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| Author: | thevault [ Sat May 01, 2010 5:49 pm ] |
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Below is the basics of being attractive, there is more to it but these are seperate subjects such as fashion, grooming, hygiene, sexual and verbal confidence, I will deal with sexual and verbal confidence in other posts but for now the three below is more than enough as these states are the absolute foundation of gaining attraction as simply as I can put it from what I've learned. Confidence Being confident is knowing your own self worth, assume attraction and don't be afraid to try to move up the escalation ladder, thou don't continually chase after a girl and lower yourself! try 2 or 3 times to move forward but don't let anyone make a fool of you and don't care so much about what people think. If someone is being an asshole in anyway to you just think "whatever" and move on, you shouldnt be wasting your time with someone who's not worth it so don't get caught up in trying to make things work, seeking attention and overly trying to make anyone like you. Sense of humour Having a sense of humour shows that you're not taking things serious, you're playfully teasing and having a laugh, tease as you would tease a friend. If she shit tests you just laugh it off, agree and change the subject or just ignore it and change the subject. Never ever show anger or show that you're annoyed but if they over step the mark you can start to use takaways or as above just, move on. Social You're friendly, talkitive and happy to meet people. You just come across as a normal mature polite guy to people. Leading This ties in with confidence, you have to be the one making the moves on every level from verbal to getting her to a place where you can have sex |
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| Author: | JonJones21 [ Thu May 13, 2010 12:14 am ] |
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I agree with most parts, but completely disagree with coming across as a 'mature polite guy' if you're coming off as mature and polite, you're having way too many conversations with a vibe that's going to get you friend-zoned one of the most attractive traits is being able to control the vibe of a conversation and keeping it playful, cheerful, and at the right times subtly making it sexually charged |
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| Author: | thevault [ Thu May 13, 2010 8:41 am ] |
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Mature and polite is just having the capacity to be socially normal when need be, and it is just a small part of an all round picture It also means you're not going to cry when things don't go your way, run around looking attention or be nasty to anyone You'll be breaking rapport, sexually escalating and pushing your game plan forward constantly when you get the chance so the friend zone should not be an issue And in the real world you will get no where if you're not mature and polite mature and polite does not mean be a "nice guy" in women terms which actually means "kinda boring, could be needy and not a challenge" My game plan is a same night lay All the traits blend, don't think of them in individual terms, same with phases I don't think of "I'm in comfort now" "I'm now in attraction" I think in terms of time to isolate, move or bounce and then calabration to try to make it happen But whatever works for ya use it what doesn't drop it |
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| Author: | Chelios [ Thu May 13, 2010 11:11 am ] |
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Agree, girls do like a mature and polite person, at the same tim not to much. Keep convo's basic once attraction has been initiated, then your on her mind. Women get attracted to unpredictable men. Men that don't give in all the time. |
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| Author: | RVAIS [ Thu May 13, 2010 11:32 am ] |
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What about the bad boy strong silent type, girls do find that mysterious ever see the movie "Youth in Revolt". |
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| Author: | Chelios [ Thu May 13, 2010 11:40 am ] |
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Quote: What about the bad boy strong silent type, girls do find that mysterious ever see the movie "Youth in Revolt".
I agree, being Natural is about you, yourself, developing the way you want to be. You can have an all round mix, but however you are, if your some part Mysterious, women keep keen interest.
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| Author: | thevault [ Thu May 13, 2010 12:07 pm ] |
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Thats rite the idea behind my post was to let you be who you really are but within guidelines that are attractive to women, these characteristics are just generalisations, in real life I don't even think about this stuff anymore Probably one of the best traits to natural attraction that I didn't really list but it ties in with confidence and sense of humour kinda is to be indifferent and not get emotionally affected so strong, this alone can mean the difference between a bad boy and a nice guy What ever will be will be kind of attitude, this can release a certain mystery on its own without trying to come across as some sort of creature of the night Think of it like this, say she negs you about having a small dick infront of 7 of her girlfriends and you just agree and laugh it off, she'll be thinking what the fuck usually when I tease a guy about having a small dick (or whatever) they get offended or embarassed and her interest is now spiked |
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| Author: | Chelios [ Thu May 13, 2010 12:17 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: The idea behind my post was to let you be who you really are, these characteristics are just generalisations, in real life I don't even think about this stuff anymore |
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| Author: | thevault [ Thu May 13, 2010 12:20 pm ] |
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Correct thou some beginners may have to for a short time till they get it down better to concentrate on things like busting your sticking points http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2lGujxBg9Ac and logistics! 99% of the time this is the reason people are not getting laid, I'll do a post on this soon |
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| Author: | thevault [ Mon May 24, 2010 11:28 am ] |
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Just a little additional note for those who have problems with approaching, this problem can mess you up and have you coming across as kinda weird if you're standing there looking like your after something. This frame of mind will help your body language in a way that you wont have a needy vibe about you, the frame you want to approach with is "I'm only going to make some friendly small talk" This way you will find out what Sinn talks about, approaching isnt scary its either "fun" or "boring" If its fun they will give you plenty to work with and you can start moving forward, if not you'll know if you're wasting your time there or not Note: I don't waste my time with girls that arn't open from basicly the start, reason being I can't be bothered wasting my time and having to put a huge amount of effort into someone when round the corner there could be a girl that is equaly or better looking that is down for "fun", also if she was a bitch to you at first and ends up seeing you with other girls later in the night it will open up a jealousy frame and she may think "shit I've messed up" and re-open you, I've had this happen but over a longer period of time since I live in a town and not a city. |
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