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PostPosted: Wed Jun 18, 2014 11:05 am 
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27 CONFIDENCE QUALITIES

So there's been a lot of talk as to what makes a guy
confident as a man.

I thought about this for 2 years now, and came up with
a list of 27 qualities that confident guy have.

I'll list them down one after the other, and as you read
through them, I have a mission for you.

Try to notice which ones stand out to you the most. The ones
that do are probably the qualities that you know you have
within you, but at the same time you're not letting out
on the surface.

Let's start.

1. Ability to CONFRONT people,
uncomfortable conversations
and uncomfortable situations when you know that is the right thing
to do.

2. Staying CENTERED and keeping your power and not trying
to control the uncontrollable, like how other people respond
to you. Walking your path without feeling like a ping-pong
ball, not being affected by the world around you. Keeping
your energy within things you can control.

3. Ability to be PRESENT in the moment and fully experience
a situation, whether it's a positive or a negative situation,
be it with a person or by yourself without judgement.

4. Ability to STAND YOUR GROUND, protect something you believe
in be it a belief, opinion or a cause. Not let people push you
around and treat you like a baby. To be a strong force and
standing on your boundary.

5. Seeing yourself as the INFLUENCER rather than the victim. Recognizing
yourself as the CAUSE of all things in life and your power to respond
how ever you want. Ability to influence something or somebody and knowing
you have the power over the situation and not the other way around.

6. Being OK with feeling VULNERABLE and exposed in front of others
about your ideas, desires and interests and being OK with people
saying NO to you.

7. Ability to handle FAILURE and accepting it as a natural part of
success in anything. Not fearing it, but embracing it and working
with the help of it.

8. Ability to ACCEPT YOURSELF fully, and be OK with you really are
without feeling like there is something wrong with you or that
you are not good enough.

9. Ability to VALUE yourself, your skills and abilities, your
in born qualities and characteristics and not de-valuing them
in front of other people. To know what you have to offer and
what you have to bring to the table.

10. Ability TO BE INDIFFERENT and not attached to a specific outcome
or a person. Knowing there is always ANOTHER person, opportunity etc.

11. Willingness to DO YOUR BEST and BE your best. Not slacking off
or cutting corners. Not tolerating second best from yourself when you
know there's more to you then what you're showing. To give your best value
to people or your ideas.

12. The ability to PERSIST even when you want to quit. To keep on going
even when it becomes tough and things aren't working out the way you
wanted them.

13. The ability to DISCIPLINE yourself to do something even though you
don't feel like doing it, because you know it is what you should do.

14. Ability to use COURAGE to do what you believe is the right thing
to do or say, even if you feel uncomfortable or afraid or your voice
is trembling.

15. The ability to be INDEPENDENT and to think with your own head and not
rely on others to tell you what to do. To make decisions for yourself
independent of other people opinions.

16. The ability to NOT SEEK ACCEPTANCE and APPROVAL from other people
but to accept and approve of yourself first.

17. Ability to be incredibly HONEST and BLUNT with people when it's
time to do so and say what needs to be said, even if it is extremely uncomfortable for
both of you.

18. The ability to MAKE TOUGH DECISIONS, especially when
some sort of loss or hurt is involved with making them.

19. Ability to STAY on your own COURSE even when other, tempting distractions
are available - like new shiny opportunities.

20. Ability to produce your own feeling of SAFETY and SECURITY and affirm
to yourself that you're going to be OK no matter what.

21. Ability to take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for your life and the results you
get, and not give that power to influence your life to other people through
blame or playing a victim. Seeing yourself as the CAUSE of everything and
being aware of how the actions you do create the consequences - positive
and negative.

22. Ability to be HONEST with yourself when it's time to answer
the question "What's really the right thing for me to do?".

23. The ability to be AUTHENTIC and who you really are, and not fake
or pretend or act someone you would like to be so you can appear
cooler, more confident or better.

24. Ability to ASSERT yourself, to claim your spot in the world and
feel that you DESERVE to exist, walk with confidence, take space,
speak up when you want to, have women, a normal sex life, friends, money
success, to be listened to. Feel that you DESERVE and asserting yourself
and your right to exist.

25.The ability to COMMIT to a person or a cause and let go the equally
attractive thing that you sacrifice by committing.

27. The ability to SACRIFICE momentary pleasure for a long term gain like
not eating that delicious sandwich right now because you want to look fit in the future.

27. Ability to promise to yourself that you will do whatever it takes to succeed,
that you will defy the odds and that circumstance is not going
to direct your life and push you around. That you will persist UNTIL.

So these are the 27 qualities of confident men. Do you see yourself
in any of these? Which qualities stuck with you? Which qualities
would you most like to have?

You might want to copy and paste them into your word processor, print
them out and hang them in your room. Read them often. Internalize
them into your behavior.

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WHAT GIVES A GUY THAT STRONG INNER CONFIDENCE

You hear me talk a lot about confidence. I talked about the two kinds of confidence.
The one in the moment and general confidence we have about ourselves.

Now I want to ask you, what do you think ultimately gives a guy that strong inner
confidence?


Is it the money?

Is it his looks?

Is it his physical strenghts?

While I do think all these things help you with feeling confident, ultimately that's not what
will give you that strong feeling inside.

I believe there is one key thing that will give you that strong inner confidence you
want for yourself.

That thing is being on TOP of your life.

Let me explain:

When I say on TOP of your life, I don't mean on TOP as in you've made it to the top and
you're now famous and rich and pretty.

No.

I mean on TOP of your life as in you have your life under control.

You feel that you're LIVING UP to your life's challenges and that you're not
a victim of it.

Imagine a bull rider - he get's on top of the bull, and then the bull starts jumping
and trying to shake him off.

That bull is a lot like life.

It's rough.

It will shake you and try to break you - wanting you to fall.

But if you give your best and more, you will probably stay on TOP of that bull called life.

And even if you fall, you'll probably get up and get on it again, and again, and
again...untill you eventually succeed.

So do you feel like you're on TOP of your life, or that life is on TOP of you?

Do you feel in control of your life, or that your life is in control of you?

If you don't feel like on TOP and in control...WHY don't you??

Which parts of your life are you allowing to dominate you?

Is it your finances? Do you have some debt that you feel you don't have much control
over?

