This was never about you!!
All this talk of anxiety, fear, depression, angst, anger, resentment, feeling alone and disconnected…
You’ve made a critical mathematical error
You’ve got the equation all wrong. You’ve been conditioned to believe a pile of nonsense from your very inception. The greatest lie ever told is “If I can just ***** then I’ll be happy!”. Close your eyes and explore – I mean really, sincerely explore what is going on at a cellular level. You will find your life equation there. It usually looks something like this: “me + X = happiness”. Once you’ve identified ‘X’, it’s time to throw it out the window. The equation is simply wrong. You were born complete, happy and comfortable. You were not born ‘in a rut’. All this stuff about your previous failures and experiences are nothing, they are a complete illusion. Where is this past when you are not thinking it into existence? It’s just a collection of images painted on a canvas that you call you. You are the canvas, not the painting.
“Those who surrender all selfish attachments are like a lotus leaf floating clean and dry in water. Nothing can touch them”. – Bhagavad Gita [5:10]
You are not the sum total of your past experiences. Your failures do not define you – nor do your successes!
Losing all hope was freedom
The correct equation was “me + happiness = X”. Find your joy first, find your peace first, and you throw open the gates of opportunity. You will naturally and effortlessly attract what you want. Think about it for a minute; everyone is looking for something. We are a culture of drug addicts. We crave the next fix, the next good feeling. Why chase? Has it ever occurred to you that you can generate those feelings within? You don’t need the haircut, the nice shirt of the 11th pair of shoes. You can feel incredible right here and now, for no reason at all! You can be entirely validated, self-amused and at home in the world. Life is exciting! All you need to do is let go of that ‘x’. Let go of your reason to feel good. Let go of your chasing and need. Just allow yourself to be at peace.
“Suffering is caused by selfish desire. Extinction of selfish desire is the extinction of suffering” – Buddha’s 2nd and 3rd noble truth
This was never about you!
Don’t you get it by now?! None of this was ever about you! Ever. The world is a magnificent and infinitely complex place. Every single one of the 7 billion individuals on this planet are more concerned about themselves, their problems, their fears, their insecurities, their hopes and dreams and desires. How did you come to believe the world was about you? Let go of all of that. Your purpose was never to achieve whatever vision of “success” you had. It was never about the car, the money, the women, the drugs, whatever. Your duty to the world is to leave it better than you found it. I don’t speak to people with hopes of getting something in return. When I speak to a woman, I am not trying to get her to sleep with me. When I speak to a woman, I do not care who she is, I will make her feel beautiful, valued and appreciated. The greatest gift I can give her is my masculine presence. I do not have much, and that may be all I can give her, but I will give it willingly and fully. The only reason you feel like crap all the time is because you made this about you! If you don’t get what you want, you are hurting. If someone is mean to you, you turn in on yourself. If someone doesn’t give you the validation you crave, your sense of identity crumbles.
“This despair and weakness in a time of crisis are mean and unworthy of you. How have you fallen so far from the path of liberation? It does not become you to yield to this weakness”. – Bhagavad Gita [2:2]
No-Self
If this was never about you, then where do you fit into the world? What makes you different than others?
Simply put; you don’t, and you aren’t. But this information is liberating, not soul-crushing. When you feel sad, angry, depressed or alone, close your eyes and search. Search for this ‘I’. Ask yourself “Who feels depressed? Who feels sad, angry or alone? Who is this ‘I’?”. Can you find it without thinking it into existence? If there you stop listening, there is no sound. If you stop seeing, there is no sight. If you stop thinking yourself into existence, there is no Self. You do not fit into the world – you are of it. You are not different than others, you are others.
“The one who looks upon friend and foe with equal regard, who is not buoyed up by praise or cast down by blame, alike in heat and cold, pleasure and pain, free from selfish attachments, the same in honor and dishonor, quiet, ever content, in harmony everywhere, firm in faith – such a one is dear to me”. – Bhagavad Gita [12:18]
You act because it is your duty. You work your ass off because your very nature will push you towards it. You are kind and loving to others because there is too much ugliness, hatred and violence in the world as it is. You are never deflated or lose motivation because your vision is firm and clear: you work to make the world a better place.
“All pleasures born in the world of senses has a beginning and an end. Place no faith in them.” – Bhagavad Gita
Once you understand this, your life will find meaning and you will find joy. Never lose sight of this vision… Every other pursuit is a waste of time. If all you can do is make others feel good in your presence, then that is your masculine gift to the world. Cross that street to tell that woman she’s beautiful. Stop on your way to work and talk to that homeless man, remind him that he is human. Clean the dishes everyone left in the office. You simply aren’t a part of the equation.
Forget yourself in the joy others.
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