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Author:  transforming [ Wed Dec 18, 2013 12:46 pm ]
Post subject:  often fear that I will run out of things to say with a girl

When a girl is invited to my room, it can be my home or my hotel room, so just two of us. We talk, but I am often worrying, "What if I run out of things to say?" If I don't know what to say, then there will be silence, and silence is awkward. I also try to touch her, but I often find that I don't have a legitimate reason to touch her, my touching conveys that I have an agenda, I want her, it is not smooth, it is not natural. In order to avoid nothing to say, I will talk about work, but talking about work doesn't lead to sexual SPAM, talking about doesn't lead to intimacy. What can I do when a girl is invited to my room? Please help.

Author:  In$tinct [ Wed Dec 18, 2013 3:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: often fear that I will run out of things to say with a g

First of all. You don't have to ALWAYS say somthing. If the girl is interested it's actually pretty hard to shut her up. They just talk and talk and talk and I can not imagine a scenario that you can not relate to any of the things she says, crack up some at least moderately funny joke, or tease her about it.

Secondly, touching her is only awkward when you make it awkward. Just get used to touching people in general. Not just women, guys too. Small taps on the shoulder or the back can do fine as a start. You don't need excuses to touch others. If they call you out on it, you can say that you're like this, you're a touchy-feely kind of person, but I hardly ever had an experience like that even as a beginner. Once you're getting comfortable to touching people, it won't feel so awkward, in fact you will no longer even need to pay attention to that anymore. Escalation is really all about practise. As a guideline you can read the escalation ladder. That's the most famous and I find it generally effective, and a fine start too.

Some important things to note when you're trying to escalate:
-If you don't look at where you're touching, it makes it seem more natural
-You shouldn't think twice about touching. Thinking about it can in fact make it look awkward. It's going to impossible for a start not to think about it, but try paying it less attention and just adapting it.
-Though I'm quite against routines, some of them proove to be great excuses to touch your target. If you don't "feel it", you can try some to start getting you comfortable with this touching thing.

Good Luck!
Peace,

In$tinct.

Author:  slutty22 [ Wed Dec 18, 2013 3:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: often fear that I will run out of things to say with a g

I do the hand slap game...palms to palms then try to slap the back of their hand or palm reading but make it funny or quircky, they love that shit, that gets it started then kino kino kino.

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