Just wanted to post this up because tonight was inspiring and I hope I can inspire other guys on here. I also wanted to thank the forum and members for the valuable inner game info I got from this place.
As I mentioned in my 1st intro post my gf of nearly 3 years broke up with me a few weeks back. I wouldn't consider myself great looking, average I'd say. I also live in a small town in Ireland so that isn't an excuse. I wouldn't say I'm naturally great at talking to women. I dress pretty normally too. But tonight I just manned up and went for it. Here's how it went...
I went out alone, drank water and sat at the bar in a local college pub. Earlier I had read stormy's sticky post on inner game and had listened to "The Power of Now" audiobook. I went out with the thought in my head that I'm going to be comfortable on my own, chat up a few girls and probably fail and then learn from it.
I was sitting at the bar, smirking to myself and enjoying the now. 2 cute girls walked in and sat at the bar opposite. I didn't approach them but rather felt there sexual energy, if you get my drift? It didn't matter if they wanted me or not.
A few minutes later some french guys starting chatting them up and I watched out of the corner of my eye. They were good looking guys and french so the girls lapped up the attention. Before this might have made me envious but tonight I was like, "I want to do that, I can do that".
Behind me was a table with 2 girls at it. I got up and went to the bathroom to check them out. When I got back one of them was sitting in my seat. I said something like, "hey your in my seat" and she apologized.
Then something weird happened. Without hesitation I said , "Hi i'm ..." and stuck out my hand. "What's your name?" I did the same to her friends who had just arrived. From there I just made light conversation..."So what are you out tonight for etc"
I could tell that they were a little taken aback by my openess and one girl even rolled here eyes. But I pushed on. I made an effort to be friendly and talk to all of them and when the inevitable awkward silences came I just asked more questions about their work etc. It turned out that it was one of the girls birthday and that's why they were all out. They were all roughly 18 19 and I'm 25. There was 6 girls and I'd say they were all 7s apart from the birthday girl who was an 8.
The point of all of this is that I just said Hi and kept talking, being myself, no expectations. I wasn't trying anything, just having fun.
After about an hour they were all going to a club. They were begging me to go but I'm not big into clubbing so I said my farewell. I said we should do this again sometime and they said, "definitely". I said, "One of you should take my number" and the birthday girl who I fancied and had some kino with said "I'll take it". I hugged them all and left. Sure I could have went for a KC or more but it wasn't important. I had fun and didn't need to pull. I knew I could do this again... with any girl. At least that's how I feel know.
Here is what I want you to take from all of this. There is no excuses. Apparently Irish girls are very defensive and hard to pull. Not true. You don't need lines or stories or any of that. You just need to say hi and be interested in the girl and the people in the group. I live in a small town and people often say it's harder, it's not. I just got out of a very long relationship aswell so have not been in the game for a long time, if ever.
All you have is right now. If you crash and burn, you crash and burn. If your honest and not trying to be a creep you'll succeed. More than that you'll meet new people which is a great part of life.
What's really important is what you think of yourself. If you can learn to enjoy yourself and your own company you will attract smart, funny, interesting, sexy girls into your life. Just say hi and put out your hand.
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