed over to Maccas, me and Jesse were sitting down eating, some cute girl walked past surrounded by her black friends, I ran over to her and said "your cute whats your number" and kissed her hand, surprisingly enough she gave it too me, after that me and Jesse headed over to PJs, where I approached a 28 year old looking woman, I was talking to her about adventures we had been on, she started buying me drinks, and said she wouldn't normally do this but she liked our conversation. I couldn't number close her, but rather Facebook closed her, and kissed her in the interaction, I later went to look for Jesse, he was leaving so we said our goodbyes, I then headed back over to Shotz alone, out the front a girl recongised me It was the girl from a earlier field report at uni bar, to whom I did the spin off on, and she was with her friend that was there before who got grumpy with me spinning her too much. I spoke with her, kissed her a little bit where I headed into Shotz where I got 1 number close, but that was all, despite the fact Shotz was going off tonight, It was majorly sets I didn't find attractive so I didn't approach.
I then headed over to meet Dolan and Big D at Swish, on the way I saw a 2 girls eating Maccas in a car, and knocked on the window, told the girl in the passenger seat she was cute, and to close her eyes, I kissed her, and proceeded to get her number, and told her "this was a story to tell the grand children" eventually her driver friend cockblocked me and sped off. I then went of a frenzy and number closed the next 4 sets in the mall on the way to Swish, cant be bothered going into detail about them. At Swish I saw Big D and Dolan in set, with 2 girls on a couch, I went over and lyed over all four of them, Dolan wasn't into his target so I attempted to number close her, didn't get the number, didn't really care, then Dolan told me Chris and (not sure of his name on here) were around the corner, then I saw them in set with the girls from shotz, the girl from the spin off, she noticed me and ran over to hug me, where I picked her up under the butt and span her around like that, kissed her, and organised a date with her on Monday. Then I went over to the pokies to do some pokies game, nothing hardcore, Swish is better on Fridays, even though Saturdays is a much busier night everywhere else. Reopened her again after she called me over and some guy was hitting on her, she didn't seem impressed with him, me Dolan Big D and Deej(thats his name) left to do some game on Hindley st.
We went to Maccas to do some game infront of the security guard, however he wasn't there.... dang, I noticed a 4 set accross the road, whom I opened, I was trying talk the whole time to my target without asking questions, she wasn't responding well to my statements, Dolan and Deej joined in, I got bored, then decided to escalate the conversation, by saying you look like a blowjob analyst, this got us all blown out, hahaha woops, Its okay I copped it. Dolan kept koala hugging me, wrapping his legs around my legs, this was really uncomfortable, thought id mention this SCREW YOU DOLAN. Later Dolan opened a girl walking past, she continued to walk past where he didn't pursue, I decided I would pursue her, I told her to stop for 2 minutes and told her "She would be in love with me by the end of it", she convinced her to stay, however she said I tricked her and it didn't work, I number closed her anyway.
Later we headed back to Swish, where that girl was still there, I made out with her and danced with her for a bit, she remembered what we spoke about before, so she wasn't drunk. Then opened another set sitting down with Dolan, where we got them interested, then ended up blowing it, Dolan randomly just looked at the girl next to him and said hahahahah but no, this blew me out too, so i just started doing it too my target aswell, then they just walked off...
We headed back to Hindley st, by now it was about 4 am, twilight period, I opened a girl crossing the lights, number closed her, she had a boyfriend, but she was so drunk it didn't matter, she then went to cross the lights again, but instead came and walked past us, where Dolan asked her if she wanted a try of a cigarette he had found... Later I noticed the Russian girl walk past, then she walked past again, where I just looked at her and said her name, she did this weird half assed hand wave and walked past. Dolan suggest if I see her again, I throw the cigarette in her face and say "you are done in this town", however she didn't walk past again. Deej, ran across the street, and number closed a Rosemary girl who appeared to be cute, and number closed her, 2nd number close ever for him, good work Deej.
Later Dolan approached a girl with a rose he found on the ground, he could of gotten into Reds for free, but out of loyalty to his friends, he stayed with us. We then headed over to Maccas for some more Maccas game, may I mention Dolan kept poining out sets to me whom where clearly with guys and making out with them and told me to approach... Anyway In maccas I got the final number of the night, from a very tanned girl, whom I opened with "I need at least half of your tan" she rubbed her arm on me to transfer her tan to me, strangely enough this didn't work, after getting her number she gave me her friends number too? So that incase her phone was dead I could contact her friend? weird lol. Anyway after this, we watched a bunch of strippers in maccas go crazy, and then ended up going home.
