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Beautiful posts soo far, very informative.
Help me out,
During a concert I was opening and talking to two girls infront of me, hb8 and hb7.5.
7.5 was immensly shy and when i kino'd her she kinda freaked out but subtly. I was smiling the entire time, she noticed how she freaked out and blushed, and was like 0_o.
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Another thing, I noticed that when having good body language people notice you, do you find this true?
A lot of girls first response is no. It is an auto responder for them in a lot of cases. Our reaction is to say no. Everyone's first reaction is to say no. I once was laying on a bed with a girl and the girl went to put her arm on me and I flinched, we were laying on her bed and the deal was all but done, I still reacted like that. Things followed through fine, it just took a little longer.
She probably just isn't use to too much human contact. That happens here and there, most shy girls are like that in a public environment. At other moments it would be quite a bit worse if she flinched. First contact is nervous for a lot of us.
Be confident in your movements. If you think you are going to be creepy (because your trying so hard not to) you will some how project it. It was a good thing when you smiled through her flinch. I usually make goofy comments, "wow I didn't think I smelled that bad". You did well to just continue to show you are non-threatening. Nice spot on the blushing, sometimes that is hard to see at concerts. I can't tell you for sures about her body language, but it sounds as if she was getting comfortable with you. She was embarrassed enough about her reaction that she began to blush.
ABSOLUTELY! Your body language will absolutely effect your environment. I told you the Vegas story. I happen to live up by the University of Utah campus(just invited to the pac-10 yeah buddy). One of the offensive linemen (big motha 295 lbs) for the starting squad, goes man you look like a man where girls should walk up and ask to have your babies. I asked him to elaborate, his response was just my demeanor. To me it was a huge compliment man, this dude hangs out with future NFL players(he is actually expected to be a first day draft pick) and he complimented my "alphaness".
When I walk around the pool, I certainly am not the cut guy at the pool. I am 5'8 210 and it ain't muscle. I am a stocky kid, but when my friends see me interact at the pool they just say your "the man". Your just "the man" at the pool. Girls pay more attention to me than the poster boy looking kids(and there absolutely are pretty boys in my complex). It is my demeanor that gets me to have conversation with Law students, Medical students, Cheerleaders, Sorority girls, Model, and be well liked by them all at the pool. Pretty sweet pool I must say though. A wide variety impressive female specimens.
These girls want to talk to me, they watch me at the pool and wait for an excuse to have a conversation with me or it feels like that anyways. Kind of the way people will linger until they can enter a conversation. I am sure you guys have all noticed this, a person lingering in the area, than all of a sudden when they have a comment they come alive and enter the conversation.
If you walk around like your are somebody. If you walk around like your "the man" everywhere you go than people tend to not only notice you but introduce themselves to you. In "The Game" Strauss mentions how certain people would come in a room and everyone would notice. For some people it is their fame that gives them this confidence. I know I have walked into a room and wondered who someone was based on their demeanor. I have also walked in and been the guy people wanted to meet. I have also been around famous people that didn't command a room at all. It just depends on how you want to represent yourself.
I bet you have noticed some significant differences because they truly change the way you represent yourself. If you walk around like your famous, people will think your famous. I do joke a lot by saying "I am fucking famous", a lot of my friends see me run into a lot of people I know. They say "Damn you know a lot of people", I look over and say "I am fucking famous". Seriously though if you walk around like your somebody, people will assume your somebody. That does not mean you should act stuck up because nobody likes a stuck up @55h013. Be gracious but confident.
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