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Author:  lawls [ Fri Sep 03, 2010 4:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Core Values of a Man
Generally I've seen alot of things as trends with guys in the community & outside. No I will no be talking about specifics in PU, 1) I don't care, 2) Rather than pointing to the moon & seeing only your finger thats pointing, the goal is for you to see the moon.

Philosophy:

As much as people want techniques to fix x, my view is thats great initially however growing one needs to understand oneself on a deeper level. In that one does this by contemplating certain philosophies be them Buddhist, Daoist, Greek, Roman etc. It's by contemplating & reflecting how these ways of thought can influence you directly in an applicable everyday way.

Morales & Ethics

This naturally leads one to be aware of his morales & ethics in reflection to the world. Whatever standard you hold is whatever standard the world shines back. Constantly work to raise your standards- no matter how hard & difficult it gets. Here are some:

[Integrity: When you commit something, you commit no matter the circumstances, no excuses- essentially giving your word. This also means, showing up on time or earlier. And doing seemingly retarded small things. Or calling someone when you said you would or texting them. why? You gave your word- its that simple.

Honor/Chivalry: Linking with integrity this is more physical, in the sense of respect to others of who they are. Further though it goes into protecting others on a scale such as "I would take a bullet for you no questions asked"- that being with ANYONE you interact with. Why? Well, your giving them enough time to be with you- that means they get full rights when their with you. Even a complete stranger.

In female terms; its making sure she's taken care of- doesn't mean you have to pay everything- just means she feels safe & you give her the space to be herself fully. Have some class to- such as making sure she's on the inside part of the street constantly- opening doors-pulling out chairs. Meaningless and stupid? Hardly...its the details dudes. Always the finest details which make the greatest differences which are consistent.

Honesty: Whats really there for you? Are you pissed? Are you angry? Are you sad? By not telling the other person- they won't know- the most they'll get is guessing what it is. Further this also applies in telling something to someone they don't want to hear for their own good- no matter what the consequences. (This needs to be tampered with awareness for it could just be a judgement your projecting).

Non-judgement: I know most of you are going be like why not judge we do it everyday- true, that said..in a PU sense to say she's ugly, HB #, she's hot- your missing out on a whole world- you don't need to do ANYTHING with her or anyone, however don't close the door- you could be missing a great person to be hanging with on a regular basis. 2nd) Judgement in the sense of I'm better than you, that limits you EXTRAORDINARILY, sure your better, your point? No one cares to be around that. Get over yourself

Universal/Unconditional Love: Yes this is airey fairy to most people however, accept people for who they are; it doesn't need to be a harlequin romance ideal- Love comes in many forms, such as hanging with your friends, family, or even talking to a stranger & being kind just cause or just relaxing in nature with a smile. By Loving others unconditionally you'll find others doing that to you also.


Being Present

This is ONE of the biggest things which it comes down to ethics & morales- it doesn't seem it'd fit in here. However reality is you can't do ANY of the above without being present & aware of your surroundings. Everything above takes place in real time- meaning your present constantly or just about 98.9% everyday. Being present to how you feel, your body, your breathing, THE OTHER PERSON (meaning not worried about what your saying in your head BUT what their saying---> LISTENING.) Also...Thoughts are not you, stop thinking they are: Actually try to remember every thought you've had for the last 10 minutes- its impossible. The only time a thought is remembered is when you give it importance. Just note that.


Faith: This doesn't have to be god, this doesn't have to deities or religions, it can be as simple as having faith in the universe or whatever that you'll get through whatever you have to. "Time & place for everything" Further having faith in yourself & others, no matter what their outlook is. You can see the "treasure" & best in people. Never giving up no matter what.


[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-KfxHxwQMmw[/youtube]

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Exercises:

Note: This exercises need to be done daily, or its useless. Further...the development curve for these exercises EASILY last 1 yr under constant practice.


Meditation:

It is the best exercise for awareness training. It helps you see your thoughts. "Be careful of your thoughts, for your thought become your words. Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character. Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny."

1) Get a candle, lite it & sit far enough back that it doesn't make your eyes hurt though you can see it clearly. From there just focus on the candle flame & nothing else in your minds eye. If thoughts pop up, discard them & just keep focusing with all your intent on ONLY the candle flame. A good time limit is building up to 10 minutes initially & then later pushing it to 40 minutes or more- depending on your time. Do this when you get up in the morning & before you sleep.

