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Author:  Expose [ Sat Mar 12, 2011 10:16 pm ]
Post subject:  wot to do with the girls that want you to pay for them? Grrr
recently i was with a girl and i bounced her to another club, fortunately it was free to get in that night but she didn't know this at the time and
asked me to pay for her, obviously i just told her it was free and we carried on with the night (good times).

so later on i was thinking, i wouldn't have a clue how to deal with it if it wasn't free (and i didnt want to pay for obvious reasons)
so, heres the question if it wasn't free how would you suggest dealing with this situation?
Author:  arnolfo [ Sun Mar 13, 2011 2:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: wot to do with the girls that want you to pay for them? Grrr
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recently i was with a girl and i bounced her to another club, fortunately it was free to get in that night but she didn't know this at the time and
asked me to pay for her, obviously i just told her it was free and we carried on with the night (good times).

so later on i was thinking, i wouldn't have a clue how to deal with it if it wasn't free (and i didnt want to pay for obvious reasons)
so, heres the question if it wasn't free how would you suggest dealing with this situation?
to be onest if you bring a girl out you should pay for her, especially if you are the person who said to go in that specific place and especially if those are the firsts dates.
after a while that you are dating is ok if each pay for himself.
it depends how much do u care about that girl, if is one that u don't care much about you can say i won't pay but is a risk and is not the best.
it's a hard situation, maybe u should explain us more about the situation.
how long have u been dating ?
how much do you care about her ?
Author:  hawksterG [ Mon Mar 14, 2011 5:35 pm ]
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Pussy isn't always free. Don't be cheap. Whats cover? Couple of bucks? Less than a drink.
Author:  snakeeater1337 [ Tue Mar 15, 2011 6:43 pm ]
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Did she not have money or just wanted to see if you would pay? Most women I know don't like getting paid for. Also, it matters if it was the first night or not. My gut says don't pay until you've seen her once or a few times, but in your situation, I'd have gone with pay the cover, get her to buy you a drink later. She probably had a credit card for that purpose and it'll even you up.
Author:  zebraG [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 9:17 am ]
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I like the theory that you should spend money on a hb like a friend; eg. buy rounds. If you're only buying her a drink because she's a hb It's a bad place to be.
Author:  Dorian_Gray [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 12:47 pm ]
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Depends on the situation, and how she asked. If I suggested "I know this cool other place lets go there" it's a bit cheap not to pay, because youre the one thats suggested it.

I try to avoid these situations by predicting when they might happen and then setting the frame, nothing worse than having that awkward moment when the bill comes or whatever and then awkwardly trying to sort out who is paying. If in doubt, dont cause a fuss, just pay. Most girls actually dont like being paid for, for everything, if you have high enough value they will generally buy you somethng back later.

But when I do find myself in these situations and I pay the bill or whatever, the girl says thanks and I say no worries you can get the next one, they like this because they dont feel like theyre being bought, and youve also just stated you'll be doing it again, massive comfort. Or if i can see we're going to gave to pay for somethng I'll get in there first, I'll get the cover charge, you get the drinks.
Author:  Coldman [ Sat Mar 19, 2011 1:10 pm ]
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What Dorian_Gray said... don't be fucking cheap. It's alright to pay shit for her, the only reason PUA's have said: "Don't pay for shit" is because people tried getting attraction by paying for shit. (e.g. "Can I buy you a drink?", on opener)

But when you're both having an awesome time, it's perfectly alright to pay for her shit.
Author:  Sinbad6 [ Sun Mar 20, 2011 9:08 am ]
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many thanks.. i learned something new.. im gonna try it.
Author:  fluff546 [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 2:28 am ]
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Absolutely agree with most of the folks who replied here. Don't get confused between random stranger HBs coming up to you and asking you to buy them drinks at the club and a girl with whom you've been having a fun time. After you've struck up rapport and have been having a fun time together, you should not hesitate paying for her cover especially when it's you who had invited her to the new venue.

At this stage (i.e. you've established comfort and built some attraction, in other words you've got a good vibe going and she seems into you), you need to show the girl that you're not tight-fisted when it comes to money. Miserly men are a big turn-off for women because a man who's pinching pennies is probably also going to be stingy in other ways as well (e.g. in bed).

You can always get her to buy you a drink when you're inside the new venue, but don't be insistent or rude about it, do it in a teasing & playful manner. Remember C&F, without ever acting like an a*sehole.

In fact, my experience shows that if the girl voluntarily offers to buy you a drink before you even suggest it once you've got into the new venue, that's a pretty strong IOI in itself. Getting a new round of drinks means more time she's committing to spend with you. If she's volunteering to buy you a drink, it means she's enjoying your presence and wants more of your company.
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