THE END
Bradicus Out
Day 28 of challenge (Sunday 2nd June)
Today I headed over to the Grand, with Matt C, Dolan, BigDBrah and my sister. First the night was quite stale, since I wasn't approaching, and wasn't feeling it. I knew the only way to fix this was to just approach, my challenge today was to over exaggarate with them or tease them. I told a few girls, the water I was drinking was literally the best cup of water I have ever tasted in my life. One big problem here was it was hard for me too keep the girls in set, since the Grand is so high energy, Id have to push my energy higher, when I wasn't feeling that high energy, so it wouldn't be natural. I managed to stay in set with some girls that weren't so high energy for a while, I sat them down and spoke to them,the target whom had a boyfriend was easy to talk too, her friend was awkward as fuck and single, the conversation was weird, I number closed her anyway. I might try mentioning the fact the conversation is weird when this happens to show some intelligence and relieve it a little when this happens.
Later I went onto the main dance floor, where I opened a really fucking tall girl, with "who are you" she got really close to me and I knew it was on, she was seeing what I was all about, and after a bit of escalation, she said she had a boyfriend, I wasn't sure if this was true, but i suspect it was a shit test or that she didn't like the energy. Later I sat down next to a girl, told her I like her style, but I don't like her shoes, her skirt, her shirt, her necklace, but i like her hair. She thought this was funny, I used a statement instead of a question, and said you look like a hair dresser, which was actually true. I used exaggeration to tell her, that ive never washed my shirt, and when my dad had it before he passed it on to me he never washed it and so on with dads dad etc. She laughed at this aswell, I got a peck on the lips from her, no number or makeout though, she said she had a boyfriend.
When she walked off I moved literally 1 metre down the couch and opened another girl, this girl was a little drunk, but still had a conversation with her, didn't use any exaggeration, she wouldn't of understood, I made out with her and got her number, Later Matt C said I should try to pull her, she was gone by now. Later I saw my sister dancing with a hottie, I went in and said shes my sister, shes not interested, and attempted to pull her away, then she screamed at me, shes my girlfriend go away, this was fucking funny she was trying to lie to me about being a lesbian with my, but little did she know it was my sister. I came in again and moved between them, she had like a mini tantrum. Later I opened this girl when she wasn't with my sister, I span her around like 10 times, then when I let her go she got dizzy and pulled her in, went for a make-out, almost worked, so I did it again and it worked the secound time bahaha. This girl was intense though she was in a too high state to talk, and ended up running off.
I spoke to a girl sitting down, whom was one of the cuties at the club, she went though my phone and posted something on my facebook... I couldn't number close or get anything with this girl, she wouldn't even really talk to me, but would love looking and going through my phone. So i just took it back off her, later I reopened the girl I span before, but she just starting making out with a girl and wouldn't stop, meh, gave up. On the dancefloor I got my sister and starting trapping girls in-between us, this was working really well, girls wernt as threatened when I was doing it with a girl. Might do this more in the future, later outside me Dolan and Big D were opening like retards outside, all holding each other stumbling into girls. We were sober the whole night by the way. After this we had some intense debriefing, then I went home.
Bradicus out
Day 29 of challenge (Monday 3rd June)
Today the challenge was to use the "us mentality" this is useful for making the conversation more interesting, you can do this by taking the conversation and making it about the both of us. So if a girl says shes Russian, rather than saying I like Russia, something like we will have our first romantic date in Moscow. The idea of this is that the conversation will be so focused on us, that she will only focusing on you, and she will stop noticing everything else going on, and will create a impenetrable bubble between you.
First girl I spoke to, said she was an English mutt, where her heritage was spread out over the united kingdom, where I explained this was the case for me too, I tried to use the us mentality by asking considering our diverse background where would be a good place in the UK to go on our first date. She said she was taken, and I asked her if her boyfriend was real or imaginary, she said she had a girlfriend. I continued to talk to her using statements rather than questions, stating what I thought she studied and such.
Next girl I came upto I said to her "I had to come build up the courage to come talk to you, Hi im Brad" she started giggling, and introduce herself, I then went to spin her, and started gigiling more and said "no", but this was in a playful way, she walked off, but i continued to talk and walk to her, she told me she was studying to be a highschool teacher, which is what I am doing aswell, I told her we were going to have our first date at a high school, she laughed and said she had a boyfriend. This girl was really attractive, I continued to talk to her, continuing the playful vibe she was asking me questions. Anyway before I left I attempted to get her number considering how cute she was, didn't get it but owell tried.
