You want to bring the women into your world and your goals, you need to know what you want, and if the girl does not meet that criteria, then you either cut her lose, or she may have to adapt to you and your goals, not the other way around... I met this girl this weekend hot as hell, my type, i dance did push pull, she was giving me tons of iois, asking me questions etc.... But was very very hard to escalate even though she was into me, that for me is a waste of my time(for my particular goals), she is a conservative girl looking for a bf( i recognize that immediately), i do not mislead women, so i cut the interaction short and moved on.... Later on the night she came up to me and ask for my phone number, i said, give me your phone, got her phone and called my phone(to have it as a miss called), then when walking to my car, her and her friends where calling my name, she was super interested, but i knew better:
she texted me this:


boricua: Goodnight (my name) with one e 4:06 AM
boricua: By the way this is the boricua 4:12 AM
Me: oh shit! nena, come estas? i do not turn my phone on during the weekend since my clients are a pain in the ass? te miz uz! i had a great time pretending to be dancing with you while attempting to grab your ass! muaz with tongue!:-) 10:30 AM
boricua: It was fun dancing with you but Wow is that the way u talk to women. No thanks. 10:32 AM
Me: yeS you are very conservative for me i am too wild and crazy, bad boy type, nice to met you anyways, good luck! 10:48 AM
boricua: Same to you (my name). 10:53 AM
boricua: Cuidate. 10:54 AM

I could have adapt and seduce, gotten and even slept with this girl, but for me to do that i would be misleading her, and i know that, so i cut the interaction short, on purpose, the only way i could have kept talking to her, is if she would reply backing down to being conservative etc...

Now why didn't you lie and act like you're looking for a gf too? Maybe there's no such thing as a player with a heart of gold. Sometimes I think that it doesn't matter what they say. If you fuck them on the spot, their idea of wanting a boyfriend sort of flies out the window. I'm just trying to be very "flexible". What do you think?

Can it be because the girl is very young or very old like 35+ ??

Ever been in a bar/club talking to a woman, things are going well, she likes you and you like her but then when you try to pull her home all you get is a number?

Its not that she didn't like you, she probably did! The truth of it is she simply wasn't able or open to going home with you that night. This could be for many reasons and isn't important. Whats important is learning how to find good prospects for SNLs (if thats your goal).

The following guide will teach you how to identify and find women who are good prospects for pulling home the same night.

First, we must cover some simple rules.

1) The 15 Minute Rule

This rule is rather simple; After talking to a woman for 15 minutes, if I don't feel sex with her is likely that night I get her number and move on.

This rule will keep you from wasting time and if your goal is to pull a same night lay then time management is vitally important.

2) The 50% Rule

This is another simple but powerful rule. 50% of your escalation attempts should be resisted. This means that every time you try to move the interaction forward sexually she should resist 50% of the time.

For example, lets say after a few minutes you try to kiss her and she resist. Few minutes later you try again and she kisses you back. Then you try to move her to a couch and she resist. You keep it cool and try again a few minutes later she she complies. Thats 50%.

Why 50%?

50% is the perfect number because it lets you know if your escalating to fast or to slow. If more than 50% of your escalation attempts get resisted then you need to slow down. If much less than 50% get resisted you should be more bold and escalate faster.

If your not sure on how to escalate you can read my Sexual Escalation Guide here: [link]

Sexual Screening

The next important part of finding a good prospect is sexual screening. A big part of this is finding women who are actually out looking for a man to go home with. My buddy, poeticlyskuac, wrote a great article on finding these women which you can read here: [link]

Okay, you have found a women who seems to be out looking for a man to take home and you have approached her. Other than sexually escalating and having fun, what else specifically should you be doing to see if shes a good prospect to take home that night? You check for the following things...

1) Logistics: Very quickly you want to find out who she came with, what time she has to be up, where she lives, what shes doing later, ect... If her answers arn't conductive to pulling her home that night, get her number and move on.

2) Responds well to touch: If a woman isn't letting you touch her at all she probably wont sleep with you that night. Remember though, its a woman's nature to resist and expect her to do so. However, there is a fine line between her playfully resisting and her not wanting to be touched at all. It also helps if you have her isolated away from her friends before you test how receptive she is to your touch.

3) Lets you move her: This is actually a big one. I always try to move the chick within the first 15 minutes. If she doesn't move with me then I know the chances me of pulling her home that night are slim to none.

Trying to move her is easy. Simply look at her and suggest moving to the bar, over to a couch, outside to get fresh air, ect... Remember, if she wont move with you, shes probably not going to sleep with you that night.

4) Comfortable with sexual talk: If she shys away from the topic of sex every time you bring it up and she changes the subject when you start sexually flirting with her then shes not going to sleep with you that night.

Once you have your fundamentals down and you follow the tips I have laid out in this guide, the number of women you pull home the same night will improve dramatically.

Remember, when looking for a same night lay its vitally important that you be efficient and manage your time well. Don't waste time on girls who are not good prospects and work fast to find ones that are.