Right, I just want to start of and say hey, like a brief background. My names Dan and I live in Newport, a little City just a few miles away from Cardiff. I used to be quiet reserved in meeting new people and getting out to have fun but over the past two years i've really worked to get good at social interaction and I also strive to help out other friends who suffer from the problem I once had. AA used to be a massive problem for me alot like it was for most of the people on this site. I know it never really goes away but it is a massive factor to alot of people. I really wanted to kick this journal thing off to highlight the week i've had.
Basically I realized there's a few aspiring PUA's in my area within a few miles and theres a possibility we could all meet up and show how good we are and learn. But before I could commit and organise a meet between everyone I needed to test myself, see if I was even worthy of the title 'aspiring PUA' and not just 'guy who reads about and watches youtube videos. So here goes.
Friday
Alright, so I guess I can start off on what I like to call the first day of a PUA's week, a Friday night. A night where most people hit town and let off steam early so they can enjoy the rest of their weekend. I finished work at about half 6 and I had a few messages on my phone. I had a few friends who where seeing a band and I was invited. I thought why not... I have work the next day but not until the afternoon so why not.
I did my usual routine, I showered and put on fresh clothing that would look kick ass in a gig environment. So I meet my friends at half nine and the gig is underway and man does the band suck! I really am not into heavy heavy metal, I like progressive and even I found this music to be an insult to my ears. My friends watched the band and I decided to walk around the club. I know the DJ's and I know the bar staff in this venue so conversation wouldn't be a problem.
So I go into one room and have a beer. As the guy knows me he gives me a big discount so it's like half price drinks for me. While i'm there at the bar while its quiet I catch up with the guy and have a chat... no PUA stuff going on at the moment right?
Then out of no where one of my friends comes into the room. He is with my other friends but broke away for the same reasons I did. He comes up to me and he tells me that this girl he met a few days back has texted him. She's coming to town too and he asked if I fancied staying out. I figured... if this girl is coming out then she'll be coming with a few friends so I thought... yeah okay why not. So me and my friends stay in town in the same venue. This girl then arrives about an hour later with two of her friends. My friends target was a HB6 at best... quite chunky but a nice face but he didn't care and why should he... maybe she has a brilliant personality. Her friends on the other hand, well the one was a HB5 with confidence issues and she had another friends... a scrap-able HB7 so I decided out of the three I know which one i'd want to ideally close.
Now don't get me wrong I love to close but my main goal for tonight was to make sure my friend had some alone time with his target, I would wing him and get him his goals... he's a good friend. And that's exactly what I did. After about 15 mins my friend went and found the girl, she was on the dance floor, I felt this was childs play. So he goes to try and isolate but those friends of hers just want to dance together. This is where I come in, so my friend is still trying to lock her in so I swoop in and pretend I haven't seen my friend at all tonight. We speak for 30 secs and it's like cat string theory... she wants his attention and she isn't getting it so she wants him more. All of a sudden she throws her arms around him and that's when I smile and turn towards the friends. I introduce myself and they do the same as we are now mutual friends by default. I hate to brag but I consider myself a pretty good dancer so I dance with the two chicks. My friend by this time is getting some tonsil hockey in the corner so I could work my magic. But then all of a sudden I had a line all of you are pretty used to hearing dropped on me. The HB5 said to me 'You do know I have a Boyfriend right?'
I couldn't help but laugh inside but only for a split second... I needed a comeback so I simply said 'Yeah well I have a green light saber...' And I got a pretty big smile. I shrugged off her test and carried on, she wasn't a contender anyway. At this point in the night it was like 2am, my friend had succeeded and I really wasn't digging these girls, the club was dead too because not many people come out on a Friday to this club. I decided to bounce, I circled and said fairwell to the people I knew and left feeling happy that i'd helped out a friend.
Monday
Monday to me is quiz night, I gather a few friends and we chill at our local bar where we talk about the week just past and just have a few beers and relax... we win the quiz alot of the time and get great pleasure in telling people that. This time though I thought i'd spice things up. I went onto Facebook and updated my status with 'I am fed up with winning the quiz every week, some of you on here should really form a team and come to Kama lounge and try and deflate my ego' I thought it would get the feeling out there.