Next girl I said she was cute and had to come talk to her, she immediately said thats really nice but I have a boyfriend, and that she appreciated the confidence, I continued talking to her, then she pointed out her mum watching us across the road, where I made a joke about her mum wondering why her boyfriend got so buff. I asked her what her favourite movie, and she had no idea, I told her she needed a favourite movie, and that when she breaks up with her boyfriend we are going to see a zombie movie so she has a favourite movie, me trying to put the "us mentality" into the conversation. She soon walked off with her mum, then Darren bumped into me. We went over to the uni, where literally the next 4 girls had boyfriends.... So many boyfriends.
I sat down next to a girl, and exaggerated my body language by lying over 2 chairs. She said she played Piano, I told her we would join an orchestra for our first date. Kept talking for abit, tried to get her number, where she said her boyfriend wouldn't like that, so many boyfriends! She pointed out her engagement ring, I kept talking to her, tried the us mentality again after she said she like chocolate, failed pretty hard after this, she kept mentioning her boyfriend. About 20 secounds later I saw a cute walk into a store on campus, I walked upto her and teased her about what she was looking at buying, I told her she was cute, and im brad, she said im not single. I said why would your mum call you "not single" does she hate guys that much? I teased her abit, she was giggling, I said she looked like a law student, and she said she was a Dentist, I tried to use the us mentality here again, about her taking her on a date where all we would eat is toothpaste, didn't make any sense, she laughed anyway. Tried to get her number, didn't get it... moved on
I went over and sat next to a girl at the hub, and told her I like how her scarf compliments her shirt, she giggled, she told me she does bio-medicine, I explained how I did Biostatistics since I did a degree in statistics. She made a comment about how she had to do statistics, and how its important for what she does but she doesn't understand it. We spoke about a stats lecturer we both had in first year, she was giggling the whole time we were talking. She said she liked yogurt, and I told her I knew the best yogurt place, and I was taking her there for her first date. After talking to her for a bit longer I attempted to get her number, she giggled and didn't give it too me, I said how-about this give me the first 5 digits now, ill get the rest at the end of the conversation. It was a nice try but it didn't work, despite the fact on how compliant she was acting, I was sure she would give me her number. So I kept talking to her, she started having more and more fun, I used the us mentality again, saying that we could team up and tackle cancer together, ill do the number crunching and stats, and she jumped in and said Ill do the administration and procedural stuff. This interaction went on for ages, I was really enjoying it, I was only able to add her on Facebook however, she didn't cave to give me her number, despite how well I thought it went.
Later in the hub I approached a cute blonde girl, by grabbing a chair and coming and sitting next to her while she was working at a computer. She was a petite Romanian girl, I teased her for having a name from a kids show and looking like the main character. I used the us mentality and told her we would explore siberia together on our first date, after she said she wanted to travel and goto Russia, I spoke some Russian to her and impressed her. Turns out she has been in a relationship for 6 years, another taken girl arghh! Kept talking for a bit, had some conversation about Romanian gymnasts. After Dolan and Big D went to the gym, my friend called me, I put him onto the phone to a random girl, spoke to her, told her she was cute, she was loving it. Got her number walked and talked for a bit, arranged a day 2, finally something a girl without a boyfriend, however with this girl there wasn't as much as a connection with the previous girls, that strangely all had boyfriends!... but she was still alright.
I went back over to the hub opened a girl, misheard her say her name wrong teased her for looking like micki mouse and having the name Mikky. At the start of the conversation she wasn't really into it, but I continued to talk to her, this interaction went on for over 2 hours! I used the us mentality non stop, she had a boyfriend, but i kept using it on her, and she started getting very invested in me. I also used over exaggeration, saying I was playing in a tournament for League of Legends and the winner would get 10 million dollars. The conversation started escalating slowly, more and more, where she would refer back to the stuff I used in the "us mentality" like how we are going to get married, and have our honey moon in Russia, where she played along this was also roleplay aswell. She said when she breaks up with her boyfriend she will have someone to have sex with, she also brang up threesomes. We were talking about rim jobs, bukkakes, etc. For about 30 minutes I was showing her simple pickup videos, I thought this was funny since I was picking her up, at the same time as showing her videos about it. Mid set Deej came in and said hello, I don't think he realised I picked her up since I was showing her simple pickup videos. She was genuinely interested in all of this. She was asking me alot questions about how I have sex etc, was funny since at the start she didn't seem to want to talk, now she was just nonstop talking. We also talked about how guys normally approach her, stuff like can I borrow your pen, or guys just asking her for directions, then starting to act weird. She asked questions like do you think its okay if a girl has sex with other guys when she had a boyfriend, I could tell she was pretty keen. I got her number but now im wondering if its likely to go further, she had a boyfriend, maybe she went along with this just since its never happened before, or maybe I can play this further since she seemed pretty fucking down, what do you guys think?
