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Author:  slippery14 [ Fri Jun 22, 2012 8:27 am ]
Post subject:  Frustrated, not sure what to do
Me, decently attractive late 30s. New to Game, doing OK with it, working on the Inner Game a lot. Comfortable with women, wit, good at flirting.

Her, late 20's, married bi-sexual woman, she is married to another woman. We have worked together for a few months, we are quite friendly with each other.

We are on a business trip. We havent talked about sex very much before but today there was some sex talk, she mentioned how she misses cock and how shes had threesomes with guys and girls, time spent together, worked a lot together today.

Tonight, went for drinks in the hotel lounge with another co-worker after work. Went back to rooms after, after some texting she invites me to her room for more drinks and to watch some tv. Arrive and have said drinks, laying beside each other in her bed. She is in her jammies. I did not make a move, a bit of flirting but no action. We fall asleep wathcing tv. I wake up and wake her up by rubbing her back and we talk a bit, I thought that would be my chance to escalate but I got no IOI from that, but no rejection either. I get my shit and leave.

I think I might be in the friend zone. Not sure how to measure that, a little risky since shes married and a co-worker.

We have 2 more nights in this hotel. How do I escalte this tomorrow night?
Author:  *FlaiR* [ Fri Jun 22, 2012 8:56 am ]
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I thought that would be my chance to escalate but I got no IOI from that, but no rejection either
Don't expect a Fido envelope saying that you need to escalate. She invited you to her hotel for a reason...not to watch TV. You need to assume attraction...you don't look or search for IOI's. You just spot them if they happen, but you're goal here is not to seek IOI's. To be honest, after a stuff like this, a girl will think that you're just not socially intelligent enough to pick up her cues that she wanted to sleep with you. You basically showed her that you're afraid to be a real man and go for what you want. You basically just let fear win a battle that you were supposed to win. You need to focus and pull the trigger...that's how you close. No action = no results

Also, you say you're working on your inner game. When you're new, work more on your outer game...simply because inner game takes a LOT of time. It's not something that you read and apply. You need to internalize the concepts more and more until you're hole belief system and the way you act changes and even then, inner game is something that takes consistent time and practice for gaining this skill
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How do I escalte this tomorrow night?
If you really want to play it safe, just kino her, be physical and see if she returns your kino. If she does, just pull the trigger
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