One of the things you gotta develop as a man is strong personal boundaries. And personal boundaries
basically mean that you know how to say NO, and sometimes put people and situations in the right
place.
So if you sent that letter, and got a response, and your team responded the way it did - you don't come
on the forum to bitch about it.
But you step into your office and you say, "You know guys, I have something on my chest I want to get
off. I sent that letter because none of you were willing to put your neck out there, but I knew something
had to be done. I don't expect anything from you, but I would appreciate if you don't comment about it.
If you feel you could have done a better job, my question is why didn't you? I appreciate you all. "
And to him, say this: "Hey man, you know I was giving you free lifts so far, but if you'd like me to
give you a ride again, my car doesn't run on water. So you are welcome to chip in. I will understand
if you'd rather take the bus."
Or simply say "No, I can't take you today." Without really explaining it.
If you don't stand up for yourself, you'll be fucked your entire life. Draw the line somewhere.
My point is confront + EXPRESS yourself. Say what's on your soul, but let it come from the purest part of
you, not the butthurt ego. You'll win every time.
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