Bradicus out
FFS. Just wrote a long reply and the computer dropped it.
Bradicus,
A few days ago Matt C gave you some feedback that you are behaving in a reaction seeking way and that it is damaging your game. I told you that whilst I agreed with him, I also acknowledge that it is a very human failing, and that I see it in myself at times. Who doesn't want a good reaction from the effort they exert? I like it for example when I do a seminar and people tell me it was good. I do not like a lack of positive feedback. However, I do think there is far too much reaction seeking in your game. Your field reports read like you are bragging about outlandish behaviour and the reaction it brought, rather than reporting genuine efforts to observe your behaviour and dial it in to improve your game.
I think bizarrely you would benefit from a little more approach anxiety, In that each interaction seems to come too cheaply to you. It is therefore as if you do not value it, or the learning experience it offers. It would pay for you to reflect more and then act on those observations to fine tune what you are doing. I can see your reaction seeking behaviour is damaging your outcomes, and also damages the game of other guys around you!
So to get this clear, I need to be more unreactive to what a girl is saying, like if a girl guesses my age correctly saying something like "wow you guessed my age, omg we should be friends" would be being reactive to her, and stems from being insecure. Another example if a girl says a really shitty joke, a reactive thing to do would be to laugh just to get validation, but being unreactive you wouldn't pretend it was funny and not laugh. Or when a girl starts laughing, you start laughing with her being reactive to what she is doing. I feel like being unreactive is not being who the person who you are talking wants you to be, but just being you. I was wondering if it really seems like this, like if a girl rejects me do I react to this and start losing my cool and becoming over apologetic and start acting weird. Normally a reactive thing to do after getting rejected is to question it and be like whyy, come on give it too me. This is weird since I thought I had this down really well, to me when a girl says something like no, or rejects me I feel "unphased" by it, maybe im wrong, in which case I really need to fix this, since being super reactive is a really bad habbit, and shows neediness.
Also you said I don't value my interactions, wouldn't this make me less reaction seeking, seeing as I don't care about what is happening? By the way this isn't the case I feel, all of my focus goes on the interactions that were overwhelmingly good (2-5%) of them, and I focus on what I did right in these interactions and continue to build on that. Is that a bad strategy?
Yesterday maybe the field report seemed to be reaction seeking, as I was testing the "us mentality" and was looking for reactions to see how well it was working, I was a little worried it was not going to pull it off at the start of the day, but after a few interactions this stopped, and I feel like I was being less reactive.
On secound thought I think I know what you mean, that im too spontaneous and sporadic and that should just chill out a bit more and think about some things. And that what I do is just too be entertaining, most of my time its actually self amusment, and helps me get into god mode (beast mode), literally if I dropped the self amusement It would take me alot longer to get that momentum, perhaps there is another way, you might mistake my self amusement for reaction seeking, some of the time I am actually seeking a reaction, and some of it is self amusement, another reason when Ive been doing these challenges from Simple 30 I am unsure about how to do them, I look at the reactions I am getting to see how well I am applying the ideas from the challenge. I am also applying ideas from the challenge forcefully to get the challenge done, like using over exagration and us mentality randomly, seemingly without reason, but the reason is that i must first fail to succeed. This somtimes may look and feel reaction seeking, but in some cases im doing that on purpose to get used to that concept, by constantly reapplying it, so that when I do have a chance to use it in a good situation I wont forget.
Bradicus
Day 30 of challenge (Tuesday 4th June)
First of all since im doing the Simple 30 day challenge and am only upto day 18 today, I will go upto day 42 in my original challenge.
Okay so today I organised a date today with a girl at 11, where I slept in, but after texting her after I woke up, she said I could meet her near her house at 2, I went over, didn't get much of a chance to physically escalate, she was one of those girls that doesn't like being touched. I actually tried to friendzone myself as a challenge here, since I have trouble in the comfort building part, and friendzoning myself will take away alot of the fakeness that I might introduce to skip this step think. We got along quite well she said I should come to church with her sometime, suggesting that she would like to see me again. She did suggest she would of invited me over, however her mum was sick, and she would of felt bad about it. I might actually start trying to friendzone myself with girls, it will help me become less outcome dependent, aswell as become more real and be less reaction seeking naturally. Let me know if this is a stupid idea guys, obviously I wont do this on all girls, just a small amount of them where I wouldn't mind taking that risk of getting friendzoned, and see where it gets me.
