Working on inner and outer game simultaneously can only serve to improve you as a whole. Gambler mentions using affirmations-daily but also to help get you "in the zone".
You don't need to be reading this shit to yourself in a mirror but once a day when you get up should frame your mood positively. For example:
I am good looking, charming, interesting, intelligent, creative, fun and energetic man. Women are lucky to have me. I have the confidence to approach any woman I want. I am a PUA etc. etc.
Of course your affirmations have to be specific to you. It might feel odd and a bit gimmicky but it sets the mood for the rest of the day.
[b]Listen to Tony- he's fucking awesome.[/b]
[b]A quick note on successful people (I stumbled upon this)[/b]
[quote]1. Repeatedly successful people respond instantly! If something isn’t working out, they respond. If an important relationship is cooling down, they take time to renew it. When technology or a new competitor or a change in the economic situation requires an adjustment, they are the first and quickest to respond.
2. They work hard! Yes, they play hard, too! They get up early, they rarely complain, they expect performance from others, but they expect extraordinary performance from themselves. Repeated, high-level success starts with a recognition that hard work pays off.
3. They are incredibly curious and eager to learn. They study, ask questions and read—constantly! An interesting point, however: While most of them did well in school, the difference is that they apply or take advantage of what they learn. Repeated success is not about memorizing facts, it’s about being able to take information and create, build, or apply it in new and important ways. Successful people want to learn everything about everything!
4. They network. They know lots of people, and they know lots of different kinds of people. They listen to friends, neighbours, co- workers and bartenders. They don’t have to be “the life of the party,” in fact many are quiet, even shy, but they value people and they value relationships. Successful people have a Rolodex full of people who value their friendship and return their calls.
5. They work on themselves and never quit! While the “over-night wonders” become arrogant and quickly disappear, really successful people work on their personality, their leadership skills, management skills, and every other detail of life. When a relationship or business deal goes sour, they assume they can learn from it and they expect to do better next time. Successful people don’t tolerate flaws; they fix them!
6. They are extraordinarily creative. They go around asking, “Why not?” They see new combinations, new possibilities, new opportunities and challenges where others see problems or limitations. They wake up in the middle of the night yelling, “I’ve got it!” They ask for advice, try things out, consult experts and amateurs, always looking for a better, faster, cheaper solution. Successful people create stuff!
7. They are self-reliant and take responsibility. Incredibly successful people don’t worry about blame, and they don’t waste time complaining. They make decisions and move on. Extremely successful people take the initiative and accept the responsibilities of success.
8. They are usually relaxed and keep their perspective. Even in times of stress or turmoil, highly successful people keep their balance; they know the value of timing, humour, and patience. They rarely panic or make decisions on impulse. Unusually successful people breathe easily, ask the right questions, and make sound decisions, even in a crisis.
9. Extremely successful people live in the present moment. They know that “Now” is the only time they can control. They have a “gift” for looking people in the eye & listening to what is being said. They never seem rushed, and they get a lot done! They take full advantage of each day. Successful people don’t waste time, they use it!
10. They observe trends, notice changes, see shifts, and hear the nuances that others miss. A basketball player wearing Nikes is trivial, the neighbour kid wearing them is interesting, your own teenager demanding them is an investment opportunity! Extremely successful people live in the present, with one eye on the future![/quote]
[b]Finally. There are two ways you can live your life.[/b]
(Credit Hypnomatt @ http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/
[quote]Option 1: You can accept responsibility for where you are in life, take control of your actions and put the work in. You make realistic goals and work hard on them. You associate with those people who you want be associated with. You don’t blame other people for your failures and you genuinely add value to people’s lives.
Option 2: You get what is given. Things happen to you which aren’t fair. You want to tell people about your problems and why things didn’t work out the way you wanted. You always have excuses and reasons why not to do something new or different, yet what you are currently doing makes you unhappy.
Life is fair. There is no point being bitter at the world for having being dealt a lousy hand in life, it is how you play it that counts. You are at the the centre of your problems and only you can make the change to actually focus on solutions. Until you reach that point, you are your own worst enemy.[/quote]
Don't suppress your emotions, they're what make you human. Feel sad, cry when you need to. But how can you expect to nail your inner game if you're sad, depressed and narrow minded?
I'm not claiming to be right. I'm sharing information that has inspired me. This is a fantastic thread and I will be keeping my eye on it.