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| Author: | BullRose_23 [ Tue Nov 26, 2013 10:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I CANT get this woman on a second date (help ASAP) |
So Ive been talking to this girl for maybe 3 weeks now.. I met her off of POF, and last week on Tuesday I went on one date with her to a restaurant and then dropped her off.. Since then she text me 24/7 and sends a good amount of pictures, and generally we enjoy talking to each other… Now here's where the issue is Its impossible to get a second date with her.. Also its a weird situation, we're both in are 20's but still live with family while in school. According to her, her mother doesn't like having people over, not even her girlfriends ( which is a real stretch but it could maybe be true) So that means the only option is actually go somewhere with her, which is lame as fuck. since the options are so limited. Like on the first date, it was like "okay dinner is done now what" and since there wasn't much else to do in the area it was me taking her back to her place and talking with her in my car for 15mins before she went back in So after that first date, I thought things went well, I mean we've been talking everyday and it seemed good, but when I go to set up the second date its always an excuse.. Like I asked her last friday if she wanted to hang out, I needed to know because my buddys asked me out.. I said "hey wanna hang out if not Im going by my buddys" She said " go have fun with your friends Im not sure what time Ill be free tonight" Then I talk to her later and she's like " yeah I made it back home and my girl is coming over to hang out" Its like alright I thought u weren't free Then she'll do all this stuff with her girls but never has time to hang out.. doesn't add up And then today since she's got the place to herself until wed… I asked if she wanted to do a hw date since she was swamped with hw and I had stuff to do.. She said she wasn't sure if she would get her work done with hanging out, then I said don't worry about it, I have a ton of hw to do too.. The she replies with, actually I don't feel to well, I feel nauseous.. So I haven't texted back yet… Its getting annoying though.. Like okay you wanna talk 24/7 and send pictures and bullshit but not hang Now I listen to a lot of Tariq Nasheed and he always says " Women will ALWAYS find a way to make time for a dude they're interested in" which I believe is true.. Tariq also says that texting don't really mean shit, Women will text non stop and it doesn't mean a damn thing.. Also its not like she's been swamped.. she's been hanging with her gf's a lot.. So what should I do, I don't wanna complain and seem desperate, but I don't wanna text/talk 24/7 if its not gonna lead to anything.. |
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| Author: | goundy [ Wed Nov 27, 2013 3:34 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I CANT get this woman on a second date (help ASAP) |
she sounds like a pain dude; drop her. It might seem like theres little thing you can do to coax a girl with your 'game skilzzz' but in reality theres always going to be a certain percentage of chicks you meet who are just completley not up for sex and are just irritating to make plans with. If what you say is true, then I think she might be one of those chicks. BUT What you can ask yourself is on the day 2 -were you escalating physically? Did you amp up the sexual tension? -Did you try and pull? If logistics were bad did you try and secure the 3rd date by telling her you like her and why you like her. This is so massive! -Did you properly prime her for the day 3? Instead of saying lets hang out, did you say, lets do this at this time? -Did you pull her to multiple locations to make her more familiar with you? |
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| Author: | RiRi [ Wed Nov 27, 2013 5:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I CANT get this woman on a second date (help ASAP) |
Actions trump words, that’s it. If the first date was amazing for her, she would be trying to hang out. Let’s say she was actually busy…don’t you think she’d give you an alternative date to consider? Whatever the situation is, she is not reciprocating your actions and/or desire to hang out. Where you might want to look is where you might have messed up. Anything come to mind? It’s always subjective when assessing a date. So when us guys think it went great, yet we get no texts or follow-ups, then that means we are missing out on the signs. It’s part of our job to navigate the shitty female forest of illogical behavior…unfortunately pubes aren’t our only enemy. |
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| Author: | HSP [ Fri Nov 29, 2013 5:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I CANT get this woman on a second date (help ASAP) |
We need to hear more about how your first date went to give you a little more. Why did you ask to work on homework together? that doesn't sound like fun. You might need to find better ideas when you hangout. There has to be something you two can go out and do together, look some place up and get creative. She just told you to be with your friends, she didn't specifically say that she was busy. Say let's go hang out, she would have the choice of yes or no. Instead she may have used her holding you back from your friends as an excuse to not go out. |
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| Author: | BullRose_23 [ Sat Nov 30, 2013 5:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I CANT get this woman on a second date (help ASAP) |
I'll add on and explain a few more things too.. Before we met for the first date, she took all her pics off of POF & she told me she doesn't really like it on there anymore.. I figured she was doing that to show me she liked me or some shit> sorta like "fuck this site, I like who I'm talking to".. lol We'll after the first date she refilled the profile and now has brand new pics up.. So yeah, so much for that.. lol The first date was basically, me picking her up on a Tuesday, going to an Applebee's type of restaurant & then dropping her back off at her place.. The problem is we both still live at home, allegedly her mom gets weird when she brings guys home-so kicking it at her place is a no-no... Then I live with my family too, but have no problem bringing her back.. I live about 35 mins from the city, So basically the options on things to do are very limited.. Unless you go to a movie or bar there isn't much.. I offered to go shoot pool, she declined We ended up talking for about 15mins in the car & ended with a hug.. (Side note-- anytime I've ended a date with a kiss/make out, it usually didn't do any good for the future--weird but true) She texted me that same night and it was positive... In fact it still is positive, she text me when she first wakes up, on her work breaks, before bed... All that.. But when it comes down to hanging out, she's doing this and doing that.... Yet she has time to hang with her girls.. I called her out last night and it didn't really go anywhere.. I feel like I'm rambling but I hope I answered everyone |
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| Author: | HSP [ Sat Nov 30, 2013 6:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I CANT get this woman on a second date (help ASAP) |
Try push/pull Ignore some of her texts Build some attraction Would you go out with someone who you are only kind of into? Sounded like you did not kino enough. If you did you could have kissed her in the car no problem. That should never be a bad thing. If you ruin it by being awkward the next time you see a girl, learn to fix it. Personally I would act like it never happened, until the moment comes, then you can skip straight to the kiss again possibly further. Any of this apply to your situation? |
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| Author: | bamthebomb [ Sat Nov 30, 2013 7:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I CANT get this woman on a second date (help ASAP) |
Quote: Try push/pull
Do that!Ignore some of her texts Build some attraction How to build some attraction? simple, all girls develop huge ego, that's why LMR exists. All you have to do is challange her. Tell her something like this: "if you want to kiss me you should ask first' or "you are such a boring girl, you don't have taste for adventure" or "stay away from me, i'm toxic and you can't handle me" or "you're a good girl gone bad(or you can say bad girl), stay away from me i don't want to become more like you"... Remember to smile, don't take it serious, play with her head first so she dosen't get offended... here is something i used a few times and worked (even over text) I like you, you are so calm and obedient.... on a second thought... you should stay away from me, i'm toxic. I don't you can handle me If you say something like that you challange her, her ego needs to demonstrate that she can handle you, she is not boring, she is crazy and she likes to have fun and go nuts. If she asks you something and you don't want to answer or she's making you to take a shit test tell her this "That was mean, for that i will call you Minnie Mouse" or you can take Mystery's words "I don't know, i didn't get a manual of how to be human when i was born" |
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