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SEMIDIRECT STYLE with a HB, but failing through text
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Author:  THEelegance [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 2:06 am ]
Post subject:  SEMIDIRECT STYLE with a HB, but failing through text
INTRO: Im from Spain, and I have been in the US for 4 months (sorry for the spelling errors)

Friday 30 november: I was at a bar with a friend relaxing (not in PUAwannabe mode), and I saw a girl that I really like, but she was with a guy. I saw her looking towards me sometimes but nothing special.

Saturday 1 december: I went back to the same bar, and after approaching some I saw that girl sitting down with 2 girlfriends. 10 min later I saw her ordering some drinks while talking to a guy. Once she gets the drinks, she passes infront of me, with one drink in each hand.

SEDUCTION PHASE:
Me (I grabbed her arm), she looked at me and smiled.
Me: Hey, wait a second, let me grap one of this drinks, so we are more confortable.
.....So I grabbed her drink gently....
She: Do you want it?
Me: No I’m fine. (and with a half smile) The reason why I’m stopping you is because I saw you yesterday... you saw me.. so now I want to know you better… What’s your name?
She: XXX. Yes I saw you also on Halloween, sitting in the same table as you were yesterday
.....At this point there were a lot of people, so I put my hand around her waist and told her to move (physical dominance)....
Me: So yes, and actually I was with the same friend, do you remember how I was dressed?
She: Was it a doctor? (actually I was the character of American psycho).
….. So from here on, kino escalation, hand on the arm, acceptance, hand on the hip and moving it around....
She: So you have an accent, where are you from?
Me: I let you guess that one
She: mmm…. Spanish…
Me: Wooow!! You got it, come here and give me a hug for this one (so we gave us a hug). Where would be your favourite place to visit (creating positive emotional connection)
… (after 5 min of conversation)…
She: So I still remember you from Halloween because I thought you were attractive.
Me: I like that, what type of guys do you like?
She: I like tall, dark hair, tan, blue eyes better… (she pointed at me and start laughing, because she was basically describing me)
She: I don’t want to say to many good things but blablabla
Me: Hey girl, you are making me blush, touch my face (I grabbed her hand and put it on my cheek, did that because she didn’t kino back, so I wanted her to be confortable touching me).
She: So why didn’t I see you talking to girls all those days I have been out
(I didn’t understand if she said did or didn’t, because I was talking to 3 different groups, although I started of the night just chilling). So after she repeated her question I thought it was a shit test so I replied:
Me: Well, I do talk to girls, but not in the way you mean because I’m very selective…
She: Well you better be bc blablabla…
….. (15 min later ) ….
Me: Hey, lets get back to your friends otherwise these drinks will get warm (and I started to move)
She: Do you want my number?
Me: (I looked at her and put a :S) your number? No...
Then I hugged her and told her later when we get to the table.
When we arrived at the table, I saw her friends, so I thought that a good way of getting their acceptance was doing the following.
Me: (while putting down one of the drinks for the girls) Hi there…. I’m the new waiter, your friend XXX just hired me.

So everybody started laughing, we exchanged names and I did like a quick 1 min talk to make sure I made a good impression. My target was still standing next to me (instead of sitting down) so I basically, continue talking with her.
…
Me: So do you know how to use this phone? (and while doing this I put my two fingers on her forehead like measuring it, and while moving my fingers so she can see it, I make the distance smaller (like telling her she hardly has a brain)). So basically im joking around a little bit.
…. (2min)…
Me: Ok I got to go to find my friends
She: If you want to come back later and sit with us you’re welcome.
Me: Ok, maybe… (and here I made a mistake by saying) BTW, I’m bad a texting (its true but I never say It, there is no benefit for me saying this)
….
Me: In Spain we give two kisses before leaving
She was hesitating
Me: I know you can do it, it’s on the cheek. (so we just kissed on the cheek).

OK: So until here I would qualify it as a semidirect approach (in a moreless confident way I would say), easy handling conversation, with maybe one shit test, a lot of kino from my behalf, some jokes about her, physical dominance, creating some emotional bond, and she was interested.
I always look into her eyes, kino touching from arm, ending in the hips (as fast as they let me) and looking to her lips after a certain amound of time. So attraction was created.
OH and I don't drink alcohol. (maybe one rum with coke with friends before going out, but alwayss completly sober)
Author:  THEelegance [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 2:10 am ]
Post subject:  Re: SEMIDIRECT STYLE with a HB, but failing through text
NOW THE TEXTING WHERE I WOULD LIKE HELP: Please make sure you to critize me, and explain me whats going on at the end. All texts in here are exactly written as they are.