Is it your work? Do you feel incapable at performing at your best at your work? If yes, why?
Are you lacking any skills or knowledge? What can you do to turn it around?

Is it your health and fitness? Do you have some extra pounds on your waist and
can't seem to get motivated to lose it?

There's a saying that how you do anything is how you do everything. And if you don't
feel like you're on top of an area of your life, that probably affects all the other areas of
your life as well.

So I want to encourage you to take an honest evaluation of your life and ask yourself,

Am I on TOP of my life?

Am I on TOP of my finances and debt? Do I have goals and a plan for how much money
I want to have?

Am I on TOP of my work? Am I doing my best or am I slacking off and cutting corners?
What can I do to be better at my work? Are there any skills I need to learn and
classes I can take?

Am I on TOP with my health and fitness? Am I satisfied with how my body looks
when I look at it in the mirror? Do I feel OK or do I need to do something about it?

Am I on TOP of my confidence with women? Am I comfortable in their presence
and confident, or is there some stuff I need to handle? How can I handle it?
Are there some books I can read, people to speak to, classess to attend?

I want to encourage you not to NEGLECT your life. Because how you do
anything is how you do everything. And if you neglect an area of your life
it WILL show up in your confidence.

Being PASSIVE about an area of your life that is bothering you and not doing anything
about it will basicaly destroy your sense of confidence.

Because remember, how you do anything is how you do everything.

Don't neglect.

Assess what's not working in your life and get on TOP of it.

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4 KEY "CONFIDENCE WITH WOMEN" PRINCIPLES

Ok, so in one of my previous posts I talked about 27 confidence principles.

And after studying these principles for years, I've thought about what are the
most important principles when it comes to your confidence with women.

I've discovered that there are 4 KEY PRINCIPLES of confidence, that together form a powerful mindset
if you want to feel, think and be confident with women.

It took me a long time to digest everything I ever learned about confidence
and distill it down to just 4 main principles.

And let me start with a bold promisse: If you read through these principles, and you apply
just 10% of it in your BEHAVIOR with women, you will DRAMATICALLY improve your confidence
with women.


These 4 principles are the most powerful 4 things you will ever learn anywhere about
how to be more confident with women. Period.

So let's get into them.

The 4 confidence principles are:

1. AUTHENTICITY
2. INDIFFERENCE
3. VULNERABILITY
4. LEADERSHIP


Let's start with the 1st one

1st confidence principle: AUTHENTICITY

So what is authenticity? And why is it important when it comes to your confidence
with women?

In my experience, when guys are around women, they feel insecure, shy, afraid, doubtful
weak and awkward.

However, their natural or a knee-jerk reaction "thing" to do is to try to PRETEND that they
are cooler, smarter, more confident, more assured, more secure, etc.

And at the same time, they try to HIDE how they REALLY feel. So when they
feel insecure, afraid, doubtful or awkward, they try to hide that and display an aura
of confidence that isn't real.

They try to MASK their true nature and personality and display someone they are not.

However, one of the things that a woman is always asking in the back of her mind
is, "Is this guy REAL?"

Have you ever talked with a friend, and when you said, "What's up?" he said he was OK but
you could feel that he wasn't really OK...and that something was in the background?

What's the feeling you got?

That's the same feeling a woman gets when you're not being real with her.

When you are in your head, thinking about how you look and trying to appear
cooler or something you're not, she's going to FEEL it.

And get a weird feeling about you.

And not matter which technique or line you use, she is just going to feel that
something isn't completely OK...just like when you talk with your friend.

On the flip side, a guy who can be AUTHENTIC and REAL about who he is, and
not feel ashamed or embarassed that he is what he is...

...but shows himself unapologeticly and without seeking approval of her...

That guy is going to make a MUCH BIGGER IMPRESSION on the girl.

Why?

Because the biggest irony of all is that the more you TRY to impress the
girl, the LESS you will actually impress her.

And the more you are just REAL with who you are and you're not trying
to impress anyone, the more likely it is that people will be impressed
about you.

Authenticity is about being OK with who you are. It's about being real with your true
nature - and not try to play a part of someone else.

It's so hard to pretend - and it's so easy to be us.

The reason why we hide who we really are and try to pretend is because we simply don't feel we are
OK the way we are.

A lot of it has to do with the PUA advice out there, which is basically saying to us that:

The way you are right now, is not good enough. And a woman will never like you the way
you are. So you need to pretend that you're someone else and never show who you really
are.


But my message is different. I'm saying that you shouldn't HIDE your true self and pretend
someone else, even if you think that playing somebody else would impress the woman.

Don't care about IMPRESSION.

Care about EXPRESSION.

If you're SHY, don't hide it...SHOW it.

If you're INSECURE...don't hide it...SHOW it.

If you're AFRAID of talking to her...TELL her that.

For all of you who are shaking your head in disbelief on how "This would never work..." let me
tell you why this wouldn't work.

The only way this wouldn't work is if you are ASHAMED of yourself as you're showing who
you are.

If you want to make Authenticity work for you, you gotta be OK with WHO you are.

So if you're insecure, be OK with feeling insecure.

If you're scared of talking to her, be OK with feeling scared.

If you're insecure about yourself and how you look, be OK with being insecure.

Don't JUDGE yourself and be your biggest enemy. There is an immense power
in being OK with yourself.

So ask yourself, do you feel OK with who you are inside?

Do you feel you are GOOD ENOUGH by the way you are?

Or do you feel like there is something fundementally WRONG with who you are, and that
you should hide it from others?

When you're with a girl and talking, do you feel like YOU...or do you feel like
you're trying to be someone you're not?

Ask yourself, what are the things you're not OK with abour yourself?

I remember watching this movie about some teenagers, and a group of them got drunk and
one of them asked the group who of them was a virgin.

This one guy raises his hand and says, "I am...", with total cool and composure.

He was totally OK with being a virgin and didn't try to hide it.

At this point, this one girl says to him, "You are so cool..."

Why?

Because it takes a lot of GUTS to be who you really are and be OK with it.

That's why being REAL is the rearest thing in the world. EVERYBODY are trying to pretend,
and the ones who aren't are ashamed of who they are.

But if you can stand up and announce to the world who you really are, and be completely OK
with every part of you (even your big nose lol), you will create an amazing
AURA of attractivness and coolness around you.

The more you TRY to be cool, the less cool you will be.

So again, think about, what are the parts that you're trying to hide from others?

