welcome to the dating world man. the world of dating is so dynamic, you never know how it's gonna be. there can be good ones and the really disastrous ones. but they can be fun in terms of vocal and physical interactions.
gaming shy girls is quite a challenge especially for really confident PUAs as we are used to women of high calibre. with shy girls, one has to take it slow in terms of being physical but vocally it is very easy with the right conversational skills. if you know that she does not like talking about sex, omit it from the interaction and stick to the 'clean' stuff (hope you don't have a dirty mind lol). as your target is quite shy, i would say that you and her should go on a simple drinks date. usually guys like to take girls on the active dates where they can easily get physical with the girls and the girls like to try something new, but this cases does not apply to you.
you can wear what ever you want on the date, as long as you are comfortable in them, your clothes are freshly clean and you look presentable. on the drinks date, if you're sitting on a couch of course sit next to her. but if there's a square table, dont sit opposite her as it would seem that there's an invisible barrier between you two. best solution is both of you sit on the same corner of the table as there will be more proximity and it'll be more intimate.
it would happen alot with guys that there will be some uncomfortable pauses during the date as they have no idea what to talk about. bellow are some notes about building deep rapport and some simple convo skills which will allow you to connect with the girl and you'll be able to talk for ages without stopping.
building rapport is a very interesting process. in order to build a great emotional connection one must choose to talk about things which have deep emotional content. it does not matter what the girl does or likes, you can connect with her even if you have dissimilar interests. as you know all occupations and hobbies are completely different in their complexity, principles and structure, but there is one thing which all of them have in common/share "EMOTIONS". one must be empathetic and show a girl that u understand why she chose to do that job or hobbie by expressing the emotions that one feels when doing that activity, it shows that you're really trying to get to know her, and she will think "wow this is a great guy to talk to, he's making an effort to understand me, but wait, i dont know anything about him" and this will compel her to ask you questions and u can freely express yourself how ever much u want as long as u express urself passionately and positively. all the men dont do this at all and do not understand how much empathy is a powerful force and openly allow themselves to be perceived to see a girl superficially. you can use the concept of 'rapport' to ur advantage as well.
in order for you to build greater rapport with her, get used to asking more open-ended questions e.g. "what have you been up to?" or "What did u get up to today?", my one: "What monkey business did u get up to today?". dont use questions like "wats up hun?", thats a closed-ended question which the girl would simply answer and she wont give u much material to work on in order to reach the hook point.
and connect on her answers in a positive way. dont be afraid to tease her as well. dont be afraid to create impact. when telling a girl about a situation that happened to u on that day or in the week, give more details about it, women love details. it is also good to read the local news paper, women are usually very aware what happens in the world, u should as well. u can get her point of view on something in the news (nothing to do with which celebrity had sex with who) e.g. political, environmental, sociological etc and then she would ask you what u think and you can manipulate the conversation which can lead anywhere u want.
another way u can have an "endless conversation" is the principle of "Question, statement, Question, statement, Q, S, Q, S etc". so u ask an open question, receive the answer, and then make a statement about the last thing she said in order to ask a deeper question. this process can go round in a circle, it can go on for ages.
Hope that i have helped. Happy gaming dude 
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" and I said "Idk.. how about Wednesday for lunch?" and she was like "YESS! 
just the two of us, like a date