SUNDAY
Me(3pm) : XXXX! I’m the Spanish special waiter ;). It was really nice meeting you. YYY(my name)
She(4:09pm): Hey you! It was wonderful meeting you!
Me(6:52pm): It was wonderful but there was something wrong..
She(7:03pm): What was wrong?
Me(7:15pm): I couldn’t hear your voice well enough, but I know how to solve that.. ;)
She(7:29pm): Haha and how is that? 
Me(8:55pm): The best swirls in one of my favorite places... You’ll love it!
She(9pm): What place would that be?
Me(9:05pm): The Mont.. But only one bc we want to be fit for finals
She(9:07pm): They do have wonderful Swirls! I love their blueberry margaritas as well! Haha of course! Mr. Responsible!
Me(9:16pm): I never tried those.. Well, we want to stay focused senorita XD! Atleast this next 2 weeks. I can meet Wednesday or Thursday between 6-8.
She(9:52pm): Haha! I was just giving you a hard time! I should be able to do one of those days, Ill just have to wait and see how much progress I make on my research proposal.
Me(10:26pm): Haha! I like it when people give me hard time, bc I do it and they never do it back.. What is you proposal about?
She(10:35pm): Well you have met your match. I’ll give you a run for your money! My proposal is about blabla.

MONDAY
After sending a friend request on facebook.
ME(5pm): Pff… you think you can compete against me?hah!we will check that out. BTw, who is that tall,tan,blue eyed guy that just added you on facebook?
SHE(5:51pm): I’m very comptetitive so you better watch it! And Tom Welling added me on Facebook? Geez I’m a lucky girl!
ME(10:22pm): You will lose every competition we have.. What are you good at? We should bet something with some game (not money)

TUESDAY
SHE: Hahah right! I’m good at a lot of things!

WEDNESDAY (TODAY)
ME(10am): Remember when I met you, I grabbed your drink, you asked me:”do you want it?”. Were you going to give it to me? xDD!
SHE(10:21am): Yeah, I was being nice by offering you a drink
ME(10:27am): Do u always do that? XD!
SHE(10:41) I’m usually nice to everyone but I was being sweet to you.
ME(2:21pm) I like this special treat! I have heard amazing stories about girls that walk in (BAR NAME) with two drinks..
SHE(2:23pm): I didn’t have two drinks when I walked in? I walked in with my friends and then went up to the bar to get two waters, that were for my two friends.
ME(2:38pm): Oh, I thought you were offering me a gin tonic! XD! Anyway, same amazing stories with water, ill explain them to you later at 7om at the mont ;).
SHE(2:43) Haha uh huh! And I am still working on my research proposal. I agree with your statement about only having one drink because of finals , but this research proposal is me last final and then I’m done.
ME(2:44) For when do you need to finish it?
SHE(2:46) It’s due in a week, so I have time to finish it but one drink for this girl is a lot !Plus, I don’t know you intentions haha
ME(3pm) Intentions? Hah! Don’t worry, people call me “saint”. I got the solution,we just share one, or we can have something without alcohol..
SHE(3:12): So basically you just want another American friend?
ME(3:16pm): That guy you where with Friday is your boyfriend?XD! That’s the only reason I was hesitating talking to you.
SHE(3:19pm): The guy I was Friday was a guy I am talking to yes. You were not the only one. I saw the first night on Halloween. And then I even told him I thought you were attractive. Friday night, I wanted my friend to come up to (THE BAR NAME), so you two could meet. I had been talking about you since Halloween because I had never seen you here before
OK, I KNOW THIS LAST longassTEXT DOESN’T MAKE TO MUCH SENSE IN SOME OF THE LINES…. I was like :S.
ME(3:28): Ok, so this is the case: you want to see me, I want to see you, (just to “chill” and get to know you). So where is the problem? Why did you want him to meet me?
SHE(3:31 pm another 500pag text): I was just asking your intentions because girls have to do that nowadays. You know how guys are and lot of the time, they are just trying to hook up with girls. I’m not saying that’s your intention at all, but I’m just that type of girl. I have morals and self respect. That’s the only reason I asked.
Me(3:39): I just want to see what’s up and get to know you better. Maybe we will be some awesome friends. I think its to complicated to discuss it through text. So why did you want him to meet me? Why didn’t you come to say hi then on Friday?
SHE(3:42 another poem): No, I never had intentions of you two meeting. I just thought you were attractive, and by nature, I checked you out. On Friday, I almost came up to you multiple times, but each time I decided not to because I didn’t know what I would say to you. Trust me, I thought about it. I’m sure you could tell because I constantly was looking over there.
(SHE HAD APROACH ANXIETY LMAO) So I tried to call her 30min later. She didn’t answer so I texted her.
ME(4:26): I tried to call bc text is to slow. XXX, let’s just check us out again today bc u want it and I want it. By 7 at starkys?
ME(4:29) And we can talk about all this if u want xD! Now I’m curious.. I have a meeting from 5 to 6 at s.campus so Ill not be able to answer.
SHE(4:39) I’m sorry! I was in the shower. I can’t tonight but let me know of another time and we will try again.

And I didn’t reply anymore, I don’t know what to say. I don’t want to sound angry, but I don’t want it to happen again. And I really want her in my bed. This girl is sooo hot (otherwise I wouldn’t post) Any critique on my texts in general?

And the most important part, how should I proceed?
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