PUA Forum :: Talking about sex with girl during a cold approach

So, then why do relationships coaches such as Doc Love advise that you should never talk about sex, nudity and private bodily functions on a first date?

everyone is different, one person might feel like you are sexually harassing them while another might just find it weird in a funny way and enjoy how out of left field a question like that is coming from a stranger

I don't recommend asking strangers how often they masturbate, if you are going to try something bold I suggest you just start asking about their current dating life and boldly show some interest in being a part of that life without shame, try to just get them to come with you somewhere to talk further for a little date and maintain that you have interest but want to find out more and the sooner you guys go out for some personal time, the better

it also makes more sense to me that you would try to actually build some rapport with someone to get them more comfortable with you before coming at them with some topics that could make them slightly uncomfortable outside of a private situation with someone they trust

when a girl actually likes you as a person and finds you physically attractive, you will find that this sort of thing is fairly arbitrary and doesn't really help you all that much, you could get laid doing this, but I doubt doing this would be at the core for why, it would be more likely that the girl you met was just attracted to you and went along with it

just don't think of it like you actually have to do something to make a girl attracted to you, just pay attention and it should be fairly clear to you when someone is interested in getting to know you better

think of it more like a partnership, where both sides need to cooperate and participate

I know for myself personally, it is a big turn off when a woman is too forward, I have had a few older women be very very straight forward with me when I didn't know them well at all, it just made me feel really uncomfortable rather then turned on

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Well, yeah I would build some rapport first with the girl and then ask risky questions. Though, are u saying that after it built enough rapport a girl that I should ask questions like "do you have a boyfriend?"

OP, how old are you ?

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Author:	REG720 [ Sun Sep 28, 2014 6:49 am ]
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So, pick up artists such as Kenny have said that when cold approaching girls you dont need to be afraid of transitioning into talking about sex or sexual topics with a girl after you have talked to her for about a minute or so. If this is correct, then what if after building rapport with a girl for around a minute I asked something like, "So how many times a week do you masturbate?"

Author:	Mastermind9000 [ Sun Sep 28, 2014 7:21 am ]
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Could work. This is/was one of my sticking points. Lately I've been looking for something that the girl says that can be construed as sexual then saying "go on...". Then be genuinely curious and non-judgmental or encouraging about her being and talking about her sexuality. "You'll get no slut shaming from me. I like girls who like boys, 2-3 at a time!" And I mean it.

Author:	REG720 [ Mon Sep 29, 2014 6:39 pm ]
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I see. Okay thanks.

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Mon Sep 29, 2014 6:50 pm ]
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Depends on the girl, dude. If after a minute all you've covered is your names and what you do for a living, asking her if she'd like a dick up her ass might not go over well Use your best judgement and calibrate your dialog based on her reactions and body language to you.

Author:	REG720 [ Sat Oct 04, 2014 9:39 pm ]
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So, then why do relationships coaches such as Doc Love advise that you should never talk about sex, nudity and private bodily functions on a first date?

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Author:	Mastermind9000 [ Sat Oct 04, 2014 10:43 pm ]
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Quote: So, then why do relationships coaches such as Doc Love advise that you should never talk about sex, nudity and private bodily functions on a first date? Couldn't tell you, but plenty of people suggest you do.

Author:	pumpington [ Sat Oct 04, 2014 11:34 pm ]
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everyone is different, one person might feel like you are sexually harassing them while another might just find it weird in a funny way and enjoy how out of left field a question like that is coming from a stranger I don't recommend asking strangers how often they masturbate, if you are going to try something bold I suggest you just start asking about their current dating life and boldly show some interest in being a part of that life without shame, try to just get them to come with you somewhere to talk further for a little date and maintain that you have interest but want to find out more and the sooner you guys go out for some personal time, the better it also makes more sense to me that you would try to actually build some rapport with someone to get them more comfortable with you before coming at them with some topics that could make them slightly uncomfortable outside of a private situation with someone they trust when a girl actually likes you as a person and finds you physically attractive, you will find that this sort of thing is fairly arbitrary and doesn't really help you all that much, you could get laid doing this, but I doubt doing this would be at the core for why, it would be more likely that the girl you met was just attracted to you and went along with it just don't think of it like you actually have to do something to make a girl attracted to you, just pay attention and it should be fairly clear to you when someone is interested in getting to know you better think of it more like a partnership, where both sides need to cooperate and participate I know for myself personally, it is a big turn off when a woman is too forward, I have had a few older women be very very straight forward with me when I didn't know them well at all, it just made me feel really uncomfortable rather then turned on

