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Author:  graplin [ Tue Feb 03, 2009 3:09 pm ]
Post subject:  where do i go from here??
Hi guys, I have a "tiny" issue that I need clearing up!

I met a HB about 4 months ago, she never really told guys she had a boyfriend unless asked! I had been flirting with her on facebook for a bit and it looked like things were going to plan.
We both found ourselves at a mutual friends party, and while we were talking, I asked here to come and have a drink with me. She came to my car for a drink and her bf spoke out askin where she was going!! I then realised she had a bf!
We then spoke on facebook again a few days later and she said they were not together now, as it seems to be on off all the time. The next time I spoke to here she was back with him again!!
So I checked out something about blowing the boyfriend out the water, and spoke to her about her bf. I said the relevent things that applied to this situation not being nasty, and telling her she seems to be the only good thing in his life and that's whe he is so over protective and clingy.
I was then working on the door one night and she came and met me wiv freinds, after a while she kissed me and I asked should she be doing this as she was with someone! She told me she split with him that day! :o).. Game on!! I didn't want to rush things so just dropped her to her friends that night and had a lil kiss. Since then we have met quite alot and slept with her 3 times in 3 nights and she has popped over here and there,(she has actually just left my flat now!) The txts have been constant through the weeks, with her starting them off most of the time. But am starting to like her and get attached! The thing is, she tells me she doesn't want anything serious,(but I feel like she does!) I'm happy with that for now, but I would like to know if it could get serious or am I just a rebound?? I tested her quite early on, by asking to come away with me on valentines day,thinking she would say maybe or no! But she said yes and can't wait. She is very parnoid about being seen with me, and thinks she may lose her friends that she made through her ex bf.
(Bit long winded)

Can someone see what's going on from the outside of this situation?? I have my own views on this but just want to hear someone elses views as I'm not sure mine are right.
Author:  LEPRECHAUN [ Tue Feb 03, 2009 5:23 pm ]
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It sounds like to me that you are a rebound, or seeing how you have slept
with her at least 3 times before this post, I would say that you are a booty
call.

Seeing how she said that she would go away with you on Valentines Day,
does imply that you will "hit that" again. But, be aware that she may "get back"
together with her "on-off" BF also... Just keep that in mind.

I have a cousin who has been on-off with a guy for the last 3 years... that's
correct people, " 3 YEARS! " She does sleep with other guys when she is not
with her BF.

Back to your topic...

Also, if she says that she does not want anything serious with you, this means
that she either thinks it is too early after the break up, or... she is just
using you (mentioned above).

Her not wanting to been seen around town with you because she don't
want to lose the friends that she made while with her BF seems to me like
she just does not want to seem like a slut to those friends by getting with
another guy so soon after her and her previous BF's break up.

When in reality, if they know how this guy acts, and know that he is in
fact an asshole, then they would not judge her and be pissed off at her
for getting with another guy.

But, in reality... she likes having you as her secret "lover" and so should
you. Don't fret the small shit man, enjoy the love that you are getting.

The more "secret" it is, the better the sex will be for the both of you.

You can always look at it this way:

When her and her BF do get back together, again... You will still be her
"go-to-guy" when she wants something better. Better you ask? Well yeah,
if she is broke up with her BF, and is NOT sleeping with him still, then the
sex must not be that good... right?

You are giving it to her better than he is, but he must have something that
other guys don't... it might be money, it might be his attitude... who knows
what it is that she is attracted to in him...

If you really want to know what it is that she is attracted to in her ex BF,
just ask her. Ask her what is it about this guy that attracts you to him...

When she tells you, you can either change the subject, or dive into the
convo more to find out what she likes in a BF. And from there, you can
mold yourself into her "perfect BF and lover."

If this is something that you really want to pursue. If you want to change
who you are for a girl in order just to have a "few dates" with her. Or, you
can just have fun with her and find a girl that does like you for you and
who will not cheat on you if you two break up... which is what this girl will
do if you get with her...

You might be saying, "no she won't." Do I have news for you my friend.

She is cheating on her BF with you right now, sure they may be broke up,
but... they keep getting back together, right? So, actually, she is not cheating
on him... she just breaks up with him "first", before she sleeps with another
guy. She will do the same thing to you too.

She will break up with you, sleep with another guy, (her ex BF), and then
come back to you... why? Because she knows that you will take her back
because her BF is a chump.

NOTE: This is my view on this thread anyways.
Author:  graplin [ Tue Feb 03, 2009 6:10 pm ]
Post subject: 
Thanks for that mate. I guess that's cleared my situation. I love spending time with her, but have to make sure those points sink in and act accordingly. Thanks again.
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