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| Author: | brodel [ Tue May 13, 2008 7:34 am ] |
| Post subject: | afc's..on keeping a confident mindset |
I have developed a viewpoint that some may find to be common knowledge. however i didn't become aware of this perspective until recently. being confident does not me just "pretending" to feel confident. Being confident is avoiding any kind of thoughts that have you second guessing yourself or questioning yourself. U must be confident at ALL times and believe that nothing you do is wrong.. always. you must believe that you are not being confident because women find confidence attractive... you are confident because you are the shit and this women is lucky to be in the presence of you. the second that you start to question yourself in anyway while interacting with a women she will sense that you do not believe in yourself almost telepathically. and the attraction for you will diminish quickly. however this also includes analyzing the interaction. lately I am trying not to analyze my game while I am in the process of gaming women.. although I am confident in myself I sometimes over analyze certain things in my head while i'm interacting with a woman. Once a women senses that you are analyzing the situation and yourself, the illusion that you are some super attractive interesting ultra confident casanova will disappear in her head and you will be just another dude. feel. dont think |
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| Author: | tsar [ Tue May 13, 2008 11:14 pm ] |
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right on my man, nice post, stay outside of your head because once your back in there you are no longer just leading the interaction naturally but looking for the next routine or line to say next. (credit TD and the Blueprint decoded) |
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| Author: | brodel [ Wed May 14, 2008 1:54 am ] |
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perhaps you are right. one might be able to analyze the situation and the outer game is still unaffected. im not that good right now though i can tell you that |
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| Author: | tsar [ Wed May 14, 2008 3:18 am ] |
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i see wat ur driving at cranberry but going in and out is easier said than done, usually witty comments occur without thinking "oh wat should i say?", u just say wats on ur mind without thinking about it and comes out right on the spot smoothly and effortlessly, TD discusses this is in great detail on blueprint decoded (highly reccomended). The bottom line is that in my opinion its far better to stay outside your head than inside your head, if u can trace back to results you got when u were completely emerged in ur head and when u were outside ur head, which gave better results? |
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| Author: | brodel [ Wed May 14, 2008 11:14 pm ] |
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Yes I try to analyze interactions once they are over not while during. Always try to go back and analyze then afterwards and can pinpoint good and bad things. |
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| Author: | brodel [ Thu May 15, 2008 7:04 am ] |
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Quote: What you wana try to do is get into a flow state. Thats a term psychology uses for being "in the zone." Google it, find out how to get into it. When you're in a flow state, you'll be on your best wit.
I am a very witty person and there are times when I am in a flow state.. almost like im channeling the humor and energy from somewhere else. Some members in my extended family could be stand up comedians they are so goodIn a flow state one experiences a loss of the feeling of self-consciousness, and the merging of action and awareness. Also, the reason people go into their heads and over-analyze is because they are neurotic. What's neuroticism? It's a personality trait that means being overly anxious. I find that having a multitudinous of things to be neurotic about in life can span that anxiouness, so it's not all being channeled in one place. Meaning, if you've got a lot of activities on your plate, anxiousness will be divided among them, leaving the psyche satisfied. Idk, i hope that makes sense. Consider this: you get a girl friend. You fall in love. She consumes your thoughts. And now, you're no longer overanalyzing things because your too busy thinking about this girl. This has happened to me many times. And with each relationship, I feel like I have moved forward in the field of social interactions/confidence/self esteem every time. But girls arent the only thing that can lower neuroticism/make you happy. They are however, the most challenging and rewarding. Ive always wanted to find a way to control the flow state.. normally it just happens for me and i dont know why... but either way everyone becomes magnettic to me. Now that you have revealed the term "flow state" on here.. im going to do some serious searching.. Thanks! |
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| Author: | dfvxc [ Sun May 18, 2008 3:37 am ] |
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Quote: What you wana try to do is get into a flow state. Thats a term psychology uses for being "in the zone." Google it, find out how to get into it. When you're in a flow state, you'll be on your best wit.
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In a flow state one experiences a loss of the feeling of self-consciousness, and the merging of action and awareness. Also, the reason people go into their heads and over-analyze is because they are neurotic. What's neuroticism? It's a personality trait that means being overly anxious. I find that having a multitudinous of things to be neurotic about in life can span that anxiouness, so it's not all being channeled in one place. Meaning, if you've got a lot of activities on your plate, anxiousness will be divided among them, leaving the psyche satisfied. Idk, i hope that makes sense. Consider this: you get a girl friend. You fall in love. She consumes your thoughts. And now, you're no longer overanalyzing things because your too busy thinking about this girl. This has happened to me many times. And with each relationship, I feel like I have moved forward in the field of social interactions/confidence/self esteem every time. But girls arent the only thing that can lower neuroticism/make you happy. They are however, the most challenging and rewarding. |
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| Author: | AFCtimes10 [ Fri Jul 11, 2008 7:47 am ] |
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yea i absolutely agree with you, but its much easier said than done. I try to be confident, but inside i know that im not and that its really a front. You know how you feel when your lying? its like that, but all the time. Should i just fake it til i make it? i just cant believe in myself enough to pull that shit off. . . .but your absolutely right about the mindset. just wish i could get it too |
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| Author: | ConvAZN [ Sat Jul 12, 2008 12:39 am ] |
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I'm going to toss something out here that I think many of us may not quite realize yet - BEING A PUA IS MORE THAN JUST ROUTINE PICK UP LINES A lot of us here get this misconception that if we learn these rules, if we learn to ask these questions, tell these stories, we'd get the ladies. Routines and stories gets old quick. Telling yourself to be confident twenty four - seven becomes exhausting after awhile. Being an effective PUA also means being interesting and, to an extent, a Jack of all trades. At the very least, a Jack of a dozen trades. One of the first thing many of us should've picked up on during our first month or so in this forum is that many of the successful PUAs here constantly make references to books. Not just books on how to be a PUA, but self-help books. Books on psychology and social interaction. If you haven't tried to get any of them, go find them and read them! Secondly, it doesn't hurt to have a few hobbies. Take up hiking on the weekend, once a month. Boating, jet skying, photography, painting, music. This in turns gives you a life outside of routines and gives you something to talk about when routines are all gone! There's appearing to be interesting, then there is actually BEING interesting. Which one are you? These hobbies also help to foster a strong self-image. Nothing breeds confidence like success and nothing breeds success like confidence. The more goals you've set for yourself and accomplished, the more valid your self-confidence is to you! This will help build and maintain a healthy ego. Ego will help attract someone to you naturally. A strong ego is like a good car on the social highway. If you have a good strong ego, you'll be able to navigate easier through social interactions with people and you can do it with style! Great PUAs have a great amount of healthy ego. They can steer a conversation wherever they want, because people are caught up in their ego and want to be around them. |
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| Author: | roberto64 [ Fri Sep 12, 2008 4:13 am ] |
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i guess the only way of practising this is by going out every night and calibrate that mind set in to your brain saight |
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