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Author:  Dr. Gruuve [ Sun Nov 30, 2008 10:19 pm ]
Post subject:  How to respond: "Are you a player?"
I hate getting this question. The real answer: "Not yet, but I'm working on it." :wink: What I usually bumble into is "No, I'm actually a nice guy." I don't think this is a good answer...I feel like it's me qualifying myself. Perhaps "No, I'm a nice guy who adores women" might work (that's actually true also).

If my wife or a female pivot is sarging with me, I think training them to say "No, but it's only because he doesn't choose to be...he's a sweet man who adores women." Hmmm...maybe that's how I should answer?

So, who's got a good answer or two to this question?

Gruuve
Author:  R.G. [ Sun Nov 30, 2008 10:29 pm ]
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Role reversal:

HB: "Are you a player?"

PUA: "No, why do you only go for players? Omg, you're not one of them are you? If you go all pervy on me you know we can't be friends."

I would then go onto a DHV story about how some random girl hit on me randomly (which is true, I only use true DHV stories), and make them qualify that they wouldn't treat me like a 'sausage with feet', to quote Swinggcat.

Then go in for some heavy kino - "good, then maybe I'm beginning to like you." (As you've just disqualified yourself, or disqualified sexual intimacy, you can get away with strong kino.)

Happy sarging.
Author:  ChickenFood [ Sun Nov 30, 2008 10:35 pm ]
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I got asked if i was a PIMP once... in the sense of getting aload of girls...this girl was a bit freaky and i responded by asking her "Why? Are you looking for work?" as in like a criminal PIMP. Needless to say, she absolutely loved that lol

But on being asked if you are a player? I think i would deny it. Make a joke like "No. I think my wife and children would be a bit pissed if i was a player". This won't work with older guys who could actually be married but im 17 so i can get away with this is a C&F way.... thats just my thoughts...
Author:  V1V [ Sun Nov 30, 2008 10:48 pm ]
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Role reversal:

HB: "Are you a player?"

PUA: "No, why do you only go for players? Omg, you're not one of them are you? If you go all pervy on me you know we can't be friends."
You got the right idea kid but the whole point of reversal techniques is that it brings you in control. While this still gives you the upper hand, its better to ask her first or she may assume your just dodging her question. which may i add you are. So if your gonna do this ask her first.
PUA: UUhhhh ohhhh you seem like a player. I should stop talking to you while i have the chance.
While i usually stick to reversal - i usually deny this question.
HB: are you a player?
PUA: define player.
HB:blah blah gets girls bah
PUA: to me a players definition is in the title. They game with the girls head - which everyone does to each other to an extent - but in a bad way. Most players aim to actually hurt a girl for their own insecurities. I think you can still have endless options, have women in your life without hurting a girl. So no - im not a player. But i do have - erm options to say the least. I just dont believe in hurting a girl if im honest.

Role reversal will kill her bitch shield. YOUR AIM is to use the first - ask her if shes a player - wait for her response - and tell her that.
Author:  V1V [ Sun Nov 30, 2008 10:49 pm ]
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Why did your wife ask you this gruuve?? :P
Author:  Dr. Gruuve [ Mon Dec 01, 2008 1:24 pm ]
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Why did your wife ask you this gruuve?? :P
:lol:
Author:  QB1 [ Mon Dec 01, 2008 6:28 pm ]
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HER: are you a player?
YOU: 'nah, girls just seem to like me'
Author:  Jaybot [ Mon Dec 01, 2008 6:53 pm ]
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HB: Are you a player
PUA: Hell yeah, Skittles on Tuesday, Bingo on Wednesday, Extreme frisbee on Friday and if I'm not too worn out Xbox on Sunday. How about you?
HB: - pure confusion-
Author:  Dr. Gruuve [ Mon Dec 01, 2008 7:03 pm ]
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Good ones! One answer I gave recently over chat:

HB: Are you a player?

Me: Yup. I play drums, guitar, bass, and sing too.

Gruuve
Author:  V1V [ Mon Dec 01, 2008 7:32 pm ]
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Good ones! One answer I gave recently over chat:

HB: Are you a player?

Me: Yup. I play drums, guitar, bass, and sing too.

Gruuve
I DO like these - problem is she will be thinking you are dodging her questions.
Author:  Foreplay [ Mon Dec 01, 2008 7:37 pm ]
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you can just say it with complete confidence

HB: Are you a player?
You: hell ya i'm a player.

she won't know what to say because she's expecting you to say no and come up with an excuse. when you say yes, she's caught off guard but it interests her so she'll keep talking to you. If she keeps asking about it you just tell her you're not her run of the mill player either, you're the best there is.
Author:  Dr. Gruuve [ Mon Dec 01, 2008 7:50 pm ]
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Interesting Chappo...since I'd consider myself a PUA in training, how about this?

HB: Are you a player?
Me: Not yet, but I'm working on it.

Hmm...probably not a good answer, doesn't demonstrate confidence does it?

Gruuve
Author:  Dr. Gruuve [ Mon Dec 01, 2008 7:51 pm ]
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How about this?

HB: Are you a player?
PUA: Yeah, and I can likely teach you a few things about your own body that you probably don't know.

Gruuve
Author:  Dr. Gruuve [ Tue Dec 02, 2008 3:26 am ]
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Hmm...how about this one?

HB: Are you a player?
PUA: Depends on how you define player. I adore women, but don't like to hurt people. Is that a player or no?

It's a totally honest answer. Thoughts?

Gruuve
Author:  Foreplay [ Tue Dec 02, 2008 6:00 am ]
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Interesting Chappo...since I'd consider myself a PUA in training, how about this?

HB: Are you a player?
Me: Not yet, but I'm working on it.

Hmm...probably not a good answer, doesn't demonstrate confidence does it?

Gruuve
i like that one. I might change it a little bit though

HB: Are you a player?
Me: well technically i'm a player in training, i haven't mastered the art yet.

here you don't show a lack of confidence and it's cocky funny
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