I like to think that my dancefloor game has gotten good, every time I hit the club grinding with a girl i.e. behind a girl, nearly cumming, smelling the girls hair, etc happens. Yet I'm not sure how to transition from this ^^ to a lay. To elaborate further: I don't speak, I don't smile, I don't show emotion, just focus on the emotional feeling, getting in the flow.

There's your problem. Generally dancing with a girl is hard to transition to a lay, there are two options a. you isolate her somewhere quiet but then risk de-escalation (loss of buying temperature). Or b. you take her hand and leave the venue either to your place or a venue change. However with no rapport her buying temperature must be incredibly high otherwise she's not going to leave with some random guy who ground up against her trying not to blow his load in the early stages.

Lots of people would not advocate dancing with a girl as the first move, though I do not think its necessarily a bad idea. Ultimately it's high risk - high reward, however it can come down to a numbers game.

My advice however would be to talk - show you're a fun person. I like to go with a funny dance game, i'll twirl a girl or have a dance off (all golden) and then escalate quickly when I feel it's right. Then whisper into her ear how much you want her, show her a desire. This is obviously a judgement call, and don't be a creep and start with anything over the top (unless it's highly sexual). Build a tension, create a desire through dancing, and escalate with some initiative and direction - try take her from the dance floor if there is little resistance you are doing good. But as I mentioned before - be prepared for rejection. If you have not built comfort taking a girl home can be a struggle.

Hope this helps.

Yes, that helped a lot. Thanks

Dance with her, and once you feel that its getting hot and heavy, then grab her hand and confidently leave the venue. If she does not want to leave then get her number, or go to a place inside the venue and talk. Try to end things on a high note. Do not be the guy dancing with the same chick the whole night.

I don't agree. If I dance with her for the entire night and THEN get to go home with her, that's definitely a high note in my book.