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Author:  hersh [ Thu Jul 26, 2012 8:51 am ]
Post subject:  Quick advice for newbies
Okay just dropping my quick 2 cents as an intermediate in this field. When I started pickup my fear was a woman rejecting me in a humiliating fashion and id be embarrased by everyone in the venue and my social circle.

Truth is ive opened over 200++ sets now and I have only once been told very loudly by a girl that she had a boyfriend and just wanted to have a good time with her friends. You see, opening with a simply "hey whats up guys" or a "hey im ____" will probably not get you rejected. Sure it might not go anywhere but it wont get you rejected.

Once your comfortable approaching like this, start attempting stuff that may get you actually rejected such as "the claw" or heavy kino right off the bat. This is how I slowly desensitized myself to rejection.

Once again, critisizm or feedback is welcome :).
Author:  Fluffs [ Thu Jul 26, 2012 2:46 pm ]
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It could be uncomfortable to the the girl, though.

She doesn't know WHY are you talking to her and how long will you stay there.
The thing is, even if a HB10 chick went up to me and said "Hey, what's up?" etc. I would feel kinda awkward.

About nice guys in this situation, girls HATE if they have to care for your feelings without even knowing you, trust me, that's how it is, it seems like a job to them if they don't have any feelings for you.

The best way I'd approach a girl is by joking about something (having fun independantly of her response), about her or if it's suitable the surroundings, I could even joke about the feelings I get when approaching her. (not really stating that I HAVE those feelings sometimes.)
Author:  Arhanghelul [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 7:10 pm ]
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Hello !

Can you tell me more about your approaching technique, the "joking approach" ?
I saw one of your messages, I it looks interesting.

I am a shy guy, and I don't like or feel confortable with these type of openers : "hey, how are you?", hello, what is your name?" or "Hy, you are very beautiful.... blah, blah".

I find the "joker" method more relaxing and good for picking-up girls, but I would like to know how and when to do it ?

Thx :D
Author:  hersh [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 9:21 pm ]
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I guess that might be true, MrFluffs. Ive really improved my body language, vocal tonality, eye contact, facial expression and been able to caliberate to her reactions to see how far and how fast I can take things. Too someone new, like me a year ago, this probably would not work aswell. Maybe Im wrong cause I actually did start with opinion openers at first. "Jelous Girlfriend" and stuff. Sometimes hindsight can delude me. Its one of those things where people in the game for a long time tell newbies to just "be yourself".
Author:  Fluffs [ Sat Jul 28, 2012 1:34 pm ]
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It's actually SORTA being yourself, being the SECURE and FUNNY self.
You have to act in a way that you find amusing for yourself and that others wouldn't take down. So YOU would feel the rush.
You could even tease the girl if she understands what you're trying to do, be a meanie head or something like that. (My gf never does T.T)

Also, you could read my other posts, I'm not sure if there's anything about being funny and stuff, but mainly inner and natural game is all you need, you can add a little NLP and you're damn good to go.
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