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Hey Guys – I hope you are having a good week. I’ve got a lot of great stuff for you in this newsletter – my signature, killer free tips and more.
A quick shout out to all of you who have been listening to the new Alpha Life Volume One Audio. Thanks a million for your feedback. The response has been overwhelming, positive and downright inspiring.
I had one guy write and say he was doing every one of the Beta Male moves and characteristics and didn’t even realize it. That was one great email – if I get his permission, I’ll share it with you in an upcoming newsletter.
The Alpha Life Volume One was just released on Thursday of last week and 427 downloads (and 4 cd sets) have flown out the door already as of this writing. We may break some sort of record.
A quick blurb from Alvis, one of my clients:
“J.D. – the instant I listened to the Alpha Audio I went to work on my apartment. I made all the little – but significant – changes you suggested before my date Saturday. It was like a bitch lair or something – my girl came over and was so comfortable in my crib she didn’t leave until Sunday afternoon. I can’t wait for the next volume to come out. Could you please include some tips for my wardrobe and car? I want to be able to make the “Alpha” impression everywhere I go. The attitude builders in the program are the best – thanks for the hook up, bro! – Alvis”
If you aren’t one of the hundreds who got it already, go take a listen to a few of the audio samples from the Alpha Life Volume One here, and get your instant download soon.
On to some dating and relationship tips –
As you know, I coach a lot of men for a living. We talk for hours about everything and anything that has to do with dating and women – be it their look, approaching, online game, attitude, dirty tricks….you name it.
One of the big recurring themes I’ve been hearing over the last few months is the dreaded “friend zone” scenario.
You know what I’m talking about.
There’s several variations of this syndrome. Guy has a smokin’ hot girl in his life who he desperately wants, but she tells him she doesn’t want to screw up the “friendship”. Or, a guy gets the balls to ask a woman out and things go great for a short period of time and then she suddenly cools off to him and says, “I just think of you as a friend.”
Bottom line is – when you have it for a woman, it sucks when she doesn’t think of you “in that way”.
A lot of men will toil on and on in this friend zone – hoping one day she’ll come around. And others actually use the friend scenario as their approach!
They have this misguided idea that they meet a girl and if they do nice things for her, listen to her problems, lend her money, help her paint her apartment, etc., that one day she’ll wake up in the morning and add up all his good deeds – then decide to be attracted to him.
Really? Do men actually think women work this way? Sadly – a lot of men do. If you have ever suffered under this notion – let me fill you in on some important information.
Women can’t – and don’t – “decide” to be attracted to a man. They don’t sit an logically think about what makes him good for her, and make a decision based on pros and cons.
No no no. Never.
If you know anything about women – then you know first and foremost they are emotional creatures. It’s not that they aren’t capable of logic – it’s just that they don’t use it when it comes to the men in their life. Think about it – how many women do you know, or have heard of, that stay in bad and even dangerous relationships for long periods of time. Sometimes forever.
If they were using logic when it came to their relationships – they’d have been gone a long time ago.
No – it’s not logic or lists of good deeds or any such thing that keeps a woman around. She makes her choices based on emotions. Plain and simple.
And most men don’t understand it because men actually make lots more decisions based on logic than women do.
And it confuses the hell out of most guys.
Case in point: a guy will drive himself insane wondering why she doesn’t like him. After all, he is a good guy. He has done all kinds of nice things for her. He treats her like a queen. He has even lent her money. Can’t she see how good she would have it with him?!!
That’s that “logic” thing that women fail to use when picking out their mates.
And when we say women use their emotions to figure out who they will be with – what we’re talking about is her feelings. And her feelings come from her instincts. And her instincts come from hundreds of thousands of years of evolution.
They don’t think about why or why not they should be with a guy – they can’t. It’s not how they are wired. They either feel it for you – or they don’t.
Ever ask a woman why she slept with a guy? Or why she’s with him at all?
Their answers are usually something like, “I don’t know. He just has that certain something…I can’t quite put my finger on it…”
Their answers are never, “He helped me move.” Or “He listens to me complain all the time.”
And if you think about it – those are things that her friends do for her.
And by now you are probably thinking a few things like, “How do guys get in the friend zone in the first place?” “How do I stay out of the friend zone” and “What is it that women want anyway?”
All good questions – and all deserving of an answer.
And before we get to that – it’s important to know this: a woman doesn’t give a shit about how you feel about her.
Huh?
Yeah – it’s true. How you feel about woman doesn’t mean anything – compared to how she feels about YOU.
That means everything to her.
Let me explain – you can be madly in love, head-over-heels for some girl. Do anything for her. Put her on a pedestal – all that jazz. Doesn’t mean shit if she doesn’t feel “it” for you.
You understand?
If you don’t get her to “feel it” for you – or she thinks of you as a friend – it doesn’t matter how much you love/lust/want her. It doesn’t matter to her.
So your job, Romeo, is to make her FEEL IT for you. Plain and simple.
And how you do this is very multi-layered thing. But I’m gonna share the basics with you.
You tell her how to feel for you.
Ha – sounds too simple, right? Sounds like a load of bullshit.
