PUA Forum :: Where did I go wrong? help

This is the conversation I had with a girl names savannah, a blonde girl I met wednesday night two weeks ago:

Me: I just saw something that reminded me of you
Her: what
Me: I overheard some blonde country girl talking about the wiz concert lol (she went to it)
her: Oh I see ha
Me: So yeah, can you keep a secret for me? I was considering telling you
her: sure haha
Me: I met this real cool girl on a wednesday night, but I havent seen her in a while cause or schedules dont mix. any advice?
her: Uhh I have no idea....sorry
Me: well her name starts with an 'S' if that helps lol

fuck my life

He actually ran fair game there with the text but the problem is that she's on a long fuse and you need more comfort/attraction in order for her to comply/play along with your texts.

Long fuse: short answers, no humor/role play.

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Please give me an example

i disagree.... look at how much she wrote. At this point in time, she obviously is showing ZERO interest what so ever, and is just being polite.

Am i the only one who personally thinks all this "You didnt use any techniques" thing is bullshit. Reframe what, wtf was the frame there....., and disqualify her. The problem wasnt that he did anything wrong, it is that she had no interest. If she isnt interested no magic sentence over texting will make her go "HOLY FUCK I SUDDENLY WANNA TALK TO THIS GUY"

My advice would be to start showing less interest. Talk to her less, and continue your progress in person. Then once you have built enough try again over texting and what not. You obviously can make conversation, the issue is more so you need to make her want to talk to you more than you wanna talk to her.

Any thoughts ?

Author:	Julianuribe23 [ Sat Jul 23, 2011 10:19 pm ]
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This is the conversation I had with a girl names savannah, a blonde girl I met wednesday night two weeks ago: Me: I just saw something that reminded me of you Her: what Me: I overheard some blonde country girl talking about the wiz concert lol (she went to it) her: Oh I see ha Me: So yeah, can you keep a secret for me? I was considering telling you her: sure haha Me: I met this real cool girl on a wednesday night, but I havent seen her in a while cause or schedules dont mix. any advice? her: Uhh I have no idea....sorry Me: well her name starts with an 'S' if that helps lol fuck my life

Author:	Crimsonian [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 6:33 am ]
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Quote: This is the conversation I had with a girl names savannah, a blonde girl I met wednesday night two weeks ago: Me: I just saw something that reminded me of you Her: what Me: I overheard some blonde country girl talking about the wiz concert lol (she went to it) her: Oh I see ha Me: So yeah, can you keep a secret for me? I was considering telling you her: sure haha Me: I met this real cool girl on a wednesday night, but I havent seen her in a while cause or schedules dont mix. any advice? her: Uhh I have no idea....sorry Me: well her name starts with an 'S' if that helps lol fuck my life I see you have potential (you seem like a witty guy), but the main problem is that you're just being a tad aimless. You're not really employing any game techniques. Neg, reframe, push-pull, qualify, disqualify. Something. With this specific girl, it looks like the better path would have been to be more direct. Have something in mind to invite her to. Don't ask, just say "you should come." Pick a time that doesn't conflict (a Wednesday night perhaps?). And if your schedules are 100% conflicting, there's really no point in moving on anyway with her. Move on to the next one. Either way, don't beat yourself up about it. It's her loss. Take what you can from your number close and build off it.

Author:	Rundeep [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 7:46 am ]
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You didn't DHV, and you didn't use DISQUALIFIERS.

Author:	Julianuribe23 [ Wed Jul 27, 2011 4:28 am ]
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Thanks man, the thing is that although my time conflicts with thise one, I always become an AFC the moment it comes to day 2s! Also, what are DHV and disqualifiers? Could you send me a link to a sticky with the PUA Terminology? thanks mates!

Author:	Soren K [ Wed Jul 27, 2011 5:20 am ]
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You gave too much. Right from the first text. What. Ask her to guess? Put up some attempt. Get her to invest in you. If a girls invested (time, money, energy) she'll be more likely to give in return. Have an interaction, not an interrogation. If she doesn't want to play, make the choice to next her.

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Author:	GameIsOn [ Wed Jul 27, 2011 5:04 pm ]
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He actually ran fair game there with the text but the problem is that she's on a long fuse and you need more comfort/attraction in order for her to comply/play along with your texts. Long fuse: short answers, no humor/role play.

