First of all Chaz good job for getting thus far not all people have the power and courage for that. You see I used to be EXACTLY the same way. I was handsome, smart and had other things other guys didn't but I still wasn't able to get girls I wanted to. So I always used to read books and ask guys how they got girls. Every guy told be something different. I tried to do so many things that would make girls like me (sexually) but nothing worked and we ended up being friends. Then one day I rethought my whole entire life. And one of the things i rethought was my sex life. And I realized why I wasn't getting girls to be sexual with me. It was because I thought of the girls as being better than me and was therefore waiting there for her permission to express my sexual interest for her. Think about it, if you think the girl is better you act nice to her because you're afraid that if you act how you want to she might get turned of or creeped out or she will reject you. Did you notice how many "she" words were in previous sentence. Meaning you put to much thought about what she want's or what she would do because you think she's better than you. I was the same. Once I started thinking of myself as the prize my life turned around. This was literally the turning point in my life. The day I accepted this mindset on myself I decided to go for and approach a girl I thought was hot. So I went to Manhattan in NYC and saw this very beautiful girl waiting by the store and things were running through my head "don't approach her it might look weird" and these types of thoughts. I shut down my thoughts and just started to walk towards her. I was 3 feet away from her and my thoughts came back of not approaching but it was too late by then. She was looking at me and I was so nervous then but there was no way out so I opened her and said "hey, do by any chance know any coffee places around here" and she looked at me in a weird way and said " I think there's one over there" I said back "Oh, thanks" and my mind was telling me to leave but I decided to continue and said back " wow you don't know where any coffee shops are must be you don't drink coffee that much" she acted friendly all along but no indication of sexual interest at all.I said to myself IAM THE PRIZE OVER HERE NOT HER AND IF SHE WILL THINK THAT BY ME SAYING THE FOLLOWING I AM A CREEP SHE LOSES OUT. So I said enough is enough and told her exactly why I approached her. I said " I don't really care about the coffee shops I just thought you looked cute and I had to approach you" after that her eyes lit up and I felt the whole conversation shifting from just a talk to some kind of bond between us. I continued with the mindset that she's selling me something instead of I am selling her and said things that I would never in my life say to a girl especially a hot girl like her. We had a good chat I began to look at her like I wanted to fuck her and she started touching me. I told her that now we should really go for coffee. And we had an instant date I kissed her in public didn't care if she was comfortable with it or not what people may call an asshole. (But I was called by my friends the nicest guy on the planet and I never though I could do such a thing) I ended up taking this girl home and we did it. This all happened in just few hours but changed the way I think forever. Now to be practical. Chaz right now you have to start thinking your the prize and not her. It will be very hard the first few times but like anything the more you do it the easier it gets. Get a friend who will do this with you and make sure he FORCES you approach girls. Be yourself and tell girls exactly what's on your mind. I happen to be very impatient and I used to tell girls a minute after meeting them "I am not gonna be like other guys and and chat 2 hours to get your number you we should exchange them now(not in such a serious tone)" and I was surprised that girls were very responsive to it. The key is say what's on your mind don't be afraid to express what you want. You don't have to make girls feel comfortable, you just have to be comfortable yourself. You want to have sex right? So next time you meet a girl let her know your the present, feel like a present, and act and say what you want to. Take rejections as "we just didn't match, NEXT" many guys think a rejection is that's they're not good enough "FALSE" it's just that not everybody is compatible with everybody. Good luck.