Is it your appearance?

Is it how you feel inside?

Is it some insecurity you have?

The first step is to be completely OK with it and be REAL with women. Just show that
and be unapologetic about it. Say,

"This is who I am... I love myself and accept myself completely. I am OK the way I am
and don't need your approval or acceptance..."


Let me say this final thing about authenticity: Whenever you're hiding who you are
and trying to pretend to be someone you're not, you are BETRAYING yourself...and your
confidence takes a huge HIT.

So don't do it. Be AUTHENTIC and REAL.

2nd Confidence Principle: INDIFFERENCE

The second confidence principle is indifference. We talked about how authenticity
is being OK with who you are.

Well Indifference is being OK with not getting the thing you want, whether it be a girls phone
number, kiss, sex, anything.

I know I know...you're probably thinking, easier said than done.

True. When you see that hot girl, and you see those high heels and amazing legs with
a world class ass - you can't really help yourself. It's automatic to want her.

What I mean by indifference is not that you don't have desires for women.

It's OK that you have desires for women...and it's also OK that you act on those desires by
walking over there and starting a conversation with them.

But where the desire crosses the line is when the desire turns into neediness.

So you'd be talking with a girl and you would just think about how you NEED her phone
number...and you NEED to keep her there talking with you.

INDIFFERENCE on the other hand gives you an aura of confidence.

Most people are walking around attached on some outcome.

If you follow the principle of indifference, you let go of the outcomes.

And it can sound like a really complicated thing to do, but indifference is really about
just LETTING GO.

I always say that to have a conversation with a woman, you need to LET HER GO
first.


You gotta be OK with her leaving the conversation before you even start talking.

Just say to yourself, "I let go of the need to get this girl's number or date or anything. I
am OK with this girl leaving this conversation and not being here."


Try saying this to yourself next time you start a conversation with a girl, and see the
effect you'll have on her.

Indifference will relax you and your mind. You'll be able to lean back and just enjoy
the conversation.

You won't be on your toes on what to say next because the girl might leave.

You'll be able to show your REAL self and talk with her as comfortably as you talk with
your best friend.

3rd Confidence Principle: VULNERABILITY

The next principle is vulnerability.

People who feel insecure and lack confidence feel like they have to keep their GUARD up
all the time.

But confident people are OK with being vulnerable.

There is something really PRIVATE going on in us when we want to talk to a girl we like.

It's as if our deepest desires come out...and we feel ashamed of them...and vulnerable
about showing those desires.

And we feel that being rejected by a woman is the worst and most painful thing that
can ever happen to us.

And that's why they hide their interest for a girl.

If you want to be confident, please understand that you can not live in your world of guard-up
all the time.

You got to be willing to let your guard down and be OK with things not working the way you
wanted them.

You gotta be OK with saying to a girl "I like you" ... and her not liking you back.

You gotta let go of living in fear of people hurting you.

Be OK with being vulnurable.

You gotta be ok with showing parts of you that you think are private, and have people
say "No" to you.

Because the inability to expose yourself and show vulnurability is the BIGGEST obstacle to your
confidence with women.

Ask yourself, how can you feel more SAFE to open up and be vulnurable with people?

How can you let down some of your guards and be more open and accepting with people?

How can you be more OK with women saying No to you when you show your interest?

How can you not get crushed by a girl who doesn't like you back?

Think about it.

Principle no. 4: LEADERSHIP

Leadership is the 4th and final principle of confidence. Leadership is about leading the
way.

Confident people don't expect others to show them what to do. Confident guys don't
expect the girl to lead the way.

They lead.

When it's time to walk over there and say something, they lead the way.

When it comes the time to make the conversation happen, they lead it.

When it's time to ask for her number, they take control over the situation, lead and ask
her for it.

People with low or no self-confidence want to be LED by others. They don't want
to take that painful responsibility to be the one who has to make it happen.

If you take one look at people who appear to have low self-confidence, you'll see that
they are walking around lost and confused, looking for someone to FOLLOW.

They don't lead themselves in their life, let alone the woman.

So ask yourself, how are you with leading yourself?

When it's time to step up and make things happen, what do you do? Do you take the lead, or
do you expect others to lead you?

When you're with a woman, do you man up - step up and take the lead...or do you chicken
out, pass out control and expect the girl to lead?

Lead.

So these are the 4 confidence principles.

And again to repeat my promisse, if you follow these 4 principles and implement just 10%
of them in your BEHAVIOR with women, you will see a DRAMATIC difference in your confidence.

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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO "KNOW WHO YOU ARE"...AND HOW TO
DISCOVER IT


I always hear guys say, "I just don't know who I am".

But what does this mean?

What does it mean to know WHO you are?

And most importantly, how do you discover who you are?

Well, knowing who you are means that you know what your default behavior
and personality is.

It means that you have found your place in the world, you know in what
kind of league of people you belong.

It means that you know your qualities and what makes you different than other
people.

It means that you have developed your own unique way of looking at things and
understanding the world.

And it means that you know your real personality and behavior.

People who don't know who they are haven't discovered themselves and found
their natural behavior in the world.

They can be angry dudes one day, and gentle cats the second.

They can be very logical on Monday, and then think "Ah screw this I'm more
emotional" on Thursday.

Knowing who you are means that you found what I call your "Ground Zero", or
your natural being.

It means that you have found who you are at your CORE.

In my experience, you can't really figure this out by just reading a book.

To get to know yourself, you actually gotta go away from books and
videos and learning...and go out and experience the world, life and yourself.

When I was trying to discover "Who" I was, I was first flying all over the
place.

On some days I thought I found my place in the intellectuals and tried
to talk like them, and on the other I thought I was more of a gangsta
dude and trying to talk all gangsta.

But the way I discovered who I am was by going out and trying a lot of stuff that, and here's
the key, DIDN'T FEEL LIKE ME.

I pushed my comfort zone and did things that felt unnatural. Because you know how they
say you get to know life when you reach the point of death?

It's kind of like that with getting to know yourself. When you reach the "limit" of who you
think you are and you cross it, it starts to be really clear to you on who you are.


So in my journey, I decided I'm going to try out as much people as I could and try to
get out of my skin.

So I went and...

> Hung out with intellectual people.

> Hung out with gangsta people.

> Hung out with gentle seducers.

> Hung out with people who are all about fun and adventure.