But guys all the time, everywhere, everyday treat a woman like a friend – and then they can’t understand why she responds to them like a friend. And I just told you why – because that’s what they told her to do.
If you haven’t kept up with the class this far – let me spell it out for ya.
When you do the things a friend does, like don’t show any sexual interest in her, lend her money, listen to her complain about her life – she feels like you are her friend, and she will treat you as such. And brother – when a woman puts you in the friend zone it’s damned near impossible to get out.
You see what I’m saying? It’s not HER fault at all if she doesn’t feel it for you. It’s YOURS. It’s your job to “TELL HER” what kind of man you are and what kind of relationship you’re going to have with her.
And women can size this up in just a few minutes. Remember – it’s all a feeling to them. And that feeling is an instinct. Their deepest, inner-most being tells them to recognize a good mate almost instantly.
The way he walks. The way he talks. How he smells. The attitude he has. The things he says, the things he does – and doesn’t – do. It all adds up quickly to produce a feeling and trigger a reaction in a woman, one way or the other.
Her little “feeling” says, “This guys is a friend” or “this guy I need to sleep with”.
So how are you going to give her that feeling, huh? I have a million ways for you to do it. And there’s also a good list of things you simply shouldn’t do, too.
I’m going to share one of each with you today, too.
This is stuff taken directly out of my Audio Programs – Total Control and The Alpha Life.
First – something you shouldn’t do. You can never – ever – be what I call a woman’s therapist and hope to get her between the sheets. Why is this? Well, the short version is that listening to a woman complain about her job, her mom, that guy she’s sleeping with who won’t call her – this is stuff her FRIENDS do. And if you don’t want to be her friend – then simply don’t.
Don’t act like a friend. Don’t treat her like a friend. It’s that simple. I’m sure you can think of a lot of ways in which this comes into play. And if you need more help in this area, get these Audios now. Between Total Control and The Alpha Life – it’s over 5 hours tips, tricks, techniques and mindset – the attitude you need to show her exactly what she’s looking for – and set off those feelings in her that nature intended for her to feel for a man.
And here is Something you should do.
Tell her what to do. Simply start walking tall, talking slower and give her commands – like, “Give me your number.”
Call me. Come over here. Tell me about your turn-ons. Stop acting like a punk. Anything you can think of, said with the right tone and attitude to back it up will tell her that you are the man. The man she’s been looking for.
She won’t even know why – but she’ll just know. She’ll have a feeling…..
I’m telling you, my friend – I talk to men all the time. Everyday. We go over tons of this shit – every little detail. I have guys at every age and stage of this game we call seduction and we always – without fail – get it figured out. I’ve been doing it for a long, long time and it’s taken me years to get this science broken down into a teachable one.
But it IS teachable – and therefore, by definition, learnable.
And speaking of “feelings” – how would it feel to always know – every time – that you were a master of women? That you could approach and have damned near any woman on the planet – that your attitude was such that you became a natural. Moving from place to place and woman to woman just as smooth and as simple as the day is long?
What’s that worth to you? That transformation – from something as basic as staying out of the friendzone to becoming the Alpha Man that you were born to be.
I’m here to tell you it’s a priceless thing. We only go around once on this ride – and we need to make the most of it. You want to get better with women because that is your instinct – you are driven to want them. You can’t help that.
And remember – she’s driven to want a man. But the right kind of man. Women are instinctively selective, my friends. Not logically selective.
If you walk away with anything today, it should be with that piece of knowledge.
And you see – I am able to help you. I just told you a little bit about how women “think” – what goes on behind enemy lines. The other team’s playbook.
That’s what makes me so good with women. I know so much about them and I learn so much more everyday I could never, ever write it all down or teach it all as long as I live.
But I’m trying.
I’ve just released another great audio program to help you get the Alpha Mindset – and it’s not the same old bullshit you get from those tired, old “gurus” out there who slap the word “alpha” on their rehashed material and sell it to you over and over.
My programs, my books, my coaching is all real. It is all practical. It all works. You get things you can actually learn and use – step by step in most cases. And I explain WHY it works. If you are like me – you need to know why it works to fully understand it.
When you know how, say, electricity works – it’s easy for you to fix a bad outlet. It just makes sense.
And when you know how women work – you can figure them out too. And get them “fixed” and working for you.
Every word I say in my audio Total Control is essential. I don’t waste a breath – I consider that 2 hour audio a masterpiece of mindset and how women work – and how you can use that knowledge to keep them under control and doing things for you. I worked years on the detailed techniques I reveal in Total Control, and it is a frickin’ crime that I don’t charge 4 times as much for than I do. It is that good.
Couple that program with the first three hours of the Alpha Life, and you have over 5 hours of one-on-one, step-by-step Alpha Attitude training. Real, practical stuff you can use right away. Stuff that shows her you are the man she’s looking for.
Let me leave you with this – if you want more women, if you want to control women, if you want to master women – you can.
I did. You can.
If that is your goal, then make it so. It is very doable – I know because I live it and I teach it every day.
And without action, my friend, your goals are just a wish.
Til next time –
Live the Alpha Lifestyle –
J.D.