2) Focus on absolutely nothing. Nothing goes in your mind. If anything pops up, discard it & just focus on nothingness, no matter how many thoughts pop up. Same format as above- build up to 10 min then go more if you like- 10 being bare minimum. Practice when you get up in morning & before you sleep.

(Feel free again to increase the time, the more time you put in the more effects will be seen-->10 min daily bare minimum & when you increase the time by intervals--> keep it steady).

Observation of self: Be absolutely brutal & don't hold punches, observe all your habits, faults, passions, instincts, failures & other ugly characteristic traits. Start a journal for 2 weeks & write down whatever comes down. Meditate & go into past events, how you behaved & what failures occurred in various punches. Nothing must remain hidden, everything must be unturned. The more you put down the better. However insignificant or small. While reflecting experiences- take 2 pages or more...and split it between your positive & negative traits.

Yes & Exercise: Say Yes & to everything. If your angry: Yes &, then keep looping it till the emotional is desensitized from the thought. This goes to any situation. Say Yes &, redirect it. Doesn't mean you HAVE to do it their way- however its accepting (remember morales & ethics?). Could be as "Do you want to go out tonight", "Yes & I have other priorities which are important, so I'm staying in tonight". Accept & Redirect.

Join a dance & martial arts class regularly:

Dance will teach you female dynamics to the finest minute detail- how to lead, how to flirt, how to communicate with your body language, how to give her space etc. (Learn from a female instructor if possible). Traditional Martial arts (like okinawan karate, kungfu etc.- NOT MMA) will teach everything on the masculine side of things (Discipline, Commitment, Integrity etc.), look for a male instructor if possible. These 2 activities are possibly the best thing to speed you through EVERYTHING in the above and make it real. Why? Though everything above sounds good...you can't just work on the mental- "the issues are in the tissues". Physically you need to do it. This literally brings everything together: Don't make the excuse you can't afford it etc. Its your life, if you really want it- I just told you the golden pill. You can do it if you want.

Find your purpose:

Another HUGE thing, find your purpose what drives you & what could you do forever- in not relating to females or finances or anything- its what would you do for free, no matter what circumstances. Reflect back on your childhood & think of all the careers you wanted to do as a kid. Write them down & see what drew you to them, after that step back & see what is the commonality between every single one of them.

Eg) Archeology, Zoologist, Computer game designer, Dating/Relationship Coach, Lifestyle Coach, TCM doctor: Sidenote; Arts talent

In the example being personal well my purpose is this "I dig up people's past and nurture them so then I can help paint & create a lifestyle they dream of, in every way possible, being physical, emotionally & spiritually"

Family & Make Brothers: Drop trying PU females; its a fact that unless you have a good tight group of male friends- anything in the female realm is impossible. For it shows your not comfortable with masculinity. A good tight group of guy friends will ground you when you need it, beat you up if you need it, & have a drink with ya & play video games when you need it. Going on a tribal view, this is your chosen family. Further my view of a brother is someone who will take a bullet for you no ifs or buts, they just will & you would also. Your there for each other in the good, bad, and horrible.

Going into direct family bloodlines now, another thing that WILL not be possible when it comes to females is if you haven't cleared any baggage with your parents or siblings. Don't blame them, for you chose your perspective of whatever happened happened- take responsibility. Their doing the best they can & know. By improving relations in your direct family, you'll naturally find any issues with females will clear up to a point- further your life will be enhanced. Again, the adage here is though for the 2 of them is this:

Would you die for them?

Next Question:

Would you kill for them?

Much different question, until you can answer yes to both: you got stuff you clear in yourself and in your relationships with your family/friends.


Closing: There's alot more- however this should suffice for now. Enjoy :D

Reminder: All the above is 1 yr's practice easily of constant daily routine.
Author:  Ezo [ Fri Sep 03, 2010 6:17 pm ]
Post subject: 
Brilliant!

Plus I watch more Naruto now than ever! :)
Author:  lawls [ Mon Sep 06, 2010 5:41 pm ]
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In depth look into Brotherhood & Family:

Family & Brotherhood are THE most important thing when it comes to being a man. Why? Because, a tree with decaying branches can regrow its branches, a tree with decaying roots is surely dead.

Family is your original roots, brothers/sisters (friends) are your chosen family. In saying that, I want you to ask yourself a couple questions:

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How good is your relationship with them?

How much are you willingly to give to protect them?

Are you willingly to die for them?

Are you willingly to kill for them, no questions asked- if they were being threatened?