Author:	Julianuribe23 [ Wed Jul 27, 2011 8:17 pm ]
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Quote: He actually ran fair game there with the text but the problem is that she's on a long fuse and you need more comfort/attraction in order for her to comply/play along with your texts. Long fuse: short answers, no humor/role play. Please give me an example

Author:	GameIsOn [ Wed Jul 27, 2011 8:36 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: He actually ran fair game there with the text but the problem is that she's on a long fuse and you need more comfort/attraction in order for her to comply/play along with your texts. Long fuse: short answers, no humor/role play. Please give me an example There's not really an example. My advice is to move on unless you really dig this girl. Basically you should have built more attraction/comfort when you were in the set. Now don't think that everything's lost, you can still recover just keep putting in some humor and make her invest time,energy in you. What I would have done is I would have called her out on her behavior. But anyways she seems a bit boring and not to mention stupid for not getting your second to last text. Good luck

Author:	Octave [ Thu Jul 28, 2011 12:17 am ]
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i disagree.... look at how much she wrote. At this point in time, she obviously is showing ZERO interest what so ever, and is just being polite. Am i the only one who personally thinks all this "You didnt use any techniques" thing is bullshit. Reframe what, wtf was the frame there....., and disqualify her. The problem wasnt that he did anything wrong, it is that she had no interest. If she isnt interested no magic sentence over texting will make her go "HOLY FUCK I SUDDENLY WANNA TALK TO THIS GUY" My advice would be to start showing less interest. Talk to her less, and continue your progress in person. Then once you have built enough try again over texting and what not. You obviously can make conversation, the issue is more so you need to make her want to talk to you more than you wanna talk to her. Any thoughts ?

Author:	GameIsOn [ Thu Jul 28, 2011 10:39 am ]
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Quote: i disagree.... look at how much she wrote. At this point in time, she obviously is showing ZERO interest what so ever, and is just being polite. Am i the only one who personally thinks all this "You didnt use any techniques" thing is bullshit. Reframe what, wtf was the frame there....., and disqualify her. The problem wasnt that he did anything wrong, it is that she had no interest. If she isnt interested no magic sentence over texting will make her go "HOLY FUCK I SUDDENLY WANNA TALK TO THIS GUY" My advice would be to start showing less interest. Talk to her less, and continue your progress in person. Then once you have built enough try again over texting and what not. You obviously can make conversation, the issue is more so you need to make her want to talk to you more than you wanna talk to her. Any thoughts ? Until there you were right. But if he shows no interest anymore she'll just drop him for good. She isn't interested so she doesn't care.The only way he can turn this around is by building rapport/comfort by text game since he doesn't see her in person a lot.

Author:	Jerry Green [ Thu Jul 28, 2011 4:33 pm ]
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I agree with the guy a few posts before this. You are telegraphing way too much interest. You need to either a.) begin to freeze her out, or b.) start actively demonstrating that you are not that interested in her. She clearly is not in the same state as you are (you're texting medium length sentences, she is responding with 2-6 words) so trying to force her into that state is not going to work. Also, it is clear that she is not interested yet because of her response to your scheduling text so you need to make her interested / attracted. How do you do that? Demonstrate qualities of an alpha male that are attractive, one being that you have other options (pre-selection) from a variety of different women. So, to end this fucking post, I would suggest IODing and reframing this interaction. Text her something like "Yeah, I'm not working today so you can come over. The key is in the regular place" then if she texts back saying "What?" you can say "Sorry, wrong number" or "Sorry, wrong Savannah" (her name is unique so don't use this since you probably dont know any other Savannahs). I have used this numerous times and it has completely reframed the relationship. It shows that you have options and you are just popping in and out of her life. Hope this helps

Author:	anthonypham [ Thu Jul 28, 2011 8:43 pm ]
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[quote="Julianuribe23"]T Me: I met this real cool girl on a wednesday night, but I havent seen her in a while cause or schedules dont mix. any advice? her: Uhh I have no idea....sorry Me: well her name starts with an 'S' if that helps lol /quote] If her name starts with an 'S' , you deserve a punch in your face! Too cliché, no PUA-behaviour. I do get that you want to make your message more fun. Your goal is meet her again, right? Be more direct: 'hey! Coffee tommorow at 3 pm @pub. I need your help for something' Don't explain to her what the help is, just tell her that she should come. And at that time, you game her! The 'help' is just a trick and not necessary to talk about during the coffee [I handled that this morning, but thanks anyway].

Author:	Julianuribe23 [ Sat Jul 30, 2011 8:02 pm ]
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I moved on, deleted her number and forgot about her. I just wanna learn from the experience now

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