I tried sky diving, motorcycle riding, hitch-hiking, travelling without money, working in
construction in dust and dirt
, doing Karaoke even though I suck at singing, speaking
up when I felt uncomfortable, and on and on.

I essence, I did the things that felt the least like *ME* and by doing that, I found
who "ME" really was.

And through trying out different kinds of people, and different kinds of behaviors,
I discovered where I belong and where I don't belong.

I found my league of people.

I discovered that I am not in the league of average people who are trying to just
get by in life.

I discovered I was more and that I should do more than what I was doing.

I found where I belong, and I found my place in the world.

> So you can try religion, and see if that's where you belong.

> You can try business and see if that's where you belong.

> You can try being a commedian and see if that's where you belong.

> You can try traveling without money and wash dishes to pay your lunch

> You can get a job that feels the least like you and see how you feel.

Try to get out of yourself and out of your comfort zone...do things
that feel really like "NOT" you...because that's how you will discover
who you are.

Remember the saying, to get to know life you gotta get close to death.

And to get to know yourself you gotta do things that feel the least like you.

The more you get out of who you think you are, the more the picture
of who you really are will become clear.

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A Natural Way To Meeting Women

A very common advice that you get when you want to get better
with women is that you should "just go out and force yourself to approach as
many women as you can".


I not only think this is bad advice and you shouldn't listen to it, but
I also think that doing that will do the OPPOSITE of getting good with
women.

You see, when you go out with the intention of "Approaching Women" you
put yourself in a state of goal-attachment...

And this whole attitude of going out and approaching women gives you a weird
vibe of "I don't have much to do, so I'm out here just trying to get a girl".

I suggest you do something else.

Instead of intentionally going out to meet women, I suggest you take a look
at where you naturally go during your day
...

And notice the NATURAL OPPORTUNITIES to talk to women.

So for example, if during your day you go to work, and on the way there
you stop to get coffee from Starbucks, where a cute girl is working behind the
counter...

That's a natural opportunity to SAY something.

Maybe after work you go to the mall where you buy a shirt of a pair
of jeans
...and there's a cute girl checking out her shirt too...

That's a natural opportunity to say something.

Maybe you take a walk after work in the park, and as you're walking, you see
a girl sitting on the bench, reading a book and looking bored.

What do you do?

It's a NATURAL opportunity to SAY Something.

When you do this instead of going out to intentionally meeting women, you put
yourself in a different state - because you have a PURPOSE for being there other
than "Trying to meet women".

> You are less needy and self-conscious.

> You have a different energy.

> You have a different vibe about you.

What if you don't go out much?

Everybody has SOMEWHERE to go, even if it's the groceries.

You have to pay your utilities bill.

If you use an online banking system to do that, try going and paying them behind
the counter in the bank or the post office.

Go out more.

If you think about getting a new TV, instead of looking it online, go
to Best Buy and check it out there.

Go out more.

If you're drinking tea alone in your apartment, every now and then
go to a bar and drink your tea there.

Go out more.

So what I'm saying is that you DO have opportunities to just get out
more.

You just gotta OPEN your eyes to the opportunities.

Notice where do you go during your day, and spot the NATURAL opportunities
to talk to people - and women.

And also, don't make your intention to "Pick-up" women.

Again, just having that intention is going to make your whole
energy weird and un-natural.

If you want to make approaching and meeting women NATURAL for yourself, then
change your outlook on it.

Change how you see yourself from a "Pick-Up artist" who's out there to pick-up
girls...

To a guy who is casually going about his day and is being SOCIAL,
meaning meeting people and women.

Make your intention to be SOCIAL, and to SAY SOMETHING to people
more.

So see yourself as a SOCIAL person who's out there to meet people, and it just
so happens that some of them are women.

When a girl is putting her number in your phone, don't see it as YES! I got her number!

... But see it as "I'm being social and meeting people. I'm curious what kind
of a person she is..."


Get it?

Let me recap:

> Instead of purposefully going out to meet women, go about your day and spot
NATURAL opportunities to meet women

> When you see a natural opportunity, SAY Something.

> If you don't go out much, try to see what are some of the opportunities that
to go out in your life today, and go with them. Go out more.

> Change how you see yourself from a "Pick-Up-Artist" to a guy who is out there
and is just being SOCIAL. This will make your energy and aura more natural and attractive.

If you want to learn more tips on how to be confident
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A Natural Way To Meeting Women

A very common advice that you get when you want to get better
with women is that you should "just go out and force yourself to approach as
many women as you can".


I not only think this is bad advice and you shouldn't listen to it, but
I also think that doing that will do the OPPOSITE of getting good with
women.

You see, when you go out with the intention of "Approaching Women" you
put yourself in a state of goal-attachment...

And this whole attitude of going out and approaching women gives you a weird
vibe of "I don't have much to do, so I'm out here just trying to get a girl".

I suggest you do something else.

Instead of intentionally going out to meet women, I suggest you take a look
at where you naturally go during your day
...

And notice the NATURAL OPPORTUNITIES to talk to women.

So for example, if during your day you go to work, and on the way there
you stop to get coffee from Starbucks, where a cute girl is working behind the
counter...

That's a natural opportunity to SAY something.

Maybe after work you go to the mall where you buy a shirt of a pair
of jeans
...and there's a cute girl checking out her shirt too...

That's a natural opportunity to say something.

Maybe you take a walk after work in the park, and as you're walking, you see
a girl sitting on the bench, reading a book and looking bored.

What do you do?

It's a NATURAL opportunity to SAY Something.

When you do this instead of going out to intentionally meeting women, you put
yourself in a different state - because you have a PURPOSE for being there other
than "Trying to meet women".

> You are less needy and self-conscious.

> You have a different energy.

> You have a different vibe about you.

What if you don't go out much?

Everybody has SOMEWHERE to go, even if it's the groceries.

You have to pay your utilities bill.

If you use an online banking system to do that, try going and paying them behind
the counter in the bank or the post office.

Go out more.

If you think about getting a new TV, instead of looking it online, go
to Best Buy and check it out there.

Go out more.

If you're drinking tea alone in your apartment, every now and then
go to a bar and drink your tea there.

Go out more.

So what I'm saying is that you DO have opportunities to just get out
more.

You just gotta OPEN your eyes to the opportunities.

