I am reading through John Alexander's How to Become an Alpha Male and i thought this list was pretty interesting and might be helpful to some people out there =)
2) Speaking too fast. This gives off the impression that you
feel anxious and have low self-confidence. A normal,
comfortable speaking rate varies within a moderate range
from 125 to 150 words per minute. Slow down!
I dont necessarily agree, slow speech is an indicator of a slow brain, i.e jock.
4) Pausing too long before responding to a question. This
indicates that you’re thinking too hard for your answer, which
makes you seem indecisive. It also looks like you’re trying
too hard to win the other person’s approval.
I totally disagree. If you pause and deliver a well-thought-out or excellent response then who cares if you take an extra second or 2. It shows youre thinking!
7) Twitching your fingers or hands. When you're across the
table from someone there's a natural inclination to play with
sugar packets or straw wrappers with your fingers. Don't.
And don’t drum your fingers on the table—women hate that.
Agreed - try not to fidget.
Touching your face when you talk. This indicates that
you’re thinking too hard, you’re indecisive, or that you feel
shy. To convey confidence, hold your hands together in a
steeple shape in front of your chest or face. (A lot of
professors do this when they are lecturing.) Another posture
that will help you when you need a huge display of
confidence is holding your hands at your hips. Cops do this
when they need to establish authority over criminal suspects.
Pfft! If youre stroking your, say, chin and then deliver a killer answer to question it just shows youre thinking, smart and dont feel the need to rush.
13) Excessive smiling. Studies of primates have shown that
beta males will smile as a way to signal their harmlessness
to stronger males. Beta humans smile to show they’re not a
threat. The alpha male, however, only smiles when there is
something to smile about. And yes—he can be a threat.
Nonsense - this applies to chimps - not humans.
17) Blinking a lot. Instead blink your eyes slowly. Don't close
your eyes in discomfort. Just let your eyelids relax. In fact,
let them droop a bit. Don't be bug-eyed.
20) Being uncomfortable with your eyes. The bottom line is
that your eyes should be comfortable, relaxed, assertive,
21) Looking down or to the side before answering a
woman’s question. If you do need to look away before
answering in order to think, then look up and to the side.
Studies have shown that this displays more confidence.
What claptrap! Who wrote this nonsense. If you deliver a good confident answer who cares which direction u felt like looking.
24) Using long, convoluted sentences. Alphas keep it short
and to the point. If you’re tempted to use long sentences,
break them up.
LOL - what garbage. A guy with his head on properly says what needs to be said, sometimes it will be short, sometimes long. Half of these rules suck. A killer longer opinion beats a shorter average opinion every time.
Whew that was long...as far as i know its not a repost i ran a search O.o...props to John Alexander!
Mild props to John Alexander, he overanalyzes, over complicates too much - one could argue that's beta thinking...