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| Author: | para3 [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 2:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Talk about death- what do you think? |
Hi, I thought about this thing. My point of view on death is not like most of the people. I would like to think that I'm not afraid of my death. He is near and it will catch me in a day, a year, or in 70 years. I'm 17, and on my country, military is a duty and I would like to be a warrior/soldier. Because of the reality on my country, some of the conversations, especially on my age ( year from recruitment) end up as something that have to do with the army. On one hand, talk about what I feel and think about death and the fact that it's like an adventure for me can really impress women. It's kind of mysterious and adventurous that I've accepted the fact that I gonna die one day and I need to hang out as much as possible now. On the other hand, most of the people I know (including me), had some bad experiences with death. Whether it's relative or a friend, most of us faced the death of someone. I like to keep the conversation interesting and funny and I don't think that making the girl sad by thinking about her lost pals will help my attraction. I'll be honest with you guys. The reason that I don't field test it right now is because right now I pick-up a specific girl that I just don't succeed to close physically. She is not One-itis, but she is amazing girl and I don't want to screw it. So, what do you think? Death can be a good conversation topic? If yes, how do I keep the conversation about what I feel about death, and not making the woman sad because of the lost relatives and friends. Thanks. |
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| Author: | slyder2412 [ Thu Mar 26, 2009 3:34 pm ] |
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Death is a good conversational topic when you're both WELL into comfort stages. Especially in the form of ambition, goals....death will come to us all and isn't that reason enough to take advantage of our one chance to enjoy our time here? I'm not sure who coined it but it's like the onion metaphor with people. You have to calibrate when is a good time to show peel back to that piece....it shows that you're in tune with reality, what WILL happen, and your goals in spite of the final act. Just make sure you and the girl are deep in rapport and lead the topic into the conversation, just don't say "death; discuss." |
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| Author: | Voodoo.Fresh [ Fri Mar 27, 2009 12:54 pm ] |
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Personally, I'd hint the danger of death in a non-direct way. this goes pretty well with army stories (We sat in an armored ambush, ten clicks into the "red zone" it was the middle of a moon-filled night, my heart was pounding like a drum and I kept hearing those crawling voices.. no knowing where the [insert enemy] might come from.. blah blah first fire mission lots of excitment blah blah). cool thing is, you can throw it on a "buddy" of yours and it'll still bring the desired NLP effect and will frame you as the warrior. just don't use an over-depressing friendly fire bloodshed story.. heh. also, you can add a comic/sarcastic ending.. just look for stories over the web. |
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| Author: | fabie [ Fri Mar 27, 2009 11:12 pm ] |
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I don't really think this topic is advisable despite how you feel, it is really about how she feels. And in my opinion I don't want to associate the feelings of death with the here and now. Sad conversation topics don't go well in a positive environment. You want to make her happy around you so that she knows that she will feel good the next time she sees you. I mean you are at a great party, you are the center of attention, and are talking to a gorgeous girl. And then you change the mood and ask "So what do you think about death?" No, big no. You can talk about going into the army, but death, no. Unless you can make a joke out of it or get her happy when talking about death, no. |
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| Author: | brookes12 [ Sun Mar 29, 2009 6:28 pm ] |
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i wouldnt recommend it. if you talk about death her subconsious mind can label you with 'depression' etc and she wont be as attracted. Also it may remind her of some close to her that died meaing that would be on her mind and not you, she would end up being upset and not in the mood to scoialise |
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| Author: | bot [ Sun Mar 29, 2009 6:50 pm ] |
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i try to avoid death, religion, race and such when first talking, because it can cause undue tension too early. Like these guys have said, they are good conversations but just wait until you have sufficient comfort to pop them out. You could say, name 10 things you want to do before you die? |
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| Author: | para3 [ Tue Mar 31, 2009 8:58 pm ] |
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Thanks guys. |
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| Author: | V1V [ Tue Mar 31, 2009 9:54 pm ] |
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Comfort stages. Connect with vunerability. Its not good to talk about distasteful topics. The thing is - when guys talk they asses the content of the communication. In other words they pay more attention to the meaning of what you are saying. When you talk with a girl she will asses you more on the form of expression - in other words the WAY that you say it. So avoid talking about it distastefully - sont get me wrong dont do it with pleasure lol. Avoid heavy frame negatively connatated words such as ''death''. Lol.. |
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