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This is the first part of a 2 part special, focused on bringing you back to authentic and effortless seduction, which you already have, and will enrich the rest of your life.
Today, in part 1, I want to re-align you, and move your mind away from any stress you link to enjoying the process of meeting and seducing women.
Straight up, honest, no bullshit!
If you have ever engaged in any type of conversation with me on the topic of seduction and sexual escalation, you will be very aware, that my opinion is cemented in the fact that seduction is effortless. Many guys in the ruthless pick-up camp get very angry towards me for this. I don’t blame them, as I would have responded exactly the same to some dude telling me all the work I put into learning ‘game’ was actually making me worse with girls, and life.
Guys grip to their chosen structure and coach…out of fear and confusion.
The reason for my “seduction is effortless” belief is down to 2 things; life experience, and understanding.
If I were focused on a method, a particular set of rules, words, or instructions, then it would not be effortless. It would be the opposite. It would be work! Which pick-up is! It makes many men stressed and miserable.
The ONLY appreciation I have, is it gave me the initial crutch, which allowed me to take the first step and say ‘hi’ to girls…after that…KABOOOOOM! Downhill!
The basis of pick-up coaching is handed down in a ‘practical tips’ type of way.
She says this, so you respond with that. She does this, and you respond with that. ‘That’, which has been pre-designed and pre-organized in your head.
Many guys create their own limitations with women long before they even enter the interaction.
Her response is a direct reaction to something you have pre-planned/pre-meditated or read about. The issue here, is that the end ‘result’ or her reaction, is a direct manifestation and in-line with the structure or ‘play-book’ you have been running on her. Does that make sense? Your ‘game’ and mindsets have been the reason she randomly shows LMR. Your structure created this…NOT YOU!
The likes of Mystery Method states that there is a step-by-step structure, from first approaching of the target, all the way to eventual, but slim sexual gratification. It is all laid out in such a rigorous step-by-step, and section-by-section way.
Now I’m not sure of the exact details, but I remember seeing Mystery Method stating the exact scientifically proven amount of hours it will take for a woman to sleep with you, once of course you go through all her different phases in robotic form. Possibly 7 hours of “gaming”, but I cant remember the exact number. Regardless…this is all complete bullshit. (Unless you are trying to bang a piece of software)
If this concept is indeed true, then I must be an absolute freak of nature, along with all the other men who seem to sleep with women incredibly quickly after first contact (I mean on a consistent basis). The men, who don’t really do much, but have women chasing them. The men who are not overtly handsome or good-looking, but always have beautiful women in their lives.
Wait a minute…could we all have been lied to?
I am no different to any of you. I spent many years grafting and hustling, trying to make all this shit work for me, to get me laid. Only years after stopping my use of pick up, did I realize that I had been getting in my own way all along.
I would think back to situations with girls where I started strongly, and they were already attracted. They were already down, but because of my allegiance to the chosen method and structure, I ignored the receptive and stimulated woman in front of me, and continued to move on to the next ‘comfort phase’. FACEPALM!
I still feel so guilty and embarrassed for all those girls, whom I was so selfish with. If I had just understood that a girl is telling me at every moment exactly how she wants me to proceed and seduce, then I could of stopped putting my focus into the game, and started to put my focus into her! Once I grasped this, I was free from all the bullshit, and results ensued.
This will generate awareness in you. Notice how she reacts to you. How she looks at you. How she smiles at you. How she turns down to the side and blushes a little when you give her your full attention and maybe some humor.
I guess, what men don’t want to hear is that seduction is not a bunch of rules and techniques. It is not something you learn or master, but something you experience. It is a new experience with every individual you encounter. They become the seduction blueprint for themselves. If you accept this and allow yourself to flow with whatever is thrown at you, you become seductive.
Before you can do this, you must stop seeing girls as the enemy, target, or set. Start to seem them as your biggest fans who actually want you to do well. They are our partners, who are looking for all the things we are. (and yes, that can include 1-night stands and fuck-buddies).
Avoid trying to figure it out, and start focusing on learning from every woman you meet, by just being there with her. Looking her in the eye, asking her about who she is, and having a real, present interaction with her. NOT as some book intended. She is the book, and she is telling you all the time. You do not need to disarm her, as with this mentality you are the only person holding a weapon (your pick-up tactics).
Please do your best to question your own self, honestly, on everything I have shared above.
In part 2, I will be discussing all you really need to be seductive everywhere you go, and inspire women to want to be with YOU!
Chris Bale
Okay, this all sounds good. However, most failures like myself easily misconstrue advice such as "be direct, be honest, no bullshit, be sexual" by easily making mistakes like saying to a girl from the get go an approach "hey I thought you looked sexy and I was wondering if you wanted to have sex me" or escalate physically way too fast or call the girl and ask her to come over to your place. Then, guys like us can't comprehend why seduction seems to be impossible for us.