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anyway, any advice from people who have been in my spot would be appreciated. how do you get these girls out of your head? is there anything i can do to speed up the gaming process? how do you make going out by yourself more entertaining?
Hi Folkerth,Thanks for posting. Yes I've been in just the same situation, and I know how tough it can be! As for rock bottom? If you really are there, and you're thinking about suicide, the best thing is to see a counsellor. In the UK you can see counsellors on the National Health Service for free, but I don't know about other countries.
Otherwise/ also - talk to your friends and family. No matter how good they are at 'game' they'll always be the ones there when the shit hits the fan
So, in answer to your questions:
1) How do you get these girls out of your head?
This is a big topic, with no easy answer. First and foremost, realise that most people feel this way about one or more of their ex girlfriends. I've done the 'go out and fuck other women' thing, and it works, but only up to a point.
The truth is, that girl you've mentioned filled a hole you have within. Each of us feels this way at times, from super star PUAs to supermodels, to average guys like you and me. The problem is that we feel this hole can be filled with material things outside of ourselves (like 'HB's). Why even use the term 'hot babe'? Its because we really seek the validation that comes with the girlfriend. When we're 'banging' an 'HB' we suddenly feel empowered over all the people who've looked down on us. Suddenly we're COOL.
But the hard truth is, you're cool right now Folkerth! And you've got everything you need to fill the inner hole from within. You don't need external things like girls or money to feel fulfilled. And if you feel fulfilled without these things the amazing thing is... they naturally come to you!
Some tips that have really helped me are:
1) Make your focus helping others. Go volunteer at a homeless shelter or charity store, or just help the people around you
2) Eat healthily
3) Get plenty of sleep
4) Exercise
5) Meditate - not in a forced way, just set aside 30 mins a day to do nothing, and slowly slowly, patiently let the mind fall silent on its own. In the silence we find fulfilment
2) is there anything i can do to speed up the gaming process?
There are no doubt many things, however the list above has helped me the most
3) How do you make going out by yourself more entertaining?
Another good question, In my experience whether by yourself or with others it generally becomes more entertaining the more you practise and get better. Not a very useful answer I know
On the other hand, have you considered finding wings through forums such as this? You can also use Craig's List or Gumtree depending on what country your in. The important thing is to find a wing who you connect with on more levels than just approaching - you need to be friends Good luck, let us know how it goes.......
