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| Author: | breednow22 [ Fri Feb 25, 2011 4:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Silence is Awkward |
Here is a response to anothers post that I thought was very relevant to mid game: The major trend I recognized in the second story is your need to keep talking and keep the conversation going! You said, "I was scared of the silence." This was one of my most major obsticles when learning. It's a feeling that causes you to believe that if you stop talking, they will run away. This is absolutely not true. NOT TRUE. Silence can be one of your best tools for building attraction. You must remember that it is a conversation, not a speech to an audience. There must be a give and take. People like talking about themselves. Thus the key is to get them to talk, allow them to respond, and allow them to express their feedback to your stories, statements, and questions. Also the use of silence after statements creates an awkward vacume, where it feels wrong for no one to be speaking. This is why you start speaking and continue speaking to avoid this feeling. Here's a hint. They feel that void to. They feel the need to fill that empty silence with words. This will cause them to talk, if you can give them the chance to. Think of it as a game of chicken. Make a statement and wait for their response. Do not say another thing until they have fully expressed that response. Even after they are done speaking, let the silence build again, think about what to say, and respond yourself. This will allow you to maintain composure, while similtaneiously creating an environment in which they must speak. The more they speak, the more they feel comfortable. Comfort is a perfect environment for attraction. -Ben Reed AKA Breednow www.breednowornever.com Breednow-or-never (Dating Advice for Smart Men) |
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| Author: | Jits138 [ Fri Feb 25, 2011 4:23 am ] |
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good post! |
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