How does those questions make you feel? Are you confronted? Would you really go through with whats said above or pretend?
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Your answers here are VERY important because it not only shows your attitude toward family & friends, it shows your attitude in life & relationships in general. Putting it in a female context are you willingly to give up your life to protect her (any random female), if not, well ask yourself why. Cause thats what females lack in today's world.

Going back to family/brotherhood:

It was said earlier without these as your roots your not going be a man. Plain and simple, yes your family is your original source: lets go deeper. The way you interact with your father is the way your going interact with males, the way you interact with your mother is the way your going interact with females. Thats a given.

So knowing that, why WOULDN'T you improve your relationships with your parents 1st rather than going out & trying to "PU" females. Your doing it backwards. Reality is the issue is right infront of you yet you turn away. By improving these 2 main relationships, you NATURALLY improve everything else exponentially.

Especially if you got a rocky relationship with them- get it over and done with. Learn who they are; ask them their views; they just ain't your parents, they can be VERY good friends. Further...the small things especially with your mom; like "clean your room, do x, you said x & not doing it", the general nagging you get off her is a GREEN light for you to improve yourself. Reality is if she's nagging you about that; those small details- ANY female your with will break up with you or leave you because of those- she's doing you a MAJOR favor- yet you don't see it obviously.

As of your father; same thing goes- you may have a "weak" male figure & blame him, reality is how can you: he raised you, no matter how crappy it was. He was doing the best he could & knew how. Stop blaming. A good relationship with your father is essential in having good friends- who will "take a bullet" for ya. Doesn't have to be the perfect one, however work toward it.

In the end; remember this: Your parents did ALOT for you; its time you grow up & respect that & give back to them; further they probably know the most about you by default- you are their kid after all. Meaning the good, bad, & things you don't even realize (just about more than anyone). Ever think about asking? :P So working on your relationship between you & them is the best thing you can do literally.

Now some of you are going say "my parents weren't there for me", "they did x", "their drunks" well no matter what your baggage; I'd say get over it. Cause until you do your going be missing alot & having alot of emotional baggage which is suppressed- which will naturally & might I say easily go into other things in your life. If theres one thing you can be grateful for no matter how bad your "perceived life" was, it's to be grateful that they gave you life & your here now.


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Brotherhood:

Now, brotherhood- similar to family is your chosen family. I ask, how many of you have friends who would do just about anything for you & take a bullet for ya? A fair example from me personally- is I got 6 fore sure- if not 8 thinking about it. They have my back no matter what- & by default I have theirs. They will give me advice when needed, they'll call me out on my BS, they'll hit me if needed & they'll take me out to chill other times. We just have each other's backs solid. Literally this is my chosen family.

Its because of this "chosen family", the natural association is if their friends or girlfriends are with us, they are in our "pack" & they get the same SPAM. That said, knowing just this one fact; I know I'm never alone & support is always there if I need to call the troops. I've done insane things in the past for these guys, & vice versa. It can be simple as "I'm calling you @ 10" & doing it no matter what the circumstances (thats another topic- discussed later).

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That said; well how does this apply to females (not PU). Its that protector mentality: If you can do this easily with your family/brothers- you think it's hard to put that to any person you interact with? NO. Its natural actually. In my mind...doesn't matter who: if I talk to you & I'm having a conversation- literally you can depend on me to have your back- even if your a total stranger. Why? Because I'm talking to you & those are the perks when your with me.

Essentially thats providing safety: both physically, emotionally, & mentally. where their accepted no matter what (& thats what family/chosen family does- do you really need to impress them? Not really...if you are thats abit messed). Thats providing the space for anyone to be vulnerable & not needing to have their guard up where they can go "I can relax & just be myself". Which is the best gift you can give anyone, especially females. * Literally: this is your solution to "flaking". Flaking is 2 things only: not enough trust between you & her or its actually a legit thing she's telling you.

That said, you already giving her the space to be herself or anyone else; so hanging around others- making friends who have your back etc. Isn't HARD. Recapping though, its essentially: You gotta be able to walk through the door willingly to give that to others though; before they give that to you. Your the example. Does it matter what happens to you to protect your family or chosen family?

From my own POV no it doesn't, when it comes down to the nitty gritty: I will obviously try to survive however I can't- the threat will be taken care of fully regardless & I'd make sure everyone is safe before I go down.

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Exercises:

Thank your parents things in the past/present & be grateful/sincere. Also talk to them about themselves; get their POV of you- your weaknesses, strengths + get to know them really. (This needs to be consistent)

Chosen Family: Start implementing the "I'm going take a bullet for you" mentality with your friends, get to know them better- start building more trust- & start building a relationship with them where you know as a fact, no questions asked they will take 1 for you also.

