Thanks for the reply, man
If I made it sound as if I fail to own the fact that I'm a writer--and an erotic romance writer at that--that was my fault for not being clear. I absolutely own the fact that I'm a writer. That, of course, always leads to being asked what i write about, and then the big reveal.
Now, in a few cases, especially with online game, it organically leads towards sexual conversation, sexting, etc. More frequently, however, and especially in face-to-face encounters, it leads to an interesting, but thoroughly un-sexy conversation about the nuts-n-bolts of how I make my business work.
I believe the biggest problem here is that the subject of "what do you do" almost always comes up early in the conversation, when you're trying to build comfort and rapport; however, attempting to capitalize on my profession would be part of the sexualizing phase of the interaction, which comes later. I can't find a way to reconcile that.
It seems like such a damn goldmine (also a potential landmine), but I feel like it would be disconcerting to just launch into fabricated sexual dialogues shortly after meeting someone.
I could always just reinvent myself as an overtly sexual being from the start of the interaction and when I talk about my work, be like, "Why do you think I'm talking to you? I'm hoping to get some research done tonight?" Wink wink, nudge nudge.
Actually..... that's not a terrible idea.... hahaha