So today's challenge was too crush the fear of rejection from getting a girls number, by opening girls by asking for their number. This is bound to fail nonstop if you do it half assed, so doing it in a dominant commanding way is going to help, but still opening with with asking for their number is bound to get you rejected alot, no matter how well you do it, so it will help take away the fear of getting rejected when asking for a girls number. Currently I dont feel like this is a problem for me, so I will be doing the super challenge to challenge myself. Super Challenge do this untill you get 3 numbers, no matter how long it takes. I decided i would do the super challenge, and focus on making the tonality confident/dominant and commanding.
Okay so im listening to a recording today, I will try to sound less egotistical due to what people have been saying, I first went over to a 3 set and approached the girl whom was holding flowers and said "are they for me?", she sounded quite shocked and said "oh my gosh!" then giggled, then I said "Im going to have to get your number", I wasnt expecting this to work, since I literally went over and said that straight away giving her no reason to say yes, however she replied with "yes I would love too" I actually didn't even notice she said this, presumably since I was over focusing on being unreactive to what she was going to say. and kept talking to her, I introduced myself then said "you all look like triplets" then she said "this ones my girlfriend, and shes my sister, well thats awkward", then I said "well im going to need your girlfriends permission then", then her "girlfriend" giggled and said "well you can get it brad", I then walked off, listening to this now, I realise she was more interested than I thought, and it was most likely a shit test. In hindsight after she said she would love to take my number I should of taken it, instead of trying persuade her to give it too me after she agreed, which actually ended being counter productive where she changed her mind.
Next girl I approached was on the phone, I went over to her and said "I had to stop you I love your style", I was unphased that she was on the phone, she put her phone down and said "Ill call you back later", knowing I had to ask for her number in the opener I said "I literally have to get your number" where she said "no" I knew this was because I showed little or no investment in her, and she didn't feel like I had earned it yet, but thats the challenge, she just walked off after I said that. Next girl I opened I said "Hi im brad" she introduced herself, then I said "put your number in my phone" she said "no", then she just walked off, asking for the number really early blew me out, but its about the proccess so I was okay knowing it was all for the learning proccess. Next I opened a 2 set with "Okay so im going to need your number and your number", then one replied with "what?", where i said "ill need both of your numbers", they looked confused, so I introduced myself, told them they were cute, then asked for their numbers again, one of them said "maybe not", then I started talking to them properly, asking them questions, then asked for their numbers again and said "persistence is key", they giggled, I got the girls number whom seemed to be more receptive, but was by no means 100% sold. I talked to them for a bit longer after I got her number, it is generally a bad idea to leave straight after you get the number as it leaves them with the feeling thats all you wanted.
I got a bunch of blowouts in a row after this, opening with trying to get the number, then I got a girls number instantly after just saying "im gonna need your number" she laughed and gave it too me, and asked if this was a dare, where I told her my intentions, eg I liked her look, and it wasn't a dare. Later I headed over to the hub, where I sat next to 2 girls, I focused on one girl, where I told her I had to come sit down next to her, then just asked for her number, she giggled and said "no", then spoke to her for a bit, quite early here I used the us mentality really badly where she looked kind of scared haha, and said "Id rather give you my Facebook". I said take a chance and gave her my phone, where her friend said "put the phone down", she was holding my phone for a while I was talking to her friend attempting to win her over after she didn't seem keen, the girl said "I don't really want to put my number in" then I took my phone back, and said something like "well it was worth a try", I knew even if I got her number it wouldn't go anywhere, so there wasn't any point in persisting.
I was approaching girls sitting down, and asking for their number straight away, this wasn't getting me anywhere, since the girls were sitting down, this would work much better for a girl whom was in a rush, or walking past, since it would seem congruent and spontaneous! I sat down next to another girl whom was just about to leave, she actually looked familiar, so I asked her "did we goto different highschools together" where she giggled and said probably, then I said " we should exchange numbers" she replied with "I have a boyfriend" I kept talking like what she said had no effect on me, then she said "did you hear what I said?" this is an example of me being too unreactive to what a girl was saying. I then told her that she was going to introduce me to her friends, where she said "im going to go now, it was nice meeting you Brad" the old nice to meet you! I had attracted the attention of a near by guy, here signaled me to come over to him, where he asked if I knew her, I explained I didn't, and he like yeah bro thats the way too go bro. He seemed pretty chill spoke to him for a bit, and explained to him what I was doing today, and that girls sitting down studying would reject me more often than girls in a rush when I opened with asking for their number, I then saw a girl walking past, and said "Im probably more likely to get her number, since shes walking past and it seems more genuine to get her number in a rush".
