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Author:  NewbieCasanova [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 12:55 am ]
Post subject:  Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
So there's this extremely cute girl in my lunch period and I've wanted to approach her for quite a while now. I've been thinking it through and learning a good amount of PUA stuff. After today, is winter break so what better time is there than to ask her now?
Saw her in the morning, approached her and said

>"Hey! I know this is random, but i've seen you around a lot lately and you look really cute, so i had to come say hi"
>"Hi"
>"Does this happen to you often?"
>"No not really"
Now, my prepared line was "I find that hard to believe, because you probably walk around the lunch room winking at all the cute boys to come talk to you". So I said the first few lines and stopped because i noticed it wasn't lunch.
But i fucked up because it wasn't lunch and my anxiety came right in, so most of the canned/prepared materials were forgotten.

> "My names Frankie, nice to meet you!"
> "Nice to meet you too!"
> "Your name is?"
> "Girl"

I shook her hand and instead of pulling away after the handshake, i held onto it.
I made sure she wasn't resisting so i held on to it lightly, she didn't pull away until like a minute or two later.

>"Im in a hurry to advisory"
>"Alright, I have you in lunch right?"
>"Yea"
>"Okay I'll talk to you there!"

**END**

Okay, so I know the basic fundamental. Approach the girl, introduce yourself, spark a conversation/emotion, use a little push-pull, disqualifications and qualifications, end and grab the number. I approached her during lunch, but again I did it as lunch was ending and people were leaving. I stopped her, said hey and she was like "i have to go, my friends are waiting". Which is true, her friends were waiting. So i was like,

>"Here, put your number into my phone and we can talk later!"

Puts number in my phone and continues on her way.
In my mind, i wanted to give her a hug, but unfortunately, something was holding me back, telling me not to.

* Note, that the entire conversation, she had a smile on her face and so did I. She gave her number without hesitation, but then again, it's just a fucking number.
* 1. I didn't get a chance to spark a good conversation and emotions.
* 2. But i did set the frame at the beginning for both physically and mentally.
*Now what should i do? Isn't numbers just good for setting up dates?
I've texted her, joked around and teased. Disqualifications. But she didn't reply after one of my text.

Me "You're like the most interesting girl I've texted in the past hour xD"
Her "WYM? xD"
Me "That like out of the 100 girls I approached today, Ur the most interestin"
Me "Dw everybody learns at their own level. Haha jkjk."
So im not sure if its because i pushed it too far or i just didnt peak her interest yet.
Author:  JackZero [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 1:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
You pretty much did a good job except for you told her about the 100 girls you approached. I get that you were trying to give her a compliment, but at the same time you didn't allow her to feel special about the compliment. Instead you made it sound like you are a guy that just approaches girls and she was just one of them in your path.

Reengage tomorrow and act like you never made that comment. Just ask for her to meet you at lunch.
Author:  NewbieCasanova [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 2:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
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You pretty much did a good job except for you told her about the 100 girls you approached. I get that you were trying to give her a compliment, but at the same time you didn't allow her to feel special about the compliment. Instead you made it sound like you are a guy that just approaches girls and she was just one of them in your path.

Reengage tomorrow and act like you never made that comment. Just ask for her to meet you at lunch.
Im like blushing right now, you just said i did good haha.
The 100 girls thing, wasn't that a little of of the push and pull technique?

And also she hasn't replied to me since like 5 PM. So if i do reengage again tmr, wouldn't she just end up ignoring me like she just did?


I let one of my girl friends read it, and they said that she wasn't interested because of how little they were texting back and contributing
Author:  JackZero [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 3:30 am ]
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You pretty much did a good job except for you told her about the 100 girls you approached. I get that you were trying to give her a compliment, but at the same time you didn't allow her to feel special about the compliment. Instead you made it sound like you are a guy that just approaches girls and she was just one of them in your path.

Reengage tomorrow and act like you never made that comment. Just ask for her to meet you at lunch.
Im like blushing right now, you just said i did good haha.
The 100 girls thing, wasn't that a little of of the push and pull technique?

And also she hasn't replied to me since like 5 PM. So if i do reengage again tmr, wouldn't she just end up ignoring me like she just did?
I can see the push but not the pull. Generally, you're not going to score any points from a woman if you are comparing her to the other women that you're currently talking to. Especially if they are the women you have been talking to in the last hour.

She just may ignore you tomorrow. That's part of the game when you make a comment that women don't want to hear. I forgot that you said she was at your school. You can also wait until you see her in person to reengage...she'll probably be more open to restarting a convo.
Author:  NewbieCasanova [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 4:26 am ]
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You pretty much did a good job except for you told her about the 100 girls you approached. I get that you were trying to give her a compliment, but at the same time you didn't allow her to feel special about the compliment. Instead you made it sound like you are a guy that just approaches girls and she was just one of them in your path.

