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I took a personality test and it either comes up ENFP or INFP. INFPs tend to idealize women there interested in, if that's any help.
That's your problem right there. I have developed this trait quite recently and it is annoying the crap out of me. I get succesfull in field, kiss close or good convo or something. And I get all Walt Disney on a girl I don't even know yet.
You need to start talking to yourself and tell yourself that you don't know these women and that they might have upsides, but they will also have downsides. Humans are quite weak. They make mistakes and hurt each other. Idealizing women is one of the most self destructive things you can do.
Also: have a more "attraction" mentality versus a "seduction" mentality. It's not cool if you have to "seduce". It's cooler if the girl is into YOU, and wants YOU for who YOU are. If you keep having to distort reality to make a women perfect for you, you will get hurt and probably hurt the girl as well.
REad stuff on relationships and self confidence and you will find such answers. Hope this helps! I'm sure glad to read I'm not alone with this.