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| Author: | Valdemar1 [ Fri Mar 14, 2014 2:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girl goes from on to off - but why!?!!?!?!?!?!?! |
Okay, so i try to make out with this girl, a couple of times, get turned down... at the last try she seems pretty pissed.. as she is about to leave, i go up and gets her number, counting on her to flake the next day, or maybe even give me a wrong number.. The next day i message her, and she seems pretty into me, im taken by surprise! she keeps the convo going by asking questions and all that. When i go for her facebook she even says "but what if i look like shit on facebook, then you are stucked.." which i guess shows she is interested in my opinion, and sees us as a potentially thing.. I write her some days later, cause i want to meet her when i am going out that weekend (last weekend) she seems into the whole meeting thing.. Getting closer to the weekend, she even asks me what time the party i am going to is, i ask her why, in the hopes that she is gonna answer she wants to meet me, but she just says "no reason".. anyway, we never meet, i asked her to write me later about where she was so we could meet up, but my friends didn't want to leave the party with me, so i tried to play it cool that night, hopefully that would turn her more on, and by this week i would have her where i wanted to.. i then wrote her the next morning heres the convo: Me: Im sorry i never made it yesterday, i hope you had a good night anyway! Her: haha its fine! i had a lot of fun! How about you, where were you? Me: Im glad! i was at a place called bugsy Her: Okay, i haven't heard of that me: yeah okay, well you are pretty new at going out (she has just gotten old enough to go drinking) Her: hahaha i guess you can say that Me: haha after that message i good no answer.. she saw my message though.. I sended her a snapchat which she answered to, and afterward i answered to hers, but then again no answer. My plan from here was to play it cool this week, not writing her or anything, and then when the next weekend come write something along the lines "Hey, i want to see you again! are you going out this weekend?" what do you guys think? |
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| Author: | hugge [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 8:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl goes from on to off - but why!?!!?!?!?!?!?! |
I think you are casing her, trying too hard. Let her contact you instead, and stop texting so much. Meet up IRL instead. |
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| Author: | Valdemar1 [ Wed Mar 19, 2014 5:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl goes from on to off - but why!?!!?!?!?!?!?! |
Quote: I think you are casing her, trying too hard. Let her contact you instead, and stop texting so much. Meet up IRL instead.
the thing is i want to have contact with her so she can feel comfort enough to wanna meet up with me!
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Wed Mar 19, 2014 8:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl goes from on to off - but why!?!!?!?!?!?!?! |
I think she's not interested, and you may be trying a little too hard. Back off a bit and go on some dates with other girls. |
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| Author: | Ruggedized [ Thu Mar 20, 2014 4:44 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl goes from on to off - but why!?!!?!?!?!?!?! |
Meeting her in real life is the key to this whole situation. How do you get her to meet you IRL? There's a couple of ways, but she may have moved on from you. Here's why: When you constantly initiate the conversation with her via text, she knows you're interested at some level. She also knows that every time she texts you, you'll be there to answer. Let me put this in perspective, because this is a really good point. I'm sure you have a hobby or an interest. Whenever you go to buy something for this interest, you think about how great it will be. When you actually go and get it, it's not so great anymore, and you may even become bored with it sooner than you thought. You have to be the toy that she can't have right now. She will want you, pursue you, and throw everything she has to get you if you become the object she can't have. The timing of texts sent and received has some level of importance (you want to text her back, taking at least as long as she waited to text you back. give her time to miss you and look at her phone in disappointment.) All that being said, RL tops text game any day of the week. Moving on- The goal is to get her to meet you IRL, so you've gotta spice it up a bit. Try setting up another meeting like this: You: So, I just watched a guy in a penguin suit get his ass kicked by a bum. How interesting is your day? (The story is just an example. Anything out of the ordinary will do fine) Her: blah blah blah You: Well, I thought you'd wanna hang out with me to see some more funny stuff go down. I've got a date on Wednesday, but I'm free for a couple hours on Thursday and Saturday. Which of those days work best for you? This establishes that you have a life, she's not the only girl you're interested in, you are controlling the situation, and spikes her jealousy if she's interested at all. Let me know how this works out for you. Best of Luck! |
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| Author: | Musterion [ Sat Mar 22, 2014 3:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl goes from on to off - but why!?!!?!?!?!?!?! |
Quote: I'm sorry i never made it yesterday, i hope you had a good night anyway!
Why are you apologising? You have nothing to apologise for!I'd have put "Have a good night?" short, sweet, to the point, gives her the opportunity to say something like "yeah it was amazing, you should have come!" and gives you an IOI. Quote: Im glad!
Why? Why does her having a good night without you make you glad?Quote: yeah okay, well you are pretty new at going out
Get rid of the "Yeah okay" it doesn't need to be there and kinda doesn't make sense.Quote: haha
You're now justifying FOR her and miss a perfect opportunity to bust her balls a bit.Quote: Hey, i want to see you again!
Lord no, this SCREAMS neediness.You are chasing her and it is very very clear, she needs to be given the chance to want to join YOUR life, not you fighting for the right to be a part of hers. I think you're trying too hard to get her to like you and not risking her not liking you in favour of trying to get her ATTRACTED to you. |
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