Author:	REG720 [ Sun Oct 05, 2014 2:16 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Talking about sex with girl during a cold approach
Quote: everyone is different, one person might feel like you are sexually harassing them while another might just find it weird in a funny way and enjoy how out of left field a question like that is coming from a stranger I don't recommend asking strangers how often they masturbate, if you are going to try something bold I suggest you just start asking about their current dating life and boldly show some interest in being a part of that life without shame, try to just get them to come with you somewhere to talk further for a little date and maintain that you have interest but want to find out more and the sooner you guys go out for some personal time, the better it also makes more sense to me that you would try to actually build some rapport with someone to get them more comfortable with you before coming at them with some topics that could make them slightly uncomfortable outside of a private situation with someone they trust when a girl actually likes you as a person and finds you physically attractive, you will find that this sort of thing is fairly arbitrary and doesn't really help you all that much, you could get laid doing this, but I doubt doing this would be at the core for why, it would be more likely that the girl you met was just attracted to you and went along with it just don't think of it like you actually have to do something to make a girl attracted to you, just pay attention and it should be fairly clear to you when someone is interested in getting to know you better think of it more like a partnership, where both sides need to cooperate and participate I know for myself personally, it is a big turn off when a woman is too forward, I have had a few older women be very very straight forward with me when I didn't know them well at all, it just made me feel really uncomfortable rather then turned on Well, yeah I would build some rapport first with the girl and then ask risky questions. Though, are u saying that after it built enough rapport a girl that I should ask questions like "do you have a boyfriend?"

Author:	REG720 [ Sun Oct 05, 2014 7:01 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: everyone is different, one person might feel like you are sexually harassing them while another might just find it weird in a funny way and enjoy how out of left field a question like that is coming from a stranger I don't recommend asking strangers how often they masturbate, if you are going to try something bold I suggest you just start asking about their current dating life and boldly show some interest in being a part of that life without shame, try to just get them to come with you somewhere to talk further for a little date and maintain that you have interest but want to find out more and the sooner you guys go out for some personal time, the better it also makes more sense to me that you would try to actually build some rapport with someone to get them more comfortable with you before coming at them with some topics that could make them slightly uncomfortable outside of a private situation with someone they trust when a girl actually likes you as a person and finds you physically attractive, you will find that this sort of thing is fairly arbitrary and doesn't really help you all that much, you could get laid doing this, but I doubt doing this would be at the core for why, it would be more likely that the girl you met was just attracted to you and went along with it just don't think of it like you actually have to do something to make a girl attracted to you, just pay attention and it should be fairly clear to you when someone is interested in getting to know you better think of it more like a partnership, where both sides need to cooperate and participate I know for myself personally, it is a big turn off when a woman is too forward, I have had a few older women be very very straight forward with me when I didn't know them well at all, it just made me feel really uncomfortable rather then turned on Well, yeah I would build some rapport first with the girl and then ask risky questions. Though, are u saying that after it built enough rapport a girl that I should ask questions like "do you have a boyfriend?" OP, how old are you ? 26 going on 27. Why?

Author:	Herkules181 [ Sun Oct 05, 2014 11:06 am ]
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If you ask "how many times a week do you masturbate?" in a comedic completely hilarious way where she knows that youre making fun, can be great. if you think that its a pickup technique, a "pickup line" so to say, you can be happy not to get your ass kicked.

Author:	pumpington [ Sun Oct 05, 2014 5:42 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: everyone is different, one person might feel like you are sexually harassing them while another might just find it weird in a funny way and enjoy how out of left field a question like that is coming from a stranger I don't recommend asking strangers how often they masturbate, if you are going to try something bold I suggest you just start asking about their current dating life and boldly show some interest in being a part of that life without shame, try to just get them to come with you somewhere to talk further for a little date and maintain that you have interest but want to find out more and the sooner you guys go out for some personal time, the better it also makes more sense to me that you would try to actually build some rapport with someone to get them more comfortable with you before coming at them with some topics that could make them slightly uncomfortable outside of a private situation with someone they trust when a girl actually likes you as a person and finds you physically attractive, you will find that this sort of thing is fairly arbitrary and doesn't really help you all that much, you could get laid doing this, but I doubt doing this would be at the core for why, it would be more likely that the girl you met was just attracted to you and went along with it just don't think of it like you actually have to do something to make a girl attracted to you, just pay attention and it should be fairly clear to you when someone is interested in getting to know you better think of it more like a partnership, where both sides need to cooperate and participate I know for myself personally, it is a big turn off when a woman is too forward, I have had a few older women be very very straight forward with me when I didn't know them well at all, it just made me feel really uncomfortable rather then turned on Well, yeah I would build some rapport first with the girl and then ask risky questions. Though, are u saying that after it built enough rapport a girl that I should ask questions like "do you have a boyfriend?" That can be included with all your logistics. You can ask someone if they are single before much rapport because it makes your job easier and saves you some time. Logistically if she has a boyfriend or has some sort of reason to make up she has a boyfriend, it can make everything more complicated then it has to be.

Author:	wilyone [ Mon Oct 13, 2014 6:19 am ]
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How do you feel when women bring up topics like commitment and marriage really early in a relationship? Probably same as I feel when a guy starts making sexual comments in first meeting. Also FYI many of us really dislike getting unsolicited pics of your private parts. You assume that because you like it from us we like it from you. Not true at all. We are incredibly different. Your DNA is closer to a male chimp than a female human.

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