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Author:  GeorgeK36 [ Tue Feb 24, 2015 11:01 pm ]
Post subject:  How to start a convo through text
So I've known this girl for a while. She's a friend of a friend. We had hung out in a group a few times when I got her number a few weeks ago. I texted her and it seemed fine. We texted back and forth making plans that ended up not happening. Now it's been like 2 weeks since we last texted but we've hung out in a group a couple times. Where do I go from here?
Author:  WillEdward [ Wed Feb 25, 2015 3:37 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to start a convo through text
2 weeks is a good time frame to send a ping text to restart the conversation. If you gave her a nickname you can send something like, "Hey (nickname)- how are you ?" or have a question that refers back to a previous funny or interesting thread and start from there.
Author:  GeorgeK36 [ Wed Feb 25, 2015 4:27 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to start a convo through text
Thanks for the advice willedward. I keep bumping into another problem. We'll be making plans to hang out and she'll make it seem like she's super down then at the end she'll be like "OK cool I'll let you know" this has happened to me with multiple girls. What would you recommend to get them to finalize the plans instead of just saying that. Also when a girl says that how should I respond?
Author:  TaurusManUK [ Wed Feb 25, 2015 7:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to start a convo through text
[quote="GeorgeK36"]Thanks for the advice willedward. I keep bumping into another problem. We'll be making plans to hang out and she'll make it seem like she's super down then at the end she'll be like "OK cool I'll let you know" this has happened to me with multiple girls. What would you recommend to get them to finalize the plans instead of just saying that. Also w

The problem is you are not taking the lead and letting her decide more than she should. Be more specific about the time and place and say things like "Lets do this [specific plan]". If the answer is "I'll let you know", its not ON and you need build more rapport before you ask again without sounding needy.
Author:  Black Phantom [ Thu Feb 26, 2015 12:07 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to start a convo through text
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Thanks for the advice willedward. I keep bumping into another problem. We'll be making plans to hang out and she'll make it seem like she's super down then at the end she'll be like "OK cool I'll let you know" this has happened to me with multiple girls. What would you recommend to get them to finalize the plans instead of just saying that. Also when a girl says that how should I respond?
The way it sounds is that you are the one chasing, and she is the one being chased.

This is a position you definitely DO NOT want to put yourself in, just because you don't.

So instead, you want to flip the script and kill any sign that you are trying to get on with her or take
her out.

The best way to do this is instead of making "plans" and make this seem like you're taking her
out on a date, INVITE her to come with you somewhere.

For example, let's say you need to buy a shirt, you can say to her, "Hey tomorrow I'm going to buy
a shirt...I would love a female opinion, want to join?"

And if she says "I'll let you know", then say "Well if you're busy I'll manage..."

The purpose or the frame is that you'll be already doing something, so you don't NEED her.

Even better situation is to invite her to something, like a party, where other people are going as well, especially
if other women go with you.

So for example, "Hey me and 2 girl-friends of mine are going to this party, want to join us? "

But if that's not your thing, you can also use a technique called "The triangle".

It's kind of manipulative technique, but it's very effective.

What you basically do is you create an illusion that another woman or a group of women
is interested in you.

Women are weird. They want what they can't get, and when they get it they don't want it anymore.

The triangle is a very powerful technique, that virtually guarantees the girl will start chasing you.

So for example, start talking to her about other women that you're seeing. Tell her about a date you
had the other day with a girl who turned out to be kind of weird...

Talk about how some woman at the office left you a note on your desk, sprayed with perfume...and how
now it feels kind of weird talking with her and pretending nothing is happening.

But I would recommend, that instead of lying, you actually GO OUT and meet new women, and THEN tell
her about it. You'll be more authentic and the whole thing will probably feel less weird for you.
Author:  GeorgeK36 [ Thu Feb 26, 2015 9:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to start a convo through text
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Even better situation is to invite her to something, like a party, where other people are going as well, especially
if other women go with you.
That's actually essentially what I did. I invited her to go snowboarding and one of her really good girl friends is coming. This was on Tuesday. Should I just drop it and hope she contacts me about it or should I text her again and check? She's the really shy/quiet type so it's just really hard to read her.
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Fri Feb 27, 2015 3:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to start a convo through text
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That's actually essentially what I did. I invited her to go snowboarding and one of her really good girl friends is coming. This was on Tuesday. Should I just drop it and hope she contacts me about it or should I text her again and check? She's the really shy/quiet type so it's just really hard to read her.
She doesn't sound invested in you enough to contact you, if you ask me. You take the lead... You make the plan ----- and be firm about the plan. We are doing X on X day at X time...
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