FRs for weekend of 24/3 and 25/3
Ive been thinking more about the divide between “shooting blanks” and instant-dating--working on way fewer sets for a longer time to get a better chance of a close with more instant establishment of comfort. People I’ve met and different gurus advocate different methods which are easily categorized into the above dichotomy. I think different people have different styles and personally I still do not have a fixed style--I’m still experimenting with degrees of varying success. I wish there were a shortcut but I feel as though what I need right now is to go through numerous dates, go for k-closes as quickly as I can, escalate and of course keep approaching. Does anyone have any other specific tips for things to do that I’m missing out on?
I went out for cold approaches Friday night, Saturday, Saturday night and Sunday. Didn’t arrange any dates because I wanted to properly record videos of closes. I LOST MY DAMN DIGITAL CAMERA AND ended up with a series of poorly recorded videos and audio recordings from my phone. Argh -.-
My recollection of the entire weekend is blended sporadically together so i’ll just mention some of the more notable sets/that I remember.
Friday night—none of the numerous sets i opened outside the club were hooking so i went to the club to run some game. I brought a wingwoman along but she kept disappearing randomly so I was alone in the club for the major part. Opened all the sets I potentially would’ve wanted, and did a little bit of merging forward and backward. What is interesting is that I try to figure potential logistics immediately during the period of small talk—this has good and bad consequences. I’m better able to sense where I can go with this individual or set (tourists or part of a larger group or living in a hostel or working here or meeting friends or in a dancing mood or lost friends or friends occupied by other people) at that point in time. HOWEVER, i think it might come off as too strong/snl seeking to the girls im opening. This is what i do both for day and night game; its part of my calibration. I don’t think i’ll change that aspect of myself for now but we’ll see how that goes. Got a few # closes in the club discreetly because I saw one of the girls I’m kinda set on hooking up with in the club and I didn’t want her to see my business. Afterward when I wanted her for a makeout session she disappeared so -.- By that time the place was becoming a sausage-fest so i decided to peace.
Saturday—went to town to open some sets and get # closes. Got blown off by a couple of sets and hooked onto a tourist hb9! Instant dated her for like 3 hours with multiple location shifts. I used to read so much about bouncing locations to generate the feel of comfort and the illusion of having spent more time with the chick. BUT, I don’t think thats enough, a time bridge is still the most important to build comfort—I think girls count the amount of meetups as opposed to the amount of locations/total time spent like how PUAs do (ex-7 hour rule which i don’t believe in). So, the set was giving me mixed signals—she didn’t respond to my kino escalation in any way (which i’ve come to take as positive from 60yoc) but she did also barely maintained eye contact with me (NOTE: i later realized this was because of a dude she was kind of with and trying to work things out with). I went for a kclose and got rejected, but DIDNT TRY AGAIN!!! ßmistake game-wise. I just didn’t feel the vibe going on at all zz. After thinking about this 3 days later i’m still not very sure what I could have done. Maybe this was a nowhere set that I sort of forced because she was so damn pretty. I don’t know how I could have created a better vibe. I mean, we went on a hour + long walk in a beautiful garden and it was drizzling so we were sharing an umbrella. I didn’t go for handholding though. Yes—I should have made more overt kino moves. I eventually left her to meet some friends and gave her my fb, she hasn’t sent an invite, and i did run into her again on Sunday night on the way home. ON SUNDAY when I accidentally ran into her the vibe was completely different, she was colder and explicitly said “i’m taken”. I think it was really a nowhere set but if i were really good with my frame and game I think I could’ve given her a fantasy fun and exciting experience. I did try to frame her on Saturday but I SHOULD HAVE DONE MORE REFRAMING AND SEXUALIZATION.
I have to work on my instant sexualization lol regardless of those “we just met” objections. OH, ASIDE: after some reflection, I think i’m still quite affected by some shit tests and objections, like my mood is affected even if i don’t consciously respond/consider the negative reactions from girls. It just affects my game and frame to a certain extent. I have to consciously work on inhibiting the effect of these negative feedbacks and not let it affect me AT ALL. On the other hand, I’m becoming more and more natural—i’m doing positive things which can be further analyzed like !@#$! And most of the sets I open are definitely receptive at first (because of the confidence, body language and peacocking I think).
I also tried audio and video recording my approaches with an awful video-taking pua friend on 23/3 and 25/3. The audio sound recordings are great but they cant be combined with the videos because he took like a few minutes and stopped ALL THE TIME. Infuriates me to no end that I have pretty good audio but no video -.- I will be going to check out some video recorders later so hopefully i get one soon and can start getting good videos.
Saturday night notable sets—there was a 2 set with a hb8 28 yo chick whom I opened and was receptive, but after some conversation i decided to open other sets and then come back for this one. THIS WAS A HUGE MISTAKE—I later saw her grinding some other guy and eventually left the club with her friend, the guy, and another guy—POTENTIAL GODDAMN F CLOSE lol which I kinda passed up on because i wanted to hit on numerous sets. I did end up with 7 8 ish numbers which was in tune with my aim for that night—to get girls numbers for a potential club-promoter job. The bar/club I was with also kinda shut down really early (2am, so I decided to go home—I didn’t want to pay $$ to get into another club)
Sunday—opened and #closed two tourist models (one was a hb10.5 and goddamn she was receptive to me—i was the one who ended the convo and left because i wanted to go the beach, was supposed to meet them at a bar that night but wasn’t able to contact her/she flaked). went to a local beach for the first time in my life, it was kinda empty. Got one nice # close from a hb9.5 but she hasn’t responded to my text. There was also a dance off competition at the beach so there were tons of dudes. I think beaches are very good and chill for pickup, its like nightgame MINUS the drunk guys who are so freaking capable of instant kino escalation -.- I’ve got a nice body so i saw girls checking me out more than a few times. But throughout the entire afternoon I only saw one chick i liked and that i # closed. THIS IS THE PROBLEM WITH LIKING THE MINORITY RACE—sometimes there just aren’t enough of them around to open at all—Its something I have come to accept even though I hate it—its all about the practice. When i can finally move to a predominantly white country, i’m going to be a monster lol hb 10s EVERYWHERE.
ALL IN ALLà a weekend of extensive gaming and approaching, but ZERO, like ZERO success. Thinking about it doesn’t make me too happy, but i’m just moving on and focussing on the process, not the outcome.
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