just say HI really loud!!!
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| Author: | TheIntruder [ Tue Apr 20, 2010 12:27 pm ] |
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Style and others say that you shouldn't say "excuse me" when opening, although this is debated by other PUAs. What about in regular life, like when you are in the supermarket, etc. What is an alternative to excuse me which may be perceived as cocky funny or playful? The only thing I can think of is saying" Excuse moi" in french rather than a normal excuse me. That way it at least communicates playfullness, perhaps worldliness, culture, etc. Any other ideas? Thanks. |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Tue Apr 20, 2010 12:33 pm ] |
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Just start talking. "Hey" "Omg, I just gotta ask you something" "Hi, this is gonna sound totally random but..." No need to say anything in advance, as long as you get her/their attention. You can even just smile and look at her. ... Or bring firecrackers and throw them at her direction. |
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| Author: | TheIntruder [ Tue Apr 20, 2010 1:08 pm ] |
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Thanks, but I was talking about natural game here...as in, you may not be opening...you may not even be talking to her but you are in her viscinity or out on a date with her. Someone is in your way, what do you say? "Excuse me?" sounds weak, especially if the other peson doesn't immediately hear you, which can happen. |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Tue Apr 20, 2010 3:17 pm ] |
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Then you can just say "Coming through!". Make it loud though, you don't wanna be repeating yourself. |
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| Author: | jpvel [ Wed Apr 21, 2010 2:25 pm ] |
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for me, "excuse me" just sounds too canned. I prefer to go for a more surprised or spontaneous opener, something like "so...i need to ask you something", "oh, hey..." "hmmm...question:" |
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| Author: | VanHaven [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 4:18 am ] |
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I usually just start talking. Although I have done the Chasing Amy move where I bump into her and say "Hey lady, you fucked up my cabbage patch!". |
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| Author: | Tal0n [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 7:57 am ] |
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It's going to sound really strange, but I have a friend who's gotten great responses with, "Bitch you owe me quarter!" He does it in this really playful, joking, sarcastic way, but he keeps at it like he's serious. If done well (i.e. non-threateningly) it opens the girl up and makes room for some fun conversation. |
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| Author: | TheIntruder [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 8:22 am ] |
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Thanks...I used the coming through just recently and it seemed to work. There is this AFC at the gym who keeps chatting up this girl, helping her work out, waiting for her outside the locker room for her to come out, etc. He was blocking the way and talking to her, I just passed and said "Cominig through!" Definately stronger than "Excuse me" |
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| Author: | Stirlee [ Tue Apr 27, 2010 9:46 pm ] |
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Quote: It's going to sound really strange, but I have a friend who's gotten great responses with, "Bitch you owe me quarter!"
how the hell does he work that opener?
He does it in this really playful, joking, sarcastic way, but he keeps at it like he's serious. If done well (i.e. non-threateningly) it opens the girl up and makes room for some fun conversation. |
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| Author: | Dr. Beat [ Tue Apr 27, 2010 10:00 pm ] |
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Stirlee, if you carry yourself the right way you can pretty much open with any ridiculous thing out there. |
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| Author: | livininthemoment01 [ Tue May 11, 2010 8:01 am ] |
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just say HI really loud!!!
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| Author: | origami [ Tue May 18, 2010 5:05 am ] |
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In my opinion, openers don't really matter that much... it's really your overall approach and what comes out of your mouth in total that matters. My favorite thing to say to open right now is: Hey, what's your name? Excuse me, what's your name would work just the same. Excuse me can work, it really does not matter that much. Being or seeming weak has hardly anything to do with the exact words you use. If "excuse me" sounds weak coming from you, "excuse moi" is going to sound weak AND stupid, I think. Practice is where you're going to learn how to communicate, not theorizing over specific words to use. |
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| Author: | Charlatan [ Tue May 18, 2010 5:13 am ] |
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You can really just cut "excuse me," no need to replace it. Say you're in a grocery store and woman's looking at... celery? Excuse me, do you know how to tell if celery's fresh? vs. Do you know how to tell if celery's fresh? It's really not rude or anything... But you drop the whole "getting permission to speak" bit. Not that asking about fresh vegetables is a stellar opener, just an example. 
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| Author: | immaculate42 [ Sat May 22, 2010 8:45 pm ] |
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i have to agree with charlatan, im trying to get out of asking for permission to speak like "excuse me" "pardon me" "can i ask you a question" etc. just start talkin and ive found that the interaction will go smoother |
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