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Author:  realworksuks [ Sat Nov 14, 2009 7:14 pm ]
Post subject:  So this happened to me last night.. feel shitty
Alright, I have read through some of the topics on the site and have a very hard time picturing myself doing any of the recommended techniques. I am pretty much an AFC.

Anyway, despite that, I have been having better than expected luck lately with girls paying attention to me (giving numbers, interested to talk to me, touching me, etc.). This girl at my work said all her friends were asking about me the other day and my confidence was at an all time high...

I went out the other night and way at the end of the night when the bars closed I got invited to a 24 hour restaurant by some dude I met last week. My buddy and I went over there and there was a ton of extremely immature drunk twenty year olds.. (I am 24). It was pretty irrating, but there was a very hot chick at our table... well not VERY hot, but she was like an 8/10 or so in my book... great tits and nice lean body.

A lot of time when she was talking she would look at me instead of the person she was talking to and I took that as a sign that she liked me. I didn't do any of the techniques suggested like insulting her or even flirting. I kinda just sat there and chatted with everybody normally. But since I was kinda irrated by all the immature horseplay, slow service, and etc. I didn't talk much.

ANYWAY, at the end of the night when we were all done eating she got up to pay her bill and I figured that it was now or never. So here's exactly what went down:

I said "Hey Cassie, do you remember my name?" And she did, then I said "I think you seem like a really cool person, we should hang out sometime".

And she said "I don't do that"
me: "do what?"
her: "hang out with random guys"
me: "well that's why we hang out, to get to know eachother"
me: "you have never had a boyfriend?"
her: "well only two or so but both I knew for a year before I started dating"
me: "hmmm well I really don't wanna take no for an answer here, you seem really cool"
her: "oh I am! it's just that I don't do that"

Then I guess I pretty much let it go, wtf could I have done I guess. I just let it go.
Author:  Molson [ Sun Nov 15, 2009 4:40 am ]
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Apparantly she doesn't hang out with guys she doesn't know.
Author:  Chris101 [ Sun Nov 15, 2009 8:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: So this happened to me last night.. feel shitty
Quote:
her: "well only two or so but both I knew for a year before I started dating"
If true, I guess they both managed to escape from the friends zone. :P

Seriously though, I can really relate to this closing problem scenario, especially when it comes to Day Game. On one hand you can understand her not wanting to see someone they just met or barely know, but on the other hand, if interested she should want to spend more time with you, so you guys can get to know each other better. It's all about building that sense of trust, relating as a normal person, along with being comfortable with each other and building a sense of intrigue and attraction... something some can pull off naturally, while others take a while to master it. Something to remember is never take it personally if the other person isn't interested, at least initially, because they probably still don't know you very well... it's all about how you've come across in any situation.

And if you seemed annoyed and didn't talk much in general, even if you liked this girl, the chances of reciprocated interest are even more slim.

Going back to Day Game, the problem is while being a more normal situation, you have a very limited window to get them into a social mood, build attraction and make them and consider you more a new friend instead of just a passing stranger. Granted, closing or not, I always try to leave on good terms with everyone I meet.
Author:  Foxtrot 5 [ Sun Nov 15, 2009 9:58 am ]
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You didn't generate enough attraction or comfort for her to give you her number. She needs to invest more into you. it's good that you were engaging on the whole group but you should have picked on her and teased her a bit. How can you get her number if you didn't talk much or flirt? Show everyone your awesome and fun. Before bailing, give her your phone and TELL her to put her number in it
Author:  misanoma [ Sun Nov 15, 2009 2:31 pm ]
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im no expert here, and this is my first post. more of a natural and dont have a set game, but...

In my opinion dude you didnt want to pick her up. Its a state of mind, and through choice or circumstance you didnt have it.

Id suggest deciding earlier wether you want to pick her up and going for your game.
Author:  realworksuks [ Sun Nov 15, 2009 6:31 pm ]
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Thanks for those responses, I think you guys hit it right on pretty much. I should have gamed her some, I gotta do more reading and get more experience on how to actually do that..!
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