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Author:  username815 [ Sun May 11, 2014 6:50 pm ]
Post subject:  SPAM convo...came on too strong?
Hey

So yesterday I worked my last day at my old job and arranged to swap numbers to go on a kind of 'leaving do' with this girl who flirted and was friendly towards me. This I guess was a mistake because I should have just asked her out on a date. So I suppose I spent some of the SPAM convo trying to reframe it as a one on one date rather than a leaving do with other people there. Not good.

Anyway, she agreed to come out next sunday and this is how the rest of the convo went:

her - yessssss so keen for this man! it will be a sad experience though
me - haha, i beg to differ :D ... 7pm at the slug and lettuce (bar) next sunday, bring your dancing shoes >p
her - KEEN FOR THIS
me - Hope you have a good day at work, sorry I won't be there to stare down potential perverts :D xx (some guys were checking her out so she asked me to see if they were still looking)
her - gunna bring out my serious dance moves!!!
her - SO YESTERDAY WAS YOUR LAST SHIFT?
her - :o :o :o :o
me - yes, i'm pretty sure we talked about this (her full first name)
her - i thought it was today :o
her: i don't like it
her : we could have been besties
me: oh, thats cute :)
her: but no
her: you've abandoned ship
her: left a man down
me: i'm glad you realise how bad your life will be without me... would you feel better if i came in to hold your hand?

Question is, do you think that last one was too strong? Feels like i've mocked rather than teased. And also that i haven't kept it light so she can respond. She doesn't really know me all that well. I read about always escalating and i wanted to be alpha as she teased me. Any tips?
Author:  username815 [ Sun May 11, 2014 7:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: SPAM convo...came on too strong?
ok, update

she just text back

her: so sad now :o
her: yes please, i'm sure that would take the pain away

so i'd like to take any advice and tips on how to continue and not mess things up? i'm guessing some will say that i've already secured a night out with her so i'll only need to text her a few times in the week just to avoid appearing rude? but then i'm worried that i've framed it as a night out with other people and not a date? i've been an AFC for a while and am very new to pua. thanks
Author:  TheEntity [ Sun May 18, 2014 6:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: SPAM convo...came on too strong?
You seem to already have a good thing going, but however she does seem to be very chummy with you.

IMO you shouldn't talk to her until the day of your trip, or perhaps vaguely suggest to her that you will have another girl going- something to make her jealous? Women want what they cant have!

Or there is just the good ol' fashioned drink and dance routine, works well for me :D

Take care mate.
Author:  Dragula [ Sun May 18, 2014 7:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: SPAM convo...came on too strong?
No you are not too forward, but i AGREE WITH HIM^ she is very chummy.

SEND HER THIS TEXT FOR FUCK SAKE LOL:

"Hey would you be up for a drink with me? As long as you promise you will keep your hands to yourself? ;)"


My genius explanation to this question is that it requires a yes or no answer.

If she says "No" or anything else that isn't a 'yes' for example, "maybe" then she isn't interested.

If she says yes, then you may have a chance. It is still not over, the game hasn't begun yet. When you get her to meet you, you will need to flirt and turn on the charm some call it "game", make it quite obvious that you're HITTING on her. Pull the mother fucking trigger, escalate on her and go for the kiss at the very least.

THAT IS ALL.

P.s. Slug & lettuce is half price on Mondays, I am so good to you bro, no need to thank me.
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