I wasn't about to tell him all this and not demonstrate it, so I approached her and said "Hi your adorable, I have to get your number" she said "are you serious", and i said " yeah". She said am I on film, then I said yeah "theres a camera over there, my friends are filming a documentary of my life, since today is my last day before I become a buddist monk", this was exaggeration to the max, I said it in a serious tone of voice aswell so that the only indication that I was lying, was how bizzar what I was saying actually was! She giggled, and said "wow thats such an overwhelming approach, but it worked, you can have my number", I spoke to her for a bit longer, where I used the us mentality again, she giggled, she shortly left explaining that she had to go to work. So that was the third number, challenge completed! wooo took about 90 minutes, I must say I was unsure I would even get any opening with getting the number, but it worked. After this I didnt approach anymore people, I rewarded myself to get to go home and watch Chris's seminar.
Bradicus out!
Day 31 of challenge (Wednesday 5th June)
So today's challenge was related to uptalk, uptalk is when you raise your tonality of your voice on certain words, one of the worst things you can when using speech is use uptalk, usually uptalk is used because you are nervous or unsure about something you are saying. Where as downtalk is the opposite, and makes you seem more confident/commanding. Today the challenge was to use uptalk on 2 women you talk too, then use down talk on 3.
I went into town with one of my female friends, told her about what I had to do, opened 2 girls used uptalk the whole time, they were kind on more confused, and the intent wasn't getting through, it was like they were hanging around since the felt sorry for me, was pretty damn weird. After that when I was in HJs with my friend, we saw a girl running past, and got into a car, she looked cute from the distance, she was in the car with her mum, I signaled them to open the window and started immediately using uptalk, this was really weird, the girl did look kind of young, she said she was twelve, then her mum drove off. Youngest girls I have approached have been 16, and I just leave when this happens, but this time it was like holy shit!
After this we headed over to the Austral where we had a few drinks, I opened a 3 set, presumably where I was using downtalk but I wasn't recording it so its hard for me to say how well I did it, especially with the alcohol. The conversation was going well, then when I decided to pick my target I could not decide, and said something dumb which caused them to walk off. Then I noticed one of Jesses friends that was at the Grace Emily with a group of guys, I was like meh fuck it ill approach her, went pretty sour pretty fast. Later we went to Sugar, today im gonna be really lazy and skim over alot of it. One girl I noticed was really tall, hot sluttly looking, my friend said she was the bitchiest out of the group though. I walked upto her with a straw in my mouth poked it into her face, amittedly this was reaction seeking, she took the straw out of my mouth with hers, then I pulled her in, she seemed distracted by one of her friends, and sensing this could lead to me being blown out, I told her ill come back and talk to her later, but when I did speak to her later, she just ignored me.
One girl that just walked into the club, I just went upto her and told her "I was going for her", before I knew it we kissed, and she dissapeared, bam don't even know if I got her number (bad memory), I went upto a girl on the dance floor and took her beanie, then i went and sat down, she came chasing after me, I spoke to her for a bit, was pretty meh she got pulled away by guys, there were like 5x more guys at Sugar then girls. Later me and Matt C, saw 2 girls at the bar, grinding on each other. Just by looking at them It was clear this would be a difficult set, they were also surrounded by guys. First attempt we got blown out, next when I saw Matt C reapproach them, I went up, and one of the girls just came upto me said I was really hot and kissed me, and told me she wanted to take me home, her friend immediately pulled her away, where she fell over onto the ground. Then they dissapeared...
I dont remember getting many numbers like I remember getting 2, but after I left Sugar I had 6 phone numbers of girls in my call history, this confused me, how the hell did I get these numbers without remembering... Anyway there are more interesting sets I want to talk about, but today I don't have the time to write more! After we did leave my friend whom was a girl, was telling me about how she noticed that girls she saw me talk too either hated me or loved me, there was no middle ground, but she noted that this was really good thing. She also is trying to stop me from talking to random girls, since her friend likes me and I like her, but doesn't want her friend around me if I don't settle down, I am not opposed to the idea of settling down, but I have to be sure about what im settling down for first...
Bradicus out
Day 32 of challenge (Thursday 6th June)
Todays challenge was to approach 5 women, replicating the body language of a celebrity or someone that holds themselves well. Super challenge approach 2 girls using obnoxious body language, and 3 using good body language. At the start of the night I was very aware of my body language, but after I spoke to girls I forgot about it, and didn't properly do the challenge, and for that reason, I think I shall do it tomorrow in combination with tomorrows challenge, as Ill be in town long enough to do both.