Notice where do you go during your day, and spot the NATURAL opportunities
to talk to people - and women.

And also, don't make your intention to "Pick-up" women.

Again, just having that intention is going to make your whole
energy weird and un-natural.

If you want to make approaching and meeting women NATURAL for yourself, then
change your outlook on it.

Change how you see yourself from a "Pick-Up artist" who's out there to pick-up
girls...

To a guy who is casually going about his day and is being SOCIAL,
meaning meeting people and women.

Make your intention to be SOCIAL, and to SAY SOMETHING to people
more.

So see yourself as a SOCIAL person who's out there to meet people, and it just
so happens that some of them are women.

When a girl is putting her number in your phone, don't see it as YES! I got her number!

... But see it as "I'm being social and meeting people. I'm curious what kind
of a person she is..."


Get it?

Let me recap:

> Instead of purposefully going out to meet women, go about your day and spot
NATURAL opportunities to meet women

> When you see a natural opportunity, SAY Something.

> If you don't go out much, try to see what are some of the opportunities that
to go out in your life today, and go with them. Go out more.

> Change how you see yourself from a "Pick-Up-Artist" to a guy who is out there
and is just being SOCIAL. This will make your energy and aura more natural and attractive.

If you want to learn more tips on how to be confident
and successful with women, the link's
in the signature.
I agree.
this is what i usually do and i never really followed the "you must go out and approach to get better" theory. But with people who have higher approach anxiety, to cure AA you may need a few of those times where you actually go out just for the sake of approaching to get a bunch of approaches in. When i go out to get things done, at max i can only get like 2-3 approaches. But when someone goes out for the sake of approaching, there are many more chances to approach.


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I agree.
this is what i usually do and i never really followed the "you must go out and approach to get better" theory. But with people who have higher approach anxiety, to cure AA you may need a few of those times where you actually go out just for the sake of approaching to get a bunch of approaches in. When i go out to get things done, at max i can only get like 2-3 approaches. But when someone goes out for the sake of approaching, there are many more chances to approach.
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This is a treasure trove of information without feeding much bullshit in between like a lot of the stuff in books and "How to fuck 50 women in one day" websites. It's concise, legible and very easy to understand with valid rational behind it.

Really appreciative of this as I know i'll be reading up on some of this stuff from time to time.


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UNABLE TO TRUST AND NEED TO CONTROL? JUST SURRENDER

One of the biggest obstacles to having that natural and relaxed inner confidence
with women, is the need to be in control too much and not allowing yourself to
let go and go with the flow.

If you're having a hard time to let go of the need to know
exactly what's going to happen and have everything under
control all the time...

Then you're not able to enjoy having a conversation without knowing
exactly what to say NEXT...

You can't relax and be who you really ARE around people, without
feeling the pressure to perform all the time...

You constantly have your GUARD up, and are suspicious about
people...

So what to do about it?

You see, the reason you're unable to trust, need to keep
control and never let go, is because you are
over-protecting yourself from something you fear might happen.

You are trying to protect yourself from feeling an
emotion:

Either:

1. Feeling REJECTED.

2. Feeling HUMILIATED.

3. Feeling USED or ABUSED.

You've probably experienced one or more of these things in the past, and
they felt so painful that today you're doing everything in your power
to protect yourself from it.


You may felt rejected in the past, and you felt so bad that you promised to
yourself, "I will never again feel rejected in my life".

So today you're trying to control every situation just so you
avoid feeling rejected.

Maybe you felt humiliated and decided to never
feel humiliated again.

Or maybe you felt used by someone, or abused, and you made a promise
that you will never open up and have somebody use you.

Ask yourself, which one of the three things are you trying
to protect yourself from?

Rejection?

Humiliation?

Feeling used?

We are naturally programmed to TRUST and be OK with not knowing
exactly what will happen in the future.

It may be useful to keep your guards up if there's a lion in
the bushes...but not to over protect yourself from feeling
a painful emotion.

When you do that, you're struggling against your natural need to trust
let go and feel safe with being you...

And if you're honest with yourself, that struggle is DRAINING.

You have to keep your guards up all the time, being very aware
about what others will do...and this just keeps your mind
busy, and makes you tired.

Not allowing your body to do what it naturally wants to do
is like not going to the bathroom after you just had a 6-pack and
driving on a bumpy road.


Ouch.

I call this The STRUGGLE.

The struggle is when your body naturally wants to let go and just be
who YOU are...
but you're stopping it because you think something
BAD could happen if you let yourself do that.

The first step to let go of control and trust, is to SURRENDER to
the struggle.


And this can be incredibly challenging.

If you've been in the struggle for a while, maybe years, you
probably can't even imagine how would it look like if you
didn't feel the struggle anymore.

You can not imagine how would it be if you could just be YOU
and relax, and not evaluate, judge and analyze everything with
your mind.

You need to understand, that you're fighting against nature.

And there is no way you can win against nature.

The only way to have the struggle go away, is to surrender, let
go of the tension and guards and shields...and just open up.

It may be a scary thing to do, but once you let go and you
surrender to your nature, you will feel liberated.

You'll feel easier, lighter and more free.

You'll feel you can do what you want.

You'll feel you can be who you really are.

So stop fighting with yourself.

Notice when you feel that pressure to control, to over-think and
put your shields up...and just surrender.

I know you probably don't like this. The idea to surrender would
mean that you somehow lost.

But when you surrender to your internal fight, and you just
let go, you win. Because the fight is your enemy. It is stopping
the real you from coming out.

You are fighting an imaginary enemy, an idea that you might
get rejected or humiliated or used by someone.

When you surrender to this fight, you win.

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CAN'T EVEN IMAGINE BEING GOOD WITH WOMEN? READ THIS.

Does it ever happen to you that as you're working your way
up and you're trying to get better with women...

You just can't even imagine yourself looking confident with them?

Is it hard for you to see yourself as being able to
start a conversation with any woman...

To continue it, and lead it to the point where you ask her for the
number...and she gives it to you?

Are you tied to your old identity of being a guy who doesn't have
success with women, that imagining anything else is just impossible
for you?

If yes, then you're not alone.

You see, one of THE biggest challenges guys face when they just
start learning this is not being able to even imagine themselves
as confident.


They can't even imagine themselves on how they'd look like if they were
ALREADY confident with women.

Maybe you had an experience of driving your old car...and as you looked
around and noticed all those new expensive cars...