So I turn up with my brother who also knows about PUA and we meet my wing who is on my team... we work well together and bounce off each other as a group. I am good for general knowledge, the wings good for music and films and my brothers good on history and geography so a pretty good team. We all get to the bar and within a few minutes 3 of my other friends turn up. They're pretty much the friends you have that you feel sympathy for. So I talk to my friends and we have a laugh and when the quiz starts we split into two teams.
There's a few rounds to the quiz and during it I have a laugh with the guy hosting and the bar staff as my group predominantly sits at the bar on stools. We do quiet well in the quiz and my team comes second to some morons cheating on their phones. We where all pretty annoyed at the time but things where about to change for us.
The next thing I know out of no where one of my friends... one of my friends I said I feel sympathy for is opening some girl. I was truly surprised I mean I lent this guy the game by Neil Strauss about a year ago and I thought he just didn't pay attention but I glance over and he is having a good chat. This girls a HB7 but had an overbite, it's cute though. She has 4 other friends as well, a blonde HB7, a brunette HB8, a mousy blonde HB9 and the shy HB6.5 who really wasn't saying much. So the quiz has finished, it's half 11 at night and we are having our final drinks as the bar closes at 1am officially. We decide to sit to the left hand side of these girls while my friends talking to one of them. Eventually the girls don't see is as a threat and the group of women start to speak to me and my friends. I lean back, lock in and just bounce off comments.
I've found lately i've come across a tad desperate for female attention, and I really don't that so I thought i'd try something new and by bouncing the comments off it gave them the impression I really didn't give a shit... which I wanted because alot of the time I just get the needy HB3's who look like hippos coming on to me.
So we all talk for about an hour and have a few more drinks with these girls. They've all just come back to the City after a few weeks with their parents. My wing friend then hints there's a club open until three and we should all go let off steam and dance. What he neglected to tell us guys is that bar is actually a gay bar. But it's a Monday, I mean who really is going to be out? So all 11 of us go to this club, it's free entry and i've had enough to drink. This Gay bar has a pretty big dance floor and in the entire club there are just three other gay guys... no threats at all. Now the way I see it there are 5 girls and 6 guys and no competition and these girls have had a few drinks... this could be really entertaining.
Like I said before I believe I am a pretty good dancer and me and my wing have been working on dancefloor game. Now the girls are hardly dancing and dancing in a group all on there own and us guys are really doing the same thing so me and my wing decide to fix that. I go to the DJ and request a bit of S Club 7... a girls favourite and I know it would compliment my dancing. It hits and me and my friend goes to work. We kind of do a goofy irish jig mixed with urban leg flailing. It sounds weird but it looks cool and the girls turn, the see and laugh and like cats to milk the 5 girls come dance around me and my wing... and then my other friends come and join in, we are now 11 crazy people just out for a fun time.
Since we met these girls my wing picked the HB9 which sucked but I respect that... he called dibbs! My brother was going after the HB6.5 because he doesn't like a big challenge. We found out the overbite HB7 had a bf and the blonde HB was engaged so they where out of commission so only the brunette was left. I could make her my target. Now we where all dancing and by now I had shifted to a more playful flirty dancing, making sure to get everyone involved. The HB6.5 really wasn't getting invited, she was just jigging and not doing anything so I went over. I danced in front of her for about 45 seconds then all of a sudden, BAM! she leaped on me and started making out with me. In the background I could hear her friends where shocked. My wing was even shocked because no one saw it coming. We kissed for about 2 minutes, she kissed like a bucket but then again she's shy and reserved so I doubt she gets the chance to practice alot.
I eject after a bit, I could feel everyones eyes burning into the back on my head. I speak to my wing, he found it amusing and so did a couple of my friends. My brother on the hand wasn't happy, he wanted to go home and he kept saying to me 'she was a HB4 man... who would want to kiss that!' You can understand why he said that. We all stayed in this club until it closed. The girl I kissed stayed shy and I really wasn't going to pursue her, my brother seemed really annoyed with me.
So the club closed and the girls lived a few miles away and were going to catch a taxi, as gents we walked them to a rank but there was like a 15 min wait for the cabs. We waited with them and we all chatted and got to know each other. My wing had got a number close and a date for a different day but meanwhile I went to work on my target from before... the HB brunette. We chatted, she was from across the border in England near from where my dad was born, we bonded on that and when the taxi came I could see she didn't want to leave, but they did and one of my friends who lives near the girls shared a cab as it was cheaper.