Met with the guys at the Highway, I was getting alot of feedback, I need to really start trying to chill out, I think I have actually been doing this alot lately, however when I feel its okay to take things quite far I will quite quickly. So first set Deej opened, he had all their attention, they were into the conversation, he was the one that opened, so joined into the conversation, I made sure to not take over, however he left quite quickly, he could of tried to isolate a target, I came in later and spoke to them, they both had boyfriends anyway, but I stayed around for a chat. Where Deej joined in, later I opened a 2 set where Deej was meant to come in 20 secounds after I opened, however he came in literally as soon as I walked up. Made it hard for me to keep their attention, anyhow they both had boyfriends, but one of them took my number and said they didn't expect to get hit on, I did let them know of my intent. They were 34 yr old cougers.... So far I was acting quite chilled out compared to how I would normally.
Later when me and Deej where on the way to PJs, I opened a 2 set whom were on their way to Apple, I went direct with the cuter girl showing her my intent, and invited them to come to PJs, at this stage she seemed quite interested and willing to come to PJs with me, Deej ran in with alot of energy, I think he was unsure whom I was targeting, and got their attention, it made it hard for me to isolate my target after this, she was complaining about her feet hurting so I picked her and up carried her for a bit, admittedly I did this for reaction seeking, knowing that I wanted her attention on me and not to Deej. Anyway I got her number, and when we got to PJs, her attention wasnt fully on me, so I just ditched them, opened a few sets in PJs, I didn't have the energy to match the girls here, and they would soon get bored of the conversation... I was literally being as chilled out as possible due to me going overboard alot. Later I realised I had 6 missed calls again from the girl earlier, and I answered her call, she wanted me to come to apple, but I told her to come to the duke, to where she agreed. I assumed she would not be there for a while so I went to HJs for a bit and gamed it up there.
I saw a girl walking past Hjs where I ran out opened her directly, went well, I did comment on how it might seem rather spontaneous that I ran out of HJs to talk to her, I arranged a date with her, then before she left I went for the peck on each cheek then a peck on the lips, she pulled away on the peck on the lips, understandably since I had just met her, but I was feeling rather cheeky. The girl from before was texting me that she was at the Duke, and asked where I was, where I said at HJs, she sounded a little mad, that I had invited her there, and hadnt turned up myself. Later when we got there, she was with 2 guys, and I had tried to talk to her but she ignored me... owell... Outside the duke I saw a group of girls, 1 whom was fond of me before I made-out with her best friend, and her best friend whom gave me the finger when she saw me, despite the fact she was down for it at the time, and continued to talk to me after, but presumably after she told her friend, and her friend was quite upset she did that in loyalty to her friend.
Later I opened a girl on the dancefloor outside, she said I had spoken to her 4 times before, she didn't seem bothered by this, most girls whom I had approached so many times, wouldn't be down to talk, especially when I didn't remember their name for the 4th time. I do understand this doesn't look good for me, but its rather difficult to remember 1000s of girls names you approach. Anyway I still managed to number close her and have a real conversation with her, despite whatever I did the last 4 times I cant remember, this does show girls are quite forgiving, well the good ones anyway.
I felt like there wasn't much left at the Duke, I left with Chris, then came back in for one final look, where I saw 2 girls I hadn't seen earlier sitting down taking photos, I sat down next to them, quite indirectly, and said something like Im joining in on these photos, where I noticed the girl I was sitting next to was giving me some interest, where I showed her my intent, told her why I actually sat down eg that she was cute. I had my arm around her, and she had hers around me, at which point her friend said im gonna go get some drinks, this is a cue the friend will give to her friend that if she is uncomfortable she can have a way out. She stayed and let her friend walk off, which let me isolate her, and escalate, On my first attempt to kiss her she hesitated, I was unphased continued to talk, then went for it a again, after I felt like she trusted me more, this time It worked, I was making out with her quite alot after this. I talked to her about where she was from etc, it was obvious the logistics were quite bad, and I wasn't able to make the pull tonight, where I organised a date with her next Saturday. To lower the chance of her flaking by her saying she was drunk or something (which she didn't seem). I told her she had to prove that she wasn't drunk, and would remember our plans, by standing up and walking back and forth while doing a dance, she was compliant, she was invested enough to do this, and it was quite cheeky and funny aswell. She was biting on my neck later, when the girl whom was upset with me at the duke, walk past with her friend, they both saw what was happening, but had pretended like they didn't see anything, I was quite pleased she saw this, I assume this is the reaction seeking side of me, but hey im not perfect...
Later me Deej and the General went over to the woolshed, where literaly everyone was drunk, we wernt comfortable staying there for very long, so I dropped the General off, while having a great conversation with him, and more useful feedback that I always am open to hear.
Bradicus out
Day 33 of challenge (Friday 7th June)
Alright todays challenge was to approach 5 women start a conversation with them and ask for their opinion on something and casually disagree with them. Super challenge approach 5 women and disagree with everything they say.