Bonus: Compliments- compliment others sincerely and request compliments daily. Also if you don't, start implementing more physical interactions with others like a hug each time you see them.

** Traditional Martial arts develops this**
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Motivational Vids:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9Kgu8nAcwg[/youtube]

Go to 20 min on, though I recommend the full episode.



What are you willingly to give to protect the ones you love? Even if it means killing those who threaten them or losing your life. Or even if it means telling them something they don't want to hear right now, which will help them later on.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpDpIBS9sfQ[/youtube]
Author:  lawls [ Sat Sep 18, 2010 2:04 am ]
Post subject:  Morality of the Collective
Hey all,

Adding another addition which is becoming a focal point in my life- will continue with the rest later on.

The Collective

Alright yes, this is related to the above post about brotherhood/family- with a slightly different focus now. OTHERS.

That said society especially now has become very very 1 sided in its thinking. This is seen in the community as a mainstream thought also which I like to talk about. The thought is "theres no enough" or scarcity.

Its that thought which is goes into "well, if I can't get enough females" OR "I NEED to get THAT female". Sometimes it goes worst into the thought pattern "I can TAKE that guy's girl, or get her to split up with him, cause I'm better".

All the above, I've seen numerous times with many people when talking into the chat. My comment to that is "Where is your head?". In the 1st part " it's a self-esteem problem. The 2nd " is a self-esteem and a possessive problem. The 3rd " is a self-esteem, possessive & finally morale issue. As one can see it gradually got more and more worse.

Its the "let me TAKE/GET whatever I can now" at any cost. Ever ask yourself why your doing that? Ever ask what the repercussions are? Well the repercussions are this:

1) Your going keep running the same pattern over and over
2) You are projecting all your crap externally
3) You aren't going bring up everyone with that mentality (more of a negative spiral imo)


Theres many more...I'm not going list them. The point is this: Its a NEGATIVE SPIRAL. If your going take a guy's gf cause YOU want to, well what happened to leaving her better? Or as a whole, everyone better?

In the action of taking a guy's gf its---> You (happy), her (maybe happy if she follows), him (screwed over because of your actions).

Thats not cool imo, your STILL hurting someone indirectly & it was because of your actions.

Theres two ways to go about thinking about your actions/thoughts. The outdated model which I said above of "take all I can now, it may not hurt me or others now, yet it still is going to in the future" or the Abundance mentality, which brings EVERYONE up as a whole.

Analogy:

Scarcity

You are a manager; you COULD hire someone else to your staff because the staff in general is overworking, however you choose not to because it'll cost you more money.

Results: The staff doesn't care about the business, your overworking them- emotionally thier pissed off, tired or whatever, so thier not as productive.

Abundance

Same scenario; however you actually hire another person to the staff. Initially its going cost you more; even long term it MIGHT cost you more. That said as a whole, everyone is less stressed about work.

Results: With your staff less stressed and you hiring another person it does this. 1st shows you cared about the staff enough that your willingly to take up some slack for them making it easier for them. Them being less stressed, they will be more productive. Also though you don't see it, with them being less stressed this will influence their friends & family which will then further influence everyone else their friend's or family come into contact with. As a side more productive/less stressed staff= better customer service or production, meaning more money also.


So in that you can see the abundance mentality has a influence on EVERYONE literally..its like a vibration wave. It all started at a simple choice you made also. Its an upward spiral which sucks everyone into it.

In a practical sense relating to females it could be as giving them a sincere compliment & not trying to pick them up. Its just giving to give, not expecting anything. If anything comes out its a bonus. It's from the simple thing you did that could make her day which then could influence everyone she comes into contact with. Which then makes THEIR day better. Did you lose out? In my opinion, not really...you just made 10 people's days if not at least 2.

Did you get a date? Well...who says you NEED one, you may want one- however that shouldn't matter. For its a given fact; if you can give out like that genuinely- your naturally vulnerable, which then leads people WANTING to be around you. Drop your agenda guys. Actually be with her, present. Most importantly too, be in touch with who you are.

In essence this is not just abundance I'm talking about; it can be called wealth.

Again, how is this related to females.

Well lets see...

Money example again:

1) Someone with $5 billion is sick and alone, has the best doctors flown in everyday, yet I can guarantee his "wealth" in life, is much less further I doubt his health will improve.

