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Author:  psiconauta [ Thu Feb 19, 2015 4:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Seems like I can create attraction but not ... rapport!!?!?!
Seems like when I open girls its ok, they dont run away or see me as a creep . I aint fat or muscular but Im in shape. And I try my body language to be the best. What has worked for me a lot has been mixing eye contact with a soft-slow-flirty tone of voice (?) and girls let me touch them after few minutes (light kino, with strong eye contact)

Thing is I can get that , I even kissed a girl in just the 15 min of just meeting her but after that things go stale. Like I cant create rapport. I dont know how to talk at all? (funny because I thought it worked the other way around with me)

Any ideas on how to create rapport?
Author:  JSmooth [ Wed Feb 25, 2015 6:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Seems like I can create attraction but not ... rapport!!
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Seems like when I open girls its ok, they dont run away or see me as a creep . I aint fat or muscular but Im in shape. And I try my body language to be the best. What has worked for me a lot has been mixing eye contact with a soft-slow-flirty tone of voice (?) and girls let me touch them after few minutes (light kino, with strong eye contact)

Thing is I can get that , I even kissed a girl in just the 15 min of just meeting her but after that things go stale. Like I cant create rapport. I dont know how to talk at all? (funny because I thought it worked the other way around with me)

Any ideas on how to create rapport?
The easiest way to build rapport is to tell stories from your life that are true. Talk about interesting hobbies you might have. When in doubt start a new crazy hobby. Exaggerate a bit if you must but you better remember what you said and be able to prove you did it. I remember this one set I was talking about this first aid/disaster training I did and and embarrassing moment I had. I don't do a lot of self depricating humor but I was on a roll I guess.

Long story short I tucked my pants into my boots and had a thigh rig on and went to a knee like an hour into this winter training to assess a fake patient and had crotch ripped out of my pants, thank god for the white underamour cold gear keeping me warm in less than freezing weather for the rest of the 8 hour day. I was working in snow and ice with my pants ripped out all day long with my tighty whities showing. I was called "Kilt" from then after for obvious reasons. This girl from the set was like yeah bullshit that didn't happen being a shit tester, I bet her winner buys next round, and pulled out my phone for some pictures.

Tell stories from last week, something funny you did as a kid, about a time with your friends, just be interesting. If the story gets interrupted or someone joins the group don't go back to an old story (thread) unless someone asks you to, just start up a new one. Its not so much what you tell them, it is more in how you tell them the story, and making yourself easy to identify with. Where people can nod their head and go yeah I'd do the same thing, or my friend had that happen to them. Talking about life experiences and how you dealt with them or funny stories from your life makes you human and easy to identify with, then you aren't just Joe PUA from the bar. You are Joe PUA from the bar that one time wore a crotch ripped pants "The Kilt" in freezing weather....blah blah blah. You become memorable and that builds rapport.
Author:  Black Phantom [ Wed Feb 25, 2015 11:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Seems like I can create attraction but not ... rapport!!
In any interaction with women, you need to have 2 sides:

1) The playful where you create ATTRACTION

2) The SERIOUS where you create RAPPORT

Usually guys run away from serious conversation because they feel it's not cool enough. They want
to stay away from logical stuff.

But that's how you create rapport. With that old boring, logical conversation.

And the easiest way to do this is not to talk about yourself, but to ask questions and let her talk.

Girls LOVE to talk about themselves. Their dreams, hopes and aspirations. It's like their own personal
story of their life.

You might use what I call general questions, where you ask stuff like,

"So, what else do you do besides meeting handsome guys...?" or "So what do you do?"

And then just talk to her about her life.

A very cool trick if you want to make a conversation with a girl, is to just simply be CURIOUS about her.

If she tells you she studies law, be curious as to why law? Does she have some sort
of mission that she wants to accomplish with law, or did she go to law school just because her parents
wanted her to go there?

And when she tells you, then notice if you can draw some pararels with your life?

Maybe when she tells you about law, she also tells you that she went there because her parents
really wanted her to be a lawyer, and she wanted to make them happy.

Now maybe you don't study law yourself, but maybe you can RELATE back to her by telling her
about a situation where you did something just to please somebody else, but at the same you
really wanted to do something else.

You TELL her that story.

And that's how you'll connect. That's how you'll bond. That's how you'll establish a CONNECTION.

So the formula is ASK HER QUESTIONS + BE CURIOUS + RELATE BACK

Next time you're in a situation with a girl, ask her this question: "So, what do you do besides going out and
having fun?"

And have like a 3-5min normal conversation with her.

If, as she's talking, you feel you could relate back to her, tell her that story. If not, let her talk, and she'll ask
you questions herself.

Hope this helps,
Author:  WillEdward [ Wed Feb 25, 2015 11:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Seems like I can create attraction but not ... rapport!!
You build rapport by qualifying her and building commonalities. Ask her deeper questions about herself and get her emotionally invested. Everybody's favorite topic is themselves. Get them talking deep about themselves and you will know more about them then some of their closest friends and she will feel like she has known you for a while even though you have barely talked about yourself.
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