First of all, as I walking into the mall, I noticed alot of women I would approach but I was just letting them walk by, this was partially due to me being worried about me approaching so many girls, and them remembering me plus hadn't build up any momentum yet... I only approached untill I met up with the General and others, whom were busy, and I was quite bored sitting around. I first approached a girl in the food court, I went upto to her and said "random question", then waited for her to stop and face me, then said "your cute, I had to come talk to you", I know this isnt a question but I find it funny saying I have to ask you a question then using a statement. I introduced myself etc, I am listening to the conversation now, I sounded quite bored in this interaction, she sounded like she was having more fun than me, even though I showed intent at the start, It really didn't show in the way I was speaking. I was using a few statements in place of questions, I was disagreeing with her, but I still kind of interviewed her, I was making some witty remarks to her, but with a dead tonality, she would still giggle, but In hindsight I should of been having more fun. This lead her to leave, and I know from listening I could of taken this further if I was having fun.
Next girl I approached, was with her mum and sister, I opened with "girl wearing the pants", then said "wheres a good place to eat", then I said "just kidding I thought you were cute", the interaction went on, I noticed I didn't disagree with her on anything here, I number closed this girl, despite the fact she had a boyfriend. I opened another girl with her mum, however I started indirect, asking for their opinion, then disagreed, asked where they were from, made another disagreement on that. Had an interesting chat with them, daughter had a boyfriend, but still was an interesting conversation.
The next set was sitting down, and I lied down next to her on a couch, I continuing yesterdays challenge here by using obsecure body language, since I didn't do the previous challenge completely. Im going to have to skim a bit here, I number closed 2 more girls in the food court, did the challenge on some, didn't do it so well on others. I spoke to a lady eating lunch whom was on her break for 40 minutes, she gave me some advice about not going direct, that I should act "cool" and take my time. While this is true for alot of cases, I know Its great to go in direct In many cases, I took her advice onboard, The General joined in on the conversation for a bit. Another girl I approached said she was weird-ed out, but continued to stay there talking, I would say it was probably due to the I was calibrating the way I was talking.
Later I met up with Deej, I wanted to do some mall game, but he really wanted to do some food court game, I get more of a high out of stopping girls in a rush, where he likes talking to girls sitting down. We did both, in the food court, I approached a really cute girl walking past, I went in quite direct, and held her hand, she said she had a boyfriend and was in a rush, but despite this she seemed quite interested, as she walked off I got her attention again, and asked for her number, she touched me on the shoulder, and said I was cute, then started touching me more while getting closer, she looked genuinely interested, but I couldn't number close her, due to the fact she had a boyfriend. Me and Deej sat down and spoke to two girls, we wernt really interested, but I was chatting anyway, Deej gave me signs he wanted to leave, so I number closed one and we left.
Later I bumped into a lad from the frat, whom I do enjoy the company of, we went and did some hub game, but ended up awkwardly staring at people, like from the youtube channel LAHWF, we caught alot of attention, so we left and headed off to rundle st. After spending some time at the Elephant and PJs, and number closing a few girls, I further realised, how bad my dancefloor game was, and how its holding me back in night game, admittedly im better at this whilst drunk, I need to fix this problem. On the way out of Pjs, I opened a couger very directly and phsyically, whom was a really attractive one, Im not a fan of cougers, but damn, I used the us mentality on her, made out with her, got her number. Im gonna have to speed up this field report, this is taking too long.
We later went to Swish, I girl noticed me whom flaked on me earlier, I kissed her briefly, then left, On the dance floor on Swish I kisssed a girl whom, Deej later kissed, it was strange, since Deej was telling me about it, then I re-aproached her after not knowing that was the girl he was talking about, then he spoke to her, and she realised we were friends, this was a little awkward, Chris tried to get us all into a foursome... I got a few more kisses on the cheek at this venue, Facebooks and numbers. After me and Deej left, we hit up a few more places, but town was really dead by now and we really didn't get anywhere.
Three really big things I need to work on
1. Have fun in interactions, and most importantly express it to the girl that im having fun!
2. Work on my dancefloor game.
3. Start calling girls, at the moment I never do this, and the thought of it makes me uncomfortable!
Bradicus out
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and Facebook and add her. Normally adding someone on Facebook doesn't go anywhere, but we chatted for a couple for months, I after a bit we organised to meet up. However she mentioned that we were just meeting "as friends" and I shouldn't get any ideas, to which I remember my brother whom talked about game a bit, to always tease the girl about stuff like this, so I replied to her with "ease up turbo im not that easy".
. Anyway Deej noticed a girl with her boyfriend, and he thought it would be funny, if I try to kiss her, im not chicked so I did it, Deej distracted the guy. While I danced with her, I tried to kiss her however it didnt work!!!