2) A poor person can barely get SPAM yet has a whole group of friends/family constantly thinking about him & worrying about his health. These people visit him constantly. Though he may not get SPAM, I'm sure his quality of "wealth" is MUCH more than the $5 billionaire & he would probably recover- if not, I'm sure his family/friends would pitch for a SPAM.

You can see then "wealth" is very relative. Not just financially, in everything. Applying this to females it could be:

Having alot of girlfriends (girls that are JUST friends)--> who you genuinely care about/vice versa.

Giving someone who really made your day by the way she looks a real compliment, Thanking her--> which can lead into a date potentially yet your not hung on the result--> She made your day, you just made hers. Equivalent exchange.

Really listening to your mom, sister, grandma: Getting to really know them. In the case of your mom;sister- who knows they may know people who'd match you well, if you asked. Yet I bet you don't even give them the time of day.

Having a tight group of guy friends; who know females who could hook you up, cause you are like bro's literally (refer above post)

Really...the list can go ON and ON. However I just wanted to make a point with this post the options are numerous if your willingly to give to others and fully receive, without "expectations" & just do it cause you actually care. Its from that you can start an upward spiral which sucks everyone up who you can into contact with, & who doesn't want that?

Don't confuse this as: I just give give give. No...in order to give that also means knowing when to say no, your boundaries, & further being able to ask for help/receive from others fully. Its a partnership/cycle. Give--> Receive--> Receive-->Give. If you take only one part, your chipping the other person 50%, you gotta be able to do 100%.

That said, on a bigger scale; you can see the upward spiral affecting others. Thats the collective I'm talking about. If you can do that & start building that collective, others get sucked into it, then it starts becoming a domino effect where everyone starts being like this. And once that happens, everyone has it easier, everyone starts being "wealthy". Further when they become "wealthy", you become "wealthy" cause it does come back to you, in some shape or form, even if its not directly relating to females- though it could easily. Upward spiral.

On the contrary, there is a negative spiral also: as stated above earlier in the post of the "scarcity" mentality, of taking things from others, or getting it when you can. Again, if you do that, then everyone will do that also, and the spiral just keeps going down and down. What says if you take a guy's gf for fun, someone else won't do that to you? Golden rule: Do unto others what you would like done unto yourself.

Well, I may elaborate on this specific post later and put it in better order (this is more rant than structure).
Author:  Ezo [ Sat Sep 18, 2010 9:46 am ]
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This is good!
Author:  Black Phantom [ Sat Sep 18, 2010 1:27 pm ]
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Thank you for this. A true value
Author:  lawls [ Sun Sep 19, 2010 7:37 am ]
Post subject:  Judgement, sincerity, acceptance
Judgement, its that unseen thing which pops up constantly for most people. In that it's one of the biggest obstacles what a man is. It's actually completely OPPOSITE on what a man is.

A mentor & friend of mine says this constantly:

"If you judging that means your not loving"

Lets be blunt about this; if your not loving someone then why the hell are you going to out in the first place. Cause reality is if your doing that you got a double standard & that itself is messed up.

First thing asks is what makes say a poor person worse than a rich one, or a fat girl worse than a hot one?

In my humble opinion, nothing. Your just making it one, why? Well its probably having to do with you not looking good enough which is then related down to your success or your shame. Not saying, you have to date fat girls- same time you shouldn't avoid them like the plague either. Nor should you avoid poor people like the plague. End of the day, they are people- and to judge them as worthless a waste of time, whatever: just shows how conceited you really are.

That said there is a time and place as with everything posted in this thread where it needs to be applied and other times not. However the majority has it where their applying judgement at the WRONG times.


Now back to the program: Ask yourself why you think you should make fun of others, judge them as worse off, or to a point where you won't even interact with them? Really, really ask yourself. Does it make you feel good?

Sure that female maybe overweight, so what...she could be a great person too who helps charities or know someone who can help you in a certain area. Maybe that fat female will actually get who you are. Theres many more possibilities yet you shut the down immediately without welcoming her or even leaving it open for a invitation.

Think about that...& I bet your doing it SOO constantly to a point where its automatic. I've had guys in the chat ask "Zac, how can I talk to x or do x" better?"

My reply is always; do you actually care who they are? Or are you judging them and trying take something from them.

The reality is MOST people in the community don't give 2 licks of a damn about anyone their interacting with. They just want to "test" crap out, or "get laid" or "get dates" or GET SOMETHING. Instead of really being with them & getting to know that person because they actually want it.

Then people usually wonder "I wonder why x routine didn't work" or "I don't know what to say". Well...duh you don't, its because your so caught up in your head (look above for exercises in thread). Further you DON'T care, she, he, whoever might as well not be there. Cause reality is your not..