It was probably hard for you to imagine having one yourself.

Sure, you were able to fantasize about it and think how cool it would be to drive
one.

But when it came to actually feeling REALISTIC that you'll be driving that
shiny new car...

You found it was harder than you thought.

Well, I believe that seeing yourself as confident is your FIRST barrier to
confidence with women.


Before you make this confidence with women a reality for yourself, you
need to SEE it in your head FIRST.


Because if you don't - no matter what you do or how hard you try...

IT JUST WON'T WORK.

> You'll do all the work but won't make much progress.

> You'll get one step ahead and then two steps back.

> And the entire journey will just suck.

So what is the solution?

How do you come to a point where being confident with
women is just realistic for you?

One simple process...

VISUALIZATION.

I know, it sounds like some B.S from a new-age movie.

But let me ask you a question...

If it is hard for you to IMAGINE being confident with women, doesn't it then
make sense to try to IMAGINE being confident with women?

Duh?

No matter what you think or believe about Visualization, it is one of the
most powerful tools of our mind.


A while ago they did this famos experiment where they took basketball players
and divided them in 2 groups, with an intention of getting better at free shots.

> The 1st group was throwing shots on the hoop and training to be better at it.

> The 2nd group was only throwing shots in their MIND through visualization.

They had them practice for 2 weeks, and the one who was just visualizing
scored a lot better
than the one who was actually throwing shots.

How can this be?

We don't know yet...but we know it works.

So here's how you visualize:

> Close your eyes, lean back, put on some nice music and
just visualize yourself having confidence.

> Notice your face expression, your body posture, the way you walk
confidently, talk confidently, hold yourself confidently.

> See yourself starting a conversation with a girl, talking with her
and both of you enjoying it...

> See and hear yourself asking confidently for her number and
her giving it to you...

> See her smiling, being kind of nervous with you and just enjoying
this entire conversation with you.

I suggest you do this when your mind is calm, for example right after
you wake up or before you fall asleep.

Take 2 minutes and just IMAGINE yourself as a person who ALREADY
has confidence with women.

Now I'm not saying that this is all that you need to do, but it is
the KEY that unlocks your progress.

So if you feel like it, do it right now. Close your eyes, and imagine
yourself as CONFIDENT with women.

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Are You Being ASSERTIVE Enough When Approaching a Woman?

Do you ever find yourself approaching a girl or saying something to her in a
way that is so timid that she can barely hear you...?

Do you feel weak and insecure in moments when you need to step up
and be strong and decisive with a girl...?

Do you approach women with almost an apologetic attitude, as if you're
so sorry for disturbing her and interrupting her life?

If you do, then you haven't yet developed a
sense of ASSERTIVENESS when approaching women.

What is ASSERTIVENESS?

You see, assertiveness is a key quality in your confidence.

It is your ability to step up, claim your stop and NOT apologize for placing
yourself in front of other people.

You can place assertiveness between passiveness and aggressiveness.

> Passiveness is when you see a girl, but you don't do anything. You don't
walk over there to start a conversation with her, but you just
observe her passively from the side.

> Aggressiveness is when you see a girl, walk over there, smack her on the
head and pull her with you and say, "You are mine".

> Assertiveness is somewhere in between passiveness and aggressiveness.

Assertiveness is when you see a girl, would like to talk with her...and you shamelessly
walk over there and ASSERT yourself into her world by saying, "Hey I saw you from
over there, and I wanted to say Hi. What's up?"


It's about standing there and not feeling like you want to run away, like you
want to leave as soon as possible and like you're some sort of an
INTERRUPTION to her life.

It's about putting yourself there and DEMANDING that she pays
attention to you and talks to you.

You take the right to have a conversation with her. You affirm that you deserve
to go there and talk to her.

You but in into her world with slight disregard of what she is doing, just because you CAN.

You see, being assertive with a woman is one of the most attractive qualities in
a man.

Why?

I used to study chimps.

Seriously.

And what I discovered was that all the monkeys have their Alpha guy in the group, who
is in charge of everything.

And as I observed the Alpha monkey, I noticed something really interesting.

> He never asked for permission to do something from others.

> If he wanted to sit somewhere, he'd just do it, disregarding whatever anyone was doing.

> If he wanted something, he'd take it, again, disregarding of anyone else.

And this Alpha monkey was the man in the group. All the females wanted to mate with him
and have his babies.

Now in our civilized world we call people who behave like that savages, jerks.

But in the animal world, that is what attracts females.

And I hate to break the bad news for you here - but sex is animalistic.

It is our inner animal that wants to come out. And if you're not a little bit of "savagy" with women,
you won't be very attractive.

So, am I saying you should behave like a monkey?

A little bit.

I want you to use a little bit of that Monkey attitude of that when you're approaching a woman.

I want you to approach women:

> Without apologizing
> Without feeling like you're interrupting her with something
> To demand attention and make your presence be known there

A woman will feel how you feel.

So if you feel awkward or like you're disturbing her...then she'll feel awkward and like
you're disturbing her.

If you put a thought in your mind "I am approaching you and you better respond to
what I have to say..."

Than this is how she will perceive you.

Get it?

So...

> Don't apologize for approaching her.

> Take the lead and approach balls out.

> Claim your spot with the girl.

> ASSERT yourself in her world without seeing yourself as an
interruption, but as something she wants.

I hope this made sense to you, and you were able to see yourself in what I just
said.

Assertiveness is extremely important and CRUCIAL when it comes to your confidence
with women. It is one of the pillars of confidence.

So use it.

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Is there anything UGLY with sex and love?

Do you ever feel like you love and crave sex and women, but at the same time you feel
some deep shame about it, and feel like there's something ugly about two people
having sex?

Does it ever happen to you that when you want to show to a girl that
you want to be more than just friends and be a bit more sexual with her...


You start feeling weird, uncomfortable and see yourself as a creep who
wants to do something "bad" with her?

If you do, what this means is that you haven't dealt with your inner beliefs about
SEXUALITY and SEX.


You see, if you feel weird about sex or talking about sex, then you probably have
one key belief about sex that is taking the pleasure out of it.

And that belief is that sex and being sexual is something wrong, dirty and ugly.

Having this belief inside will limit you more than anything else when you're speaking with a
woman.

It will make you feel nervous, anxious, uncomfortable and just weird.