Reengage tomorrow and act like you never made that comment. Just ask for her to meet you at lunch.
Im like blushing right now, you just said i did good haha.
The 100 girls thing, wasn't that a little of of the push and pull technique?

And also she hasn't replied to me since like 5 PM. So if i do reengage again tmr, wouldn't she just end up ignoring me like she just did?
I can see the push but not the pull. Generally, you're not going to score any points from a woman if you are comparing her to the other women that you're currently talking to. Especially if they are the women you have been talking to in the last hour.

She just may ignore you tomorrow. That's part of the game when you make a comment that women don't want to hear. I forgot that you said she was at your school. You can also wait until you see her in person to reengage...she'll probably be more open to restarting a convo.

If i pushed too much, isn't it easier to recover than if i were to pull too much?
So if i apologized, and said something along the lines of
"Hey, sorry if what i said was a little too far. But I would like to get to know you more. Why don't we go and hang out for [date/time] and get to know eachother?"

Or would that be too "beta" and not alpha? haha

Also, I am on winter break right now. So i wont be going back to school until like the next 2 weeks
Author:  JackZero [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 4:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
Don't approach it like you're recovering. Approach it like you are continuing from the time when you last saw her. Don't apologize because if you act as if you did something wrong, she's going to take it as you did something wrong.
Author:  Dragula [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 7:10 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
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Me "You're like the most interesting girl I've texted in the past hour xD"
Not read jack's response, but this is where you fucked up. Next time be normal and stop using game tactics when the girl was interested in you already.

Push/pull and negs are by far the most misunderstood "tactic" that has ended a lot of potentially amazing relationships.

I would really just say "just kidding Bla Bla" and continue.

Please be normal from this point, I beg you. Knowing jack, he has probably gave you identical advice wo that's means you got 2 people that have independently came to the same conclusion.
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 1:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
Agreed with Peb and Jack (without even reading their replies). Be human. "Let's grab a drink" usually works.
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Me "That like out of the 100 girls I approached today, Ur the most interestin"
Notice she did not reply to this.

She possibly took this to mean "out of the 100 girls I approached today, Ur the only one who replied."

For the best reactions, don't broadcast that you're approaching every girl with a pulse.
Author:  NewbieCasanova [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 4:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
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Agreed with Peb and Jack (without even reading their replies). Be human. "Let's grab a drink" usually works.
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Me "That like out of the 100 girls I approached today, Ur the most interestin"
Notice she did not reply to this.

She possibly took this to mean "out of the 100 girls I approached today, Ur the only one who replied."

For the best reactions, don't broadcast that you're approaching every girl with a pulse.
I've texted her saying that it was a joke and that i hope she didn't take it too hard. She didn't reply. So should i just approach her again in irl during lunch and go from there?
Author:  ChocolatePUA [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 4:28 pm ]
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Agreed with Peb and Jack (without even reading their replies). Be human. "Let's grab a drink" usually works.
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Me "That like out of the 100 girls I approached today, Ur the most interestin"
Notice she did not reply to this.

She possibly took this to mean "out of the 100 girls I approached today, Ur the only one who replied."

For the best reactions, don't broadcast that you're approaching every girl with a pulse.
I've texted her saying that it was a joke and that i hope she didn't take it too hard. She didn't reply. So should i just approach her again in irl during lunch and go from there?
You did NOT need to apologize!
Author:  NewbieCasanova [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 5:59 pm ]
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Agreed with Peb and Jack (without even reading their replies). Be human. "Let's grab a drink" usually works.

You did NOT need to apologize!
She replied and said
"Idek what you said"

Im shocked right now because Im like, so i was overanalyzing everything. When instead she just didn't understand my jokes -_-

Correct me if I am wrong, but it seems as if she isn't invested at all. So im stuck as of now. I dont know if i should just text her to go out on a date. Continue texting? or ask if she wants to talk over the phone
Author:  Dragula [ Thu Dec 24, 2015 6:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
Ask her out.

If she says yes, she like you if you she makes excuses or ignores you then you get a true sign of interest

Or you can delete her number and fap at home
Author:  oceanx [ Fri Dec 25, 2015 4:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
Yep, u never know where things stand until you propose something. So propose something.
Author:  NewbieCasanova [ Fri Dec 25, 2015 10:02 pm ]
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Yep, u never know where things stand until you propose something. So propose something.
She's replying way to slow for me to start anything. It's like she's not even replying at all because of her low level of investment.
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From there she just stopped replying, I told her that the conversation was boring, so i'll just talk to her when i see her again, which is 1 week from now in school. Is there anyway I can still come back from this? She use to check out every single one of my snapchat stories. Now, she doesn't view them at all. I'm pretty sure she is trying to tell me something indirectly.

Anyway of coming back?
Please note this message was from yesterday and no replies
Author:  Dragula [ Fri Dec 25, 2015 10:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approached, grabbed number, didn't converse
Your responses are so needy, try to be more like her.
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