Your not being sincere, your probably judging if this person is worth your time, energy, whatever, or you got some hidden agenda. Or in most concrete reality...all the above + bonus. And people wonder....

Well the simplicity is this: Drop your agenda, really listen to others, and stop worrying about yourself- start caring for others from your heart. The heart is who you really are; that kid who would play with anyone, just to play. Nothing more nothing less- the kid who would be friendly with everyone cause you were really that. Something changed though (whatever it was) and now your who you are.

Revert back to being a child, kids don't judge, kids just live with an open heart. They get hurt they cry, if their angry they yell, etc. Also notice, people LIKE hanging around kids generally because they give that off. A better example, think of a dog or animal you love; they don't judge you...you can fuck up royally come home and pet them & their there for you. No judgement & thats all they know so their sincere.

Take learning from mother nature...she is the best teacher.

So ultimately; golden rule applies: Treat others how you want to be treated.

If ya want to be judged by others for your faults, avoided, not associated with because of something, then keep judging knowing your going get that. Further if you want to have conversations where the person isn't really listening to you; just pretending they go ahead and keep doing that. If you like to switch that though where your non-judgmental of others, expect the same- if you want others to really listen to you & CONNECT, getting to know who ya really are without the BS, then you have to do the same.

Further to accept others with no judgment externally (in the positive sense) means your also accepting yourself internally for all your flaws. No one is perfect, everyone is human...everyone takes a dump everyday. Stop thinking cause you got X knowledge or physical looks, your better. Tyler Durden from Fightclub says it best: "You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world."

In closing: There is a time to judge or criticize as stated earlier in this post & that time only comes down to this:

"He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help."

Abraham Lincoln

If you are to judge someone on their flaws, it should be for their benefits not your bitterness or whatever. Judgement can be used as a tool assuming you have a clear vision & foresight to see the flaws in others & its in that, you accept them fully. If they are up for constructive criticism great, if not drop your judgement and see who they are @ their heart with your heart & love the flaws.


Exercises:

Talk to a hobo, give him or her $2 and really get to know them for 1 hr.

Talk to people in general you'd NEVER talk to usually, & again for no other reason other to really get to know them.

Listen to people like everything they say is $1 million dollars, everything they say is a gold nugget.

Gauge how sincere you are when your doing things. Are you doing them with your "heart" or pretending, if your not ask yourself why.


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All the above connects to this next topic naturally which will be posted sometime in the near future. Till then.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WAylnO5gtA[/youtube]
Author:  lawls [ Fri Oct 08, 2010 10:21 pm ]
Post subject:  A side step off the routine
Hey all,

As I'm typing this...I'm combing my hair. This is actually the topic of today. Appreciating the small things in your life. Earlier today I was talking to a friend, having a good laugh in class, and seeing the trees change their colors as autumn comes through.

Whats this have to do with ANYTHING? Answer...everything, when you can appreciate even the smallest things, then you'll have no issue on the bigger things. Further, its the small things that make a difference for anyone, however especially females.

Could be a compliment..it could be something they like, it could be well anything when interacting with people, hell it COULD BE THEIR SHOES. (not going explain that...you'll have to figure it out yourselves.)

Point is this; start appreciating the small things, enjoy the breeze, take time out of your day just to enjoy breathing. Enjoy laying down. Enjoy whatever you do. Are this simple? Yes. Are they overlooked? Yes. Are they ecstatic? Well yes...if you pay attention yet most of us forget the simple things to go for the "big things".

A quick analogy I'll use:

A friend of mine wanted to travel around the world. His plan...make lots of money. Well in reality..he was making money was he passionate about it? Not really...He doesn't even relax.

I told him : Look, if your so passionate about travelling why aren't you doing it right now.

You see...

The majority of people forget whats happening around them presently and focus on the future, yet by doing that they miss out on amazing experiences (even the smallest ones- like taking your time to eat). In reality... ecstasy, joy, pleasure, all lie infront of you right now..Right this instant. STOP CHASING THE CARROT.

Exercise:

Take time appreciating everything around you...if you feel, really feel with touch. If you eat or drink, slow down and really appreciate the flavors, texture. If you smell..smell everything. If you see, focus and appreciate the wide range of colors around you, the shapes etc.

In sum...take your sweet time with your senses and focus on them. Do that for 30 minutes bare minimum to start, it may be hard..get over it. Then implement it everyday.