So what's the cure?


How do you come to a point where you can comfortably talk about
sex with any woman, and even initiate sex with her...

WITHOUT feeling like a creep or like you're doing something wrong?

Well it's simple actually.

You see, the root cause of your feeling awkward when mentioning or talking about sex, is in
your belief that fundamentally, there is something UGLY about sex and sexuality.

A belief that there is something UGLY about two people loving each other, touching each other
and having sex with each other.

So think about it, is that is true for you?

Is there is even a slight glimpse of "Sex is wrong and ugly" inside of you?

If there is, you need to deal with it.

How?

Well the first step is for you to make it very clear with yourself that
there is NOTHING ugly about two people...

> Liking each other,
> Kissing each other,
> Touching each other and
> Having sex with each other.

You want to come to a point where you see sex and sexuality as something PURE and
beautiful
...and as the HIGHEST form of human behavior...

Instead of seeing it as the LOWEST form of human behavior.

You need to CLARIFY with yourself that sex is something beautiful...and not something UGLY.

So right now I want to give you couple of steps that you can follow, to do that.

Step #1: The first step is to discover WHAT are the beliefs you hold about sex.

Beliefs are mostly unconscious. They control our behavior without us even being aware that they
exist.

That's why it's important that we bring them to our awareness first.

So what are those beliefs that you have about sex?

> Is it that sex is ugly and bad?

> Is it that having sex is dirty?

> Is it that showing your sexual interest is creepy and weird, and that people
don't approve of it?

The first step is to RECOGNIZE all of your beliefs and put them down on a piece of paper.

So take a list of paper and a pen, and write down the answer to this question...

What I believe about sex and sexuality is...

And then just notice what comes up for you.

Chances are, you will get your basic beliefs about sexuality and sex out on the open.

Step #2 is to discover where your beliefs come from?

The next step is to discover where your beliefs come from? Are they coming from your thinking,
or have other people told them to you?

> Who told you stuff about sex that you believe now?

> Who influenced you the most when it comes to understanding sex and sexuality?

> Who was the person that instilled beliefs about sex being bad, wrong or ugly?

For some guys it was their PARENTS.

For some it was the environment, like RELIGION.

And for some, it was the observation of how OTHER PEOPLE talk about sex and treat it.

Somewhere along your life you picked up key beliefs about sexuality and sex that is
now stopping you from enjoying sexuality and feeling comfortable about expressing it.

Try to remember who told you that.

Doing this will help you realize that what you believe about sex and sexuality is probably
not YOUR idea...but an idea that you got from somebody else.

And here's the important part about it - The people you got your beliefs from are probably
victims of them themselves. They are being controlled by them too.

Step #3 is to clarify with yourself.

The third and final step is to CLARIFY with yourself. It is to come to terms with your beliefs
and ask yourself, "Are my beliefs actually REAL?"

> Is sex REALLY bad?

> Is there REALLY something wrong with two people showing love for each other?

> Is it REALLY UN-natural and weird to show your sexual interest and desire for a woman?

> Is it REALLY that wrong to touch, kiss and have sex with women?

Use your own brain here. Think about it.

Try to see all of the different sides of your belief.

For example, if you believe sex is ugly, maybe you can think of an exception to
when sex and sexuality is not ugly,
like when two people really like each other.

Or maybe it's not ugly when you don't want to just take advantage of a girl, but you
genuinely want to share love with her.

A belief is NEVER a fact. It is always just a partial perspective on something.

So be INTELLIGENT.

Try to see all different perspectives of a belief.

I promise you, you will change how you feel about it.

I recommend you try out my free belief destroyer tool, called "360-degree belief destroyer", which
helps you see all sides of the belief.

My point is, do whatever you need to:

1. Recognize your beliefs about sex, especially those that are holding you back when
talking with a woman
2. See all the perspectives on every belief and not have it control you anymore.

Sex is beautiful.

Love is beautiful.

Approaching women is beautiful.


It is when a guy see's a girl that he likes, and he wants to give her a flower. Or some dick, as Chris Rock
likes to put it.

There is NOTHING you should feel shame about showing your interest for a girl.

Sex is natural and a part of us. A big part of us.

So next time you want to say to a girl - "You know, I like you, and would like to take you out...."

Say it without shame or fear.

Because when you do that, know that it is something really, really BEAUTIFUL.

I wish you best,

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HOW TO START A CONVERSATION WITH
ANY WOMAN - WITHOUT THE PRESSURE OF WHAT TO SAY


One of the most common questions I get from guys is "How can I start a conversation with a girl
that I just see somewhere?"


Approaching women is one of the easiest things to do - but it is also something you can make
so complex that it becomes the hardest thing to do.

I've studied approaching women and different approaching lines to start a conversation with
a woman for a long time now, and I discovered that there are basically
only 3 universal ways you can start a conversation with ANY woman.

Every line you can ever think of fits in these 3 categories.

They are:

1. Saying or gesturing HELLO
2. Asking a QUESTION
3. Making a COMMENT


Let's take a look at the first one, saying HELLO

If you see a girl, and she's standing next to you, you can just say "Hi" or "Hello" or "Hey"

Sometimes you don't even have to say anything, but you can just wave her and she'll wave
back at you.

The second is asking her a QUESTION.

There are short questions you can ask, and long questions.

A short question can be like, "What's up?" "Where does this bus going?" "Where are you headed?"
"You having a good time?" "Isn't it hot today...?"

and long questions like, "Hey I'd really like to get your opinion on something - who do you
think lies more, boys or girls" (Lol. That one is as old as pua)

And the third is making a COMMENT.

When making a comment, it's really important that you just OBSERVE what's going on.

So for example, if it's a really hot day, you can say "What a hot day". If you are sitting
in a park and it's a nice day, you can say, "What a nice day".

If you are observing a view, like a view on a beach you can say, "Amazing view".

You can comment on her and say something like, "Nice dress" or "nice lipstick"
or "nice shoes"

What is REALLY important when it comes to approaching women and saying that first something is
to remember to NOT THINK TOO AHEAD OF YOURSELF.

You see, when most guys think about approaching women, they think in terms of "I have to
go over there, start a conversation, keep it going, get her number and then have this passionate
sex afterwards in the back seat of my Honda"


They get AHEAD of themselves.