ME and my friends walked home and that was the end of the night. The next day my one friend who shared the cab with the girls called me, he told me they didn't even notice he was sharing the cab and all of them where talking about how they loved my dance moves and how nice they thought we all where, true gents. It was a fun night for a Monday.
Wednesday
Wednesday is my favourite night of the week, student night. They'd just been paid too and where all going to be out splashing the cash with all their friends. I went out with my wing to have a bit of fun. Surprisingly in one of the pubs we go to first they have a pub quiz on a Wednesday too... it would be rude not to participate while we was there. We came 2nd again... but got best team name
There was a few girls at the quiz and we swapped a few of our answer for theres just so if we saw them in the clubs we where going to later we had the topical opener if needed. We had a few more drinks and then bounced to another bar. In that bar there was loads of girls but the type of girls that had their bitch shields to maximum. The only way you'd win a successful approach is if you knew them or you where dating them... it really wasn't worth the hassle so we mingled with all the people we knew, and we met a few that we didn't. They opened us, they always seem to in this bar back we are well known and they want our social proof.After a few more drinks we hit the club which would be a stage to shine. The minute I walked through the door a girl I opened two years ago was right by the bar as soon as you walk in. She saw me and dived on me and gave me a massive hug. This girl was a former oneitus of mine but she has a serious BoyFriend that she's been dating for like 4 years. I use her for mega social proof and I just love talking to her and all the way through the night i'd just get random and spontaneous hugs for in her words 'being the most awesomest friend ever' i'll take it because I know I am
I opened a few more people in this club and worked alot of dance floor game. The Brunette from monday was in the club too, she recognized me and just danced we me, she was surprised and happy to see me but she time constrained me and bounced. I was cool with it but I didn't see her after that.
My favourite moment of the night was where I stood on a wooden bench and danced to a brilliant song. I wanted to have the attention, like a HB10 would mount a pole in a big club. So I was grooving and pointing to my friends and out of no where this HB9.5 blonde comes on the same bench and dances by me. Years ago I would of just blushed and no known what to do but this time I did. I turned to her and said 'Hey can't you see this is my bench, your going to have to work to win it!' and boy did she work. She danced, then I danced, then she danced. A typical dance fight idea. I tend to do that alot, I find it builds rapport on a dance floor without talking. After four or five back to backs she starts to dance with me and I escalate. The HB9.5 loves the confidence but her friend who is near doesn't. She goes in to kiss close me and her friend pulls her away. There isn't much I can do at that point, I just smiled, laughed a little and carried on working the dance floor like it didn't bother me.
There's two dance floors in this club so when one dies down the other will be rocking. So I bounced to the second one. At this point it was about half 2, the club was only open for another hour and a bit. I saw a few other people I know and spoke and danced with them. I also saw a aspiring PUA i'd met off this site out, he was also working dance floor game so if I could I watched him at work, it was great to see another guy in field with a similar goal to me.
To conclude the night though I looked up at the top of the dance floor, I saw my former oneitus. She was dancing and had about 8 guys around her. I thought it might be fun to be the big alpha and dissolve all of them from around her. The minute she saw me she dived through all those horny AFC's and danced with me, we grooved and shaked it and we had a few pictures together. The guys around her whern't happy but I didn't really care about them. She asked me when I was leaving and threw in an FTC for old times sake. Immediately she fell to the ground with her legs crossed in the middle of the floor and did a fake frown and shook her head at me. I'd done that to her before when she threatened to bounce, it was like a running joke.
The funny thing was though is that all the guys around her offered out their hands, everyone was trying to pick her up like giant AFC's. It looked like an obese help group taking break and running to a nearby canteen. I just smiled and danced in front of her looking at her but ignoring that she was actually sat on the floor. Also by this point she had about 15 guys trying to get her up. She ignored all of them and got up herself. They all disbanded then and me and her just danced again having a good time and within 10 minutes after that, the club closed. I placed her in a taxi and went home... it was a pretty good night.
So that's my weeks journal. I know I didn't really say many of my openers or what techniques I use but that's basically me when I go out. Feel free to pass comment, i'd love to hear what you guys think about what happened to me this week in field.
Cheers
Danage.