Bonus:

Really start thinking what you take for granted & focus on appreciating them fully everyday without taking them for granted. If your given a gift, its standard custom to accept it (accepting though means reciprocity) which goes into cherishing it.

Now, back to combing my hair. ;)
Author:  lawls [ Sat Nov 06, 2010 5:49 pm ]
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What is understanding yourself worth to you?

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFZhLcJjj4Y[/youtube]



It's not easy, sametime its damn well worth it. "This is your life and its ending one minute at a time...Where you are now you can't even imagine what the bottom will be like." This is not a post, this is not a oh this sounds cool/make you feel good retreat. You are not a PUA....

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x37vr_ ... club_music


"We think too much and feel too little". Stop being a robot and start being human.



Stories:

Was going make this a separate post, it matches though: The power of stories, we live in a world where we can create whatever stories we want, we can change the plot whenever we like, we can do anything- that said the story has different endings each time also- which we decide. What is yours? What can you learn off hearing others, how can you relate to them?

compilation-of-stories-vt59111.html?highlight=


These videos/link encompass to the above posts and more, really take your time with them, contemplate and relate them to your life.
Author:  poet1234 [ Mon Nov 08, 2010 2:45 pm ]
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Thanks !
Author:  Fin [ Mon Nov 08, 2010 8:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Core Values of a Man
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Traditional Martial arts (like okinawan karate, kungfu etc.- NOT MMA) will teach everything on the masculine side of things (Discipline, Commitment, Integrity etc.),

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MMAers from my experience easily outstrip TMAists in terms of integrity, honour, commitment and discipline.

Not to say that you can't find that in a good KF school, but the fact that so many TMAist are willing to Bash MMAists on topics of disciple when the MMAists right now are working much harder than most of the TMAists says alot about the levels of integrity and chivalry within TMA circles.

If someone here wanted to take up an Martial art for the traits you have listed, I'd much rather send them to an MMA gym as statistically, I can almost guaurantee that will build a great work ethic and it will force you to be genuine in order to maintain integrity.
Author:  lawls [ Mon Nov 08, 2010 9:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Core Values of a Man
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Traditional Martial arts (like okinawan karate, kungfu etc.- NOT MMA) will teach everything on the masculine side of things (Discipline, Commitment, Integrity etc.),

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MMAers from my experience easily outstrip TMAists in terms of integrity, honour, commitment and discipline.

Not to say that you can't find that in a good KF school, but the fact that so many TMAist are willing to Bash MMAists on topics of disciple when the MMAists right now are working much harder than most of the TMAists says alot about the levels of integrity and chivalry within TMA circles.

If someone here wanted to take up an Martial art for the traits you have listed, I'd much rather send them to an MMA gym as statistically, I can almost guaurantee that will build a great work ethic and it will force you to be genuine in order to maintain integrity.
Fin, I'm not here to bash MMA, being TMA are MMA essentially, that said, there are many things that MMA lack that TMA have. Further, from my side of things I haven't seen many MMA and as much as I respect them, there are things I see that are lacking in the training they have, that are covered in a proper training of TMA. Mentality wise and other things.

That is out of the discussion of this thread though. And if you want to discuss this more, feel free to PM or we'll talk in the chatroom.
Author:  Fin [ Tue Nov 09, 2010 2:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Core Values of a Man
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Quote:
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Traditional Martial arts (like okinawan karate, kungfu etc.- NOT MMA) will teach everything on the masculine side of things (Discipline, Commitment, Integrity etc.),

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MMAers from my experience easily outstrip TMAists in terms of integrity, honour, commitment and discipline.

Not to say that you can't find that in a good KF school, but the fact that so many TMAist are willing to Bash MMAists on topics of disciple when the MMAists right now are working much harder than most of the TMAists says alot about the levels of integrity and chivalry within TMA circles.

If someone here wanted to take up an Martial art for the traits you have listed, I'd much rather send them to an MMA gym as statistically, I can almost guaurantee that will build a great work ethic and it will force you to be genuine in order to maintain integrity.
Fin, I'm not here to bash MMA, being TMA are MMA essentially, that said, there are many things that MMA lack that TMA have. Further, from my side of things I haven't seen many MMA and as much as I respect them, there are things I see that are lacking in the training they have, that are covered in a proper training of TMA. Mentality wise and other things.

That is out of the discussion of this thread though. And if you want to discuss this more, feel free to PM or we'll talk in the chatroom.
What mental aspects? If we're discussing self improvement, then it's pretty important that people know if one thing is lacking something that another can provide.
Author:  lawls [ Tue Nov 09, 2010 3:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Core Values of a Man
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MMAers from my experience easily outstrip TMAists in terms of integrity, honour, commitment and discipline.