But this makes them:

> Attached to an outcome
> Unsure of themselves
> and Feel under an immense PRESSURE to perform


The reality is that most women are not interested, are taken, married, their cat died, their dad just
cancelled their credit card and they're pissed...


So attaching yourself to anything MORE than those first words is INSANE.

You don't know what will a woman do, so don't plan too ahead.

I suggest you only plan 1 step ahead, which is "Let me SAY SOMETHING". And then be
open to all possibilities - from her not liking you and going away, to her saying
SOMETHING TO YOU BACK.

And you take it as it comes.

Doing this will make approaching women really easy for yourself. Because your focus is
not to approach them and have a conversation - but just to SAY SOMETHING.

Which takes away all that exes pressure.

Also I do want to mention that if you feel Approach Anxiety, which is that fear of starting a
conversation with a girl you don't know, I have a new Approach Anxiety Cure technique which
eliminates your anxiety of approaching a woman in under 1 hour.

I am testing it at the moment and need 30 guys to try it. If you're a candidate, I invite you and
any guy reading this to join
by clicking the link in my signature.

So follow these guidelines of starting a conversation with any woman, and stay strong.

Phantom

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Destroying the Myth: The REAL Reason Why We Feel Fear Of
Women...And Why That's a Good Thing


Ok, so this post is suppose to be revolutionary. Revolutionary in a way that
in it I want to completely destroy the myth about why we guys feel fear of beautiful women.

I want to talk about a myth that's been circling the dating world for a while, and that is why
we feel fear of women and of talking to them.

First, the myth: You feel fear of beautiful women, because 40.000 years ago, actually 40.007 years
ago, because it's been 7 years since I've heard about this, we lived in the jungle in a pack of
150-200 people.


And in that pack, if you hit on the chief's or the main dude's wife, he and the rest of the
guys in the group would get pissed and kick you out of the group - and you'd get eaten by
lions - and you'd die.


That's why you feel fear of women.

Khm.

Get this, the biggest guys in the dating advice, from David Deangelo, Mystery
Style or Neil Strauss and others actually teach this theory.

Well, not only do I think this theory isn't true...I think it's so wrong and based on pure speculation, and
does nothing to help us.

Let me lay down the REAL reason you feel fear of women

First, let's take a look at the role of fear in our lives with this example.

Let's say you're walking through the jungle, and you see a lion...and he's hungry...and making it
obvious that you're his perfect midday snack...

At that moment, would you feel fear?

Chances are you would...and probably start running as fast as you could.

So my second question is, while you were running, would you run faster, or slower because of fear?

- Would you feel less pain or more pain while feeling fear?

- If you sprained your anckle, would you stop to rest, or would you just keep going?

You know the answers. If a lion was chasing you, you'd be running your ass off, not feeling
anything in the process - not even if you break your leg - you'd keep running.

That's because fear SERVES us. It helps us to survive, and it raises our chances of surviving.

But here's the BIG QUESTION: Why do we feel fear of women? It obviously doesn't serve us for
anything besides making us tense, rigid and worse then we are, right?

Well, no.

You probably know who Muhammad Ali is. If you don't, google him. A quick story about him, he was
22 when he won the world heavyweight boxing championship against a guy who looked:

- 3x times heavier than him
- 3x times stronger than him
- 3x times meaner than him

He was a big bad wolf, who everybody was afraid of... except Ali. He challenged him, and
won the fight.

Anyhow, to my point. I was listening an interview of Muhammad Ali, and he said that when he first
saw his first wife - he was TERRIFIED
of approaching her and talking to her.

...?

The toughest man alive, fought the meanest and badest man alive....and he was afraid of a woman?


So as you can see, fear of women is not reserved for only a certain type of guys. And it isn't true that
only weak guys fear women.

There is something very natural about feeling fear of women.

And after thinking about it, I discovered the REAL reason WHY we feel fear in the first place.

You see, the REAL reason you feel fear of women...is because it SERVES you.

Just like fear serves you when you see a lion in the bushes, the same way fear serves you when
you see a hot girl
and you want to talk to her.

How?

Let's keep reading...

Let's take an average guy. An average guy loves to get a beer, sit in front of the TV, and CHILL.

He doesn't want to move too much, he's a couple of pounds overweight, mildly depressed and generally
kind of LAZY.

Now let's take this same guy, overweight, wanting to chill, not have a lot of stress and not wanting
to raise his butt to achieve something...let's take him and put him in front of a hot WOMAN.

He will feel FEAR.

And because of fear, in an INSTANT he's AWAKE.

He feels alive, all of his senses are alert, he is totally present and can't think of the ball game from
yesterday.

In short - FEAR get's his best side to come out. It get's him to MOVE...so that he can move
the girl...and eventually get her.

Who do you think would have more chances of getting the girl:

a) a guy who is bored out of his life, depressed and not motivated to do anything with himself

or

b) a guy who is alert, present, energetic and pumped

...?

I don't know about you, but I'm putting my money on the second guy.

And that is why you feel fear of women.

Fear gives you energy, excitement, enthusiasm...it snaps you out of your "O life sucks..." state
and because of that, it increases your chances of actually getting the girl.


Make sense?

So I know you're maybe saying, "But I just feel too much fear and it paralyzes me...it doesn't
bring out the best of me, but the worse of me..."


I hear you. I've been there myself and I know how it feels to be unable to move and say something
to the girl.

That is why, you need to learn how to deal with your fear so it doesn't paralyze you, but it
gives you the energy you need to keep going.

And you'll get to read all about how to do that in my next article.

For now, just understand that fear is there to help you - to give you the energy, enthusiasm
and excitement so you can move the girl's emotions and get her.

Fear is not there to mess with you. It's your friend, so treat is as such. Don't hate it, appreciate it,
welcome it and embrace it when it shows up. It will pay you back big time.

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Fantom, really amazing stuff. I had a question about a particular comment you made. It's about how guys should explore their sexuality. Reading this sort of made me feel insecure, it reminded me of how I don't feel confident in my body. Even though I'll make a woman orgasm (with my hands) I feel like after I have sex with them and it's said and done they're secretly mocking me in their minds. You said, did you ever wonder what woman think of our reproductive organs as well? Reading all of it sort of made me feel like I didn't measure up, say girls get turned on by larger a penis, and talk to there girlfriends about it. What if a guy doesn't have that, or some of the other things you've mentioned. It made me feel less than.


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