I believe that what you should do is frame control them. Recognize their usual way of AMOGing you, and then frame it as something that's violating your rights, such as this: Most males touch others to convey dominance, if you see they touch you a lot or whatever, just tell them something like this, obviously playfully done, you're always having fun and you're non-reactive, "Man you know i'm not gay, stop touching me haha!" next thing you know is, every time they touch you, they're falling into the frame of gay, which will make them stop. Frame their doings to violations, and you'll see how they stop, I had problems too man, I know it's really annoying trust me! I just wanted to kill them. But now I know that I can do that kind of thing, and here's something else you can do, for instance let's say some of them shoots a DLV attempt for you: "Haha this man is totally gay!", if you're talking while he makes this, stop, look at him for 3 seconds, and say to the group "This is sometimes why I have doubts if to bring him out or not haha! So anyway.." and continue. You can AMOG with body language too, don't face them, and give IOD's whenever you feel is needed. No matter if they're your friends, I constantly roll up with my budds, and they know they have to respect me and I will respect them. If they're trying to make themselves look cooler by DLVing you, there's no reason why wouldn't you AMOG them to make them not wanna say it again.
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