Not to say that you can't find that in a good KF school, but the fact that so many TMAist are willing to Bash MMAists on topics of disciple when the MMAists right now are working much harder than most of the TMAists says alot about the levels of integrity and chivalry within TMA circles.

If someone here wanted to take up an Martial art for the traits you have listed, I'd much rather send them to an MMA gym as statistically, I can almost guaurantee that will build a great work ethic and it will force you to be genuine in order to maintain integrity.
Fin, I'm not here to bash MMA, being TMA are MMA essentially, that said, there are many things that MMA lack that TMA have. Further, from my side of things I haven't seen many MMA and as much as I respect them, there are things I see that are lacking in the training they have, that are covered in a proper training of TMA. Mentality wise and other things.

That is out of the discussion of this thread though. And if you want to discuss this more, feel free to PM or we'll talk in the chatroom.
What mental aspects? If we're discussing self improvement, then it's pretty important that people know if one thing is lacking something that another can provide.
Noticing subtle changes in their body, mind, emotions. I mean very subtle to a point of you can close your eyes and still know whats happening around you- how close someone is to you. It it an old man, young female, a child? All without them even saying anything. Its a sensitivity training to be more aware of how things happen around you and how still your mind is to be able to receive them. Another aspect would be being able to see through whatever "illusions" around you- such as reading the person's psyche with just a "feel" as soon as you walk into a room with them in it (not even seeing them). Another one would be disheartening your opponent from a distance with just a look, or should I say not a look. (Morihei Ueshiba) was able to do this in his feeling a negative vibe before the incident happened. These are some examples from a TMA backgroud the MMA presently lacks

MMA though great for fighting (because thats all they view it as) however it does not cover these higher aspects of cultivating one self which TMA do (where the aim is to be able to defend oneself and hone these higher levels). I can't speak for many MA however I do know Japanese, Chinese, and Indian MA do cover these things intensively.
Author:  Fin [ Tue Nov 09, 2010 9:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Core Values of a Man
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Fin, I'm not here to bash MMA, being TMA are MMA essentially, that said, there are many things that MMA lack that TMA have. Further, from my side of things I haven't seen many MMA and as much as I respect them, there are things I see that are lacking in the training they have, that are covered in a proper training of TMA. Mentality wise and other things.

That is out of the discussion of this thread though. And if you want to discuss this more, feel free to PM or we'll talk in the chatroom.
What mental aspects? If we're discussing self improvement, then it's pretty important that people know if one thing is lacking something that another can provide.
Noticing subtle changes in their body, mind, emotions. I mean very subtle to a point of you can close your eyes and still know whats happening around you- how close someone is to you. It it an old man, young female, a child? All without them even saying anything. Its a sensitivity training to be more aware of how things happen around you and how still your mind is to be able to receive them. Another aspect would be being able to see through whatever "illusions" around you- such as reading the person's psyche with just a "feel" as soon as you walk into a room with them in it (not even seeing them). Another one would be disheartening your opponent from a distance with just a look, or should I say not a look. (Morihei Ueshiba) was able to do this in his feeling a negative vibe before the incident happened. These are some examples from a TMA backgroud the MMA presently lacks

MMA though great for fighting (because thats all they view it as) however it does not cover these higher aspects of cultivating one self which TMA do (where the aim is to be able to defend oneself and hone these higher levels). I can't speak for many MA however I do know Japanese, Chinese, and Indian MA do cover these things intensively.
1. Proof of this ability? Where does TMA train you to do this, I've been around and still go around in the TMA world and I've not met seen or heard a single excersise that will cultivate this, and I have heard of no accomplished MAists who make such claims outside of old propaganda reels.

2. Dis-heartening someone with just a look, pretty certain the mentaility that good MMA could give you would cover that. (Though that is irrelevant, to self help.

3. "That's all they view it as"- No they do not, many MMAist and myslef included would thank you to stop perpetuating that stereotype.

To believe that the physical practise of virtues such as courage, dedication, commitment, sincerity and ultimatly the self reflection of hard work will not bring about a cultivation of spiritual and self growth seems to completely miss what it means in the MA world to cultivate the spirit.

Martial arts nowadays (now that the primary function of war has gone) are about developing yourself through the physical action of the body, the spiritual aspect of martial arts lies in the physical virtues